God’s will - he speaks alot of God’s will and yet he is not living it. He demands things he isn’t doing himself, and yet he is to be the leader of the home. SOme will say if the wife does her job it makes it easier for the man, but in your situation…that’s a cop out!

God removed you from his presense for a reason, and it wasn’t to tell you that you are out of God’s will if you divorce him - as you live with peace. That is your husband’s recording he plays to keep you where he wants you to be.

The man clearly hasn’t repented and turned from his sin. THAT is God’s will for HIM! He doesn’t need your help at this point, because he hasn’t made the decision to make the first step himself. God can’t change him unless he made the decision to allow that. Getting himself a girlfriend, and telling you that you better not divorce him isn’t a really good crediable source of repentance!

If you feel that divorce is needed at this point in your life - pray and allow God NOT your husband to tell you what his will for you is. It truly doesn’t matter what your husband thinks at this point, because he is truly broken soul that hasn’t got a grip on reality yet. Its like asking a blind man, “What color is this?”

Your husband has alot of repentance to live up to before he can start being any kind of leader of the home. YOu don’t do the things you wrote, and not fall on your knees and NOT ask your wife’s forgivness for them. I’m not talking the teary eyed stuff to get you to come home - I’m talking the geniune deal! God broke him, and showed him is sins…and he asked God’s forgiveness and turned from that lifestyle forever. He would do that if you were the worse kind of person anyone could imagine, and he would receive nothing in return for this if he were a true man of God. He would be doing that for God, and NOT for you FIRST!

God told you to leave, and God will answer this question as well! Don’t move on to the next aspect to quick! Deal with the here and now!