A Friend Wrote…

So i am twenty years old and married for four months. We are pregnant with our first child. But since we have been married we have not been able to live alone. If its not my family its his and i have to big of a heart to send anyone away. My cousin has a baby and is only sixteen her mom is in jail and she has been in and out of foster care her whole life. My husbands sister got kicked out of her house and also has a baby and has no where to go. I live off of a small income and my husband has been having trouble finding work. If i do right by my new familys needs and clear everyone out am i being selfish. I realy dnt know wat to do but realy need to provide a good home for my baby. Please pray for me and give me some guidence on wat to do.
Sencerly mommy and baby on the way

Saved By Faith… responds

I’d like to begin by congratulating you and your husband on the blessings of a child!! Family is one of the biggest blessings in a marriage, and a new addition is proof of this…

Genesis 33:5; 49:25
Psalms 113:9; 127:3-5; 128:3
Proverbs 17:6
Luke 1:42
1 Timothy 5:14

In regards to your cousin and sister-in-law… Being a household that others rely on can bear a heavy burden. In a sense, you have 4 other people you are responsible for, aside from you, your husband & your unborn child. Considering both of these young women (as they aren’t children due to their decision to become mothers) have a responsibility towards their children, they should take steps towards providing for them accordingly.

Your first priority is your family, and if you can’t provide well enough for you, your husband & child, how does anyone expect you to help them?

1 Timothy 5:8
If anyone does not care for his own relatives, especially his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Even at sixteen, your cousin is considered an emancipated adult and can seek state assistance in food and housing. Encourage them to begin seeking other arrangements.

You’re at the beginning and vital stages of your marriage. You’re building the foundation of your marriage, and this is a time where the two of you need intimate time together and that’s being hindered by others in the house. You need each other right now. In the United States, roughly 20% of first marriages end within the first 5 years. This time is detrimental to your relationship!! Take this time to build a strong foundation for a lifetime partnership. The long-term success of your marriage heavily depends on how well you and your husband make the adjustment during the first five years.

Don’t feel guilty about wanting to put your family first!! This is an important time in your lives, especially with a baby on the way. You don’t need the added stress.

I will pray that the Lord gives you the loving words you need to speak to them. I pray that they both find resolution and are able to provide for their family as you are trying to provide for yours.

Please keep us posted.

With Love,

Saved By Faith

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