Anonymous writes:

Hi. I’m new to this site, I came across while searching the web for scripture. It seems like a miracle, because just minutes ago I was praying for someone to talk about my problem.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. He is so amazing, a Christian, our relationship is wonderful. We rarely fight and we respect each other and share in our love of the Lord. We planned to get married after college.

However, I’ve been struggling recently. Three nights in a row I’ve had the same dream about my ex-boyfriend, and I wake up feeling like I’m in love with him. As the day goes on I realize it was just what I was feeling in my dream, but it’s made me question my relationship with my current boyfriend. I don’t feel special to him anymore, and often I feel like I’ve been given the backseat to his new friends here at college. I don’t know if my feelings and dreams are the devil playing with my head or God trying to tell me it’s time to end my current relationship. I’ve been praying over this, but I still feel depressed and confused. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. God bless.

Saved By Faith responds:

The enemy is very cunning and deceitful and will come at you every way possible. He knows your ties with the Lord are strong and that you and your boyfriend are both committed to God’s work… so the enemy attacks at your weakest… while you sleep. He is using your recent feelings about your relationship against you.

“The enemy boasted, ‘I will pursue, I will overtake them. I will divide the spoils; I will gorge myself on them. I will draw my sword and my hand will destroy them.’ Exodus 15:9

Don’t take heed to his distractions. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (James 4:7) You said you don’t feel special to your boyfriend anymore. You said you feel like you’ve taken the backseat to his new friends… have you spoken to him about this? Relationships flourish with communication. Speak with your boyfriend. Be honest with him; let him know how you’ve been feeling lately. It could be something that he did unintentionally and didn’t notice. But the only way you’ll know is by talking with him. The bible says ‘the tongue has the power of life and death’ (Proverbs 18:21). NOT talking about something is just as harmful as hateful words.

2 Corinthians 6:7
in truthful speech and in the power of God; with weapons of righteousness in the right hand and in the left;

Relationships go through different avenues at times. As long as you keep the avenue of communication open, you will both be able to brave the journey successfully, together. Continue to pray for peace of mind. Also pray for the words to speak with your boyfriend, to conquer this obstacle in your relationship.

I will be praying for you.

Your sister,

Saved By Faith

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