I Have a Horrible Addiction to Pornography & Masturbation
Anonymous said… God bless you!!! I just found this site & I thank God I did because i really need help from a female while staying anonymous because im just so embarrassed and ashamed!! :( I am a young female and i have a horrible addiction to pornography & masturbation and no matter how much i pray or try to stay away from this temptation i continue to fall. It’s horrible and i know that it hurts the Lord when i do it and its also having bad affects on my self-esteem & self-worth. It gives me feelings of worthlessness, guilt, & shame. And it’s also affecting my relationship with a good friend of mines because every time i fall i take out my frustration on him. This problem is horrible because i know its wrong but i cant stop. if theres any scriptures, words of encouragement, or advice please help i would REALLY appreciate it since i feel like im the only female who suffers from this… ::::Thanks::::
Trophy of Grace Replies..
 My Dear Sister,
You are not the only one going through this. They are many others that go through this also. I too have battled with both of these addictions. I overcome these temptations by reminding myself that my body is the temple of God and that I do not want to defile it. The battle is really in our minds. We have to bring every thought under submission to the Word of God. As soon as the thoughts attack my mind I out loud rebuke them in the name of Jesus because I donât want to fall into sin. I know that if I begin to listen to the perverted thoughts that try to tempt me that I will act on those thoughts. Instead, I choose to walk in the Spirit and practice self-control.
 The more I read the Word, the more my mind becomes renewed. You have to get into the Word of God. Allow it to renew and change the way you think. You will see that the more you put in the Word of God, the more your desires will change and line up with His will for your life.
When I first realized that this sin had a stronghold on me, I felt the same way you do, but I did not give up. I know that you wonât either or else you would not be writing us. You can overcome this. I promise you if you will submit yourself daily to the Lord, you can defeat this demonic attack. I just read an article from www.bible.com that is perfect for what you are going through. I know that it is long but PLEASE read it. I am sure that you will find it helpful.
And to our other readers..if you are battling this same problem or have at one time. Please leave a comment for this sister to see. It can be anonymous..I just want her to see that she is not alone. Tell us what did or are doing to overcome this temptation. Here is the article-
WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT… MASTURBATION?
 “What does the Bible say about masturbation?” is one of our most frequently asked questions. Many Christians have found it difficult to answer this question according to the Bible, because the Bible never mentions masturbation specifically. To understand how God feels about this subject, we must examine other verses that deal with issues such as lust, self-control and purity. Also, we must examine its fruit to see if it is from God. We have tried to address this issue by answering some of the most frequently asked questions. Our prayer is that God will use this page to bring freedom and deliverance. “Does God care about what we do in the privacy of our bedrooms?” Sex is God’s invention. He is the mastermind behind itâand His creation is worth far more to Him than it is to us. This beautiful expression of love was created out of His own heart, as a gift to be experienced between a husband and wife. It is only in marriage that this manifestation of intimacy can be fully enjoyed in the depth for which it was created.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral” (Hebrews 13:4, NIV). “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4, KJV).
The more beautiful and unique something is (like sexual intercourse), the more power it holds over our lives, either for good or bad influence. That is why it is so easy for the devil to corrupt the most precious of God’s gifts. When we become more in love with the gifts than the One who endowed them, the things that were designed to bless us begin to destroy us instead. Yes, God cares about what we do with our bodies, in public or in private. He doesn’t want us to abuse ourselves in any way. In fact, an older definition of masturbation is “self-abuse.” Although more modern dictionaries may no longer carry this definition, they are still linked together under self-abuse: Self-abuse nounÂč 1. Abuse of oneself or one’s abilities. 2. Masturbation. 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV) further confirms this, saying that unlawful sexual relations defile our own bodies.
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” “Isn’t it still better to masturbate than to commit fornication?”
The easy answer to this question would be, “Yes, it is better to masturbate, because at best it corrupts only one person. It certainly is the lesser of two evils.” However, why would a loving, holy, all-powerful God abandon you to a situation in which you have to choose any evil, whether it be “lesser” or “greater?” To really answer this question, we must again go back to God’s original plan for sex. First of all, masturbation will not truly relieve the sexual pressure that one may feel. It may for a short moment, but in the long run it only creates a deeper desire and capacity for sex, which will lead to more masturbation. If you let yourself become enslaved to a sexual high, you will find that you need to go to increasingly extreme acts to maintain the same degree of excitement. There are even ungodly sex therapists who recommend masturbation as a way of increasing sexual desire, not lessening it. This creates a vicious circle, like the junkie who craves a “fix,” but is only temporarily satisfied. The more he indulges in his dependency, the more ensnared by addiction he becomes. This is the nature of all sin. That is why Jesus declared that all who sin become a slave to sin (John 8:34). Furthermore, masturbation usually involves fantasy, visualization, and often pornography. The Bible is very clear as to what God expects of us in these areas of fantasy and lust. It teaches that we must not look lustfully at each other nor should we behave in such a manner as to entice others to lust after us.
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust upon a girl. I know full well that the Almighty God sends calamity on those who do” (Job 31:1-3, The Living Bible). “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28).
While the above verses refer to men lusting after women, all women know that it can very easily be reversed to apply to themselves as well. Men may be more easily visually stimulated than women, but women can be just as vulnerable to sexual fantasy in the emotional realm. Both are sin in God’s eyes , and both can be brought into subjection by controlling our thoughts through Christ’s power. All sexual immorality begins with a thought. A lustful thought not taken captive, will eventually lead to other perversions, because sin reproduces itself in increasingly greater measures. If we do not deal with our evil thoughts, they will take root in our hearts. It is for this reason that God is so concerned with our thought life. Jesus came not only to deliver us from our “outward” sins, but also from wickedness that begins in the heart.
“Isn’t God unreasonable to demand sexual purity after giving us sexual drives that seem to overwhelm us at times?”
Our loving God never demands from us what is impossible for us to do. We are so weak within ourselves that it may seem impossible, but He will equip us with His holy power to overcome any sin, if we ask in faith. Of course, sexual urges in and of themselves are not wicked. They are natural. God created us that way. He desires that we get optimum pleasure out of them by using them the way they were created to be used. However, many desires for physical gratification (whether it be food, sex, etc.) stem from a deeper need that is unfilled deep inside us. Gorging our flesh can never fill a hunger that grows out of our spirit. Only intimacy with God can fill the deepest needs inside of us. No other created thing has that power. God is no more unreasonable than any caring parent who lovingly disciplines their child. It is only because He knows what is best for us. He sees a mighty potential in each one of us that far supersedes our wildest dreams, and He loves us enough to do all He can to bring it to pass.
“I agree with all the theory, but living it out on a day to day level is another story.”
This is the place where we need the empowerment of the Holy Spirit in our everyday lives. The Holy Spirit is not a vague “force,” but the very power of God to comfort you and strengthen you against the sins that used to rule you before you were born again. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we have the very ability that Jesus had to resist temptation. He depended completely upon the Father and so must we. Something you must know is that God is not the one who is tempting you in this area to “test” you. God is on your side and wants to set you free from these things, not lead you into them!
“When tempted, no one should say “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed” (James 1:13-14).
God wants us to overcome every sin and temptation in our lives. Please slowly read the following verses and let their message seep deep inside your spirit.
“No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it” (1 Corinthians 10:13). “For though we live in the world we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:3-5). “In the same way count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness. For sin shall not be your master for you are not under law but under grace” (Romans 6:11-14). “For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.” (Hebrews 4:15-16, King James Version). “Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God” (2 Corinthians 7:1). “Can I really be set free?” “In (this) freedom, Christ has made us freeâcompletely liberated us; stand fast then, and do not be hampered and held ensnared and submit again to a yoke of slaveryâwhich you have once put off ” (Galatians 5:1 Amp).
If you are in a real struggle with any form of sexual sin, we do not believe it was by accident that God led you to this teaching. He wants to set you free, starting right now! We would like to share several things that you can do to break loose from this stronghold:
1. Confess this sin first to God, then go to a committed Christian you trust, such as your pastor. Ask God to lead you to someone that you can be accountable with, who will be faithful to pray with you and for you. This will take humility on your part, but it will lead to life. James 5:16 says: “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” (You may not feel “righteous” but if you have admitted your sin to God and received His forgiveness, you are! That means your prayers are powerful and effective!)
 2. Flee from and reject anything that aggravates this sin. For example, you may need to get off the Internet for a season or purchase software that blocks out pornography. This may sound too drastic, but it certainly is mild compared to Jesus who said, “If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body, than for your whole body to go into Hell” (Matthew 5:30). His point was that we must be willing to part with anything that causes us to sinâeven if it hurts temporarily.
3. You may need to seek healing and deliverance from qualified Christians who are anointed in this area of ministry. If you have been deeply involved in sexual sins, the devil probably has a stronghold in that area of your life. If you can, find some people who can help you stand against the devil, for he is the one who seeks to lead you into temptation, and whispers lies of hopelessness and shame into your ears. If he drops a filthy thought into your mind just when you are trying to pray (he has used this tactic on even the holiest saints of God), tell him to leave in the name of Jesus! Recognize his voice for what it is, and submit yourself to God. As you do this and resist the devil, he will flee from you! He is deathly afraid of those who are submitted to God in brokenness and humility.
4. Don’t give up! Deliverance might take time. Self-control takes effort. You may slip occasionallyâor even a lot. But remember that God loves you and He will be faithful to perfect His character in you as long you keep submitting to Him. Eventually you will winâand not because of your best efforts, but because of God’s mercy (Titus 3:5). Just as salvation is received in faith, so deliverance must be received in faith. This has nothing to do with our character, strength, or failings. The only thing it is dependant upon is you receiving it in humility. If you should fail, recognize it quickly, ask God to forgive youâand then receive His forgiveness! He is faithful to do that which He promised, not just in a select few mighty men and women of God, but in all who ar e willing to come humbly before Him. That includes you!
We want to encourage you to hold on to this scripture as your anchor:
“May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul, and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. The one who calls you is faithful and He will do it” (1 Thessalonians 5:23-24).
If there is anything else we can do to help you, please let us know. In closing, we would like to pray for you:
“Father, we thank you for bringing this person into our website. We know that it was your Holy Spirit that led them here and we thank you for your faithfulness to them! We lift them up to you now and ask that You fill them with a desire for You that transcends every other desire they have ever known. Let them know your cleansing love and power. We thank you that he whom the Son has set free, is free indeed. We speak this freedom into the life of this one whom the devil has bound in shame. We speak healing and deliverance and we break every tie that has kept them under a spirit of addiction and perversion. We stand against the Evil One and his every plan to bring destruction in this one’s life. Father, in faith, and by the power and authority You have given us, we declare that this one is FREE in the name of Jesus! We commit them to Your care and we loose Your Holy Spirit to minister to them at this very instant. We ask these things in the precious name of Your son, Jesus Christ.”
Thank you so much…I really feel much better!!! And I thak you for the prayer, it really helped out :) I thank God that i found this site and I know that I have to take it day by day and just ask the Holy spirit to help me daily. Thank you for the article it has a lot of good information and I really did feel so much better knowing that you also had to battle this so i know you understand.
Continue doing the Lord’s work and pressing forward cause there will be many rewards in heaven for you. :) God bless…
Thanks for responding back. It always encourages us when we get replies to our answers.
I just want to make it clear to you and remind you that you are not the only one who goes through. Many have overcome this addiction and others trusting and relying on the Lord for help. It is in our weakness that He makes us strong. But you have to rely on His Word. The Word is the sword the tears down strongholds. It has power to overcome anything. But your sword is no good if it is just sitting in it’s sheath. Pull it out!! Then no weapon formed against you will prosper.
God bless you sister..
dear anonymous. i just wanted to say that your definately not alone. it takes great courage to write this, but i must. i too have been going through the same problems. for more than four years. however i have been able to resist these urges since the start of this year. this may sem like a liitle accomplishment to some but for me its not. i cant explain how good i have been feeling, the temptations do come but i immediately cast every evil thought out of my mind. i know that its only because of God. like me you need to remember that you cant do this alone. all the advice given to you by trophy of grace will definately help you to live an abundantly clean, spirit filled, guilt free christian life. which the devil does not want. continue the good fight of faith and know that Jesus loves you despite whatever u have done. your deeds dont make you earn his love! he loves you UNCONDITIONALLY
Anonymous thank you so much for your comment. It was very encouraging as well as courageous. So many people battle this secret sin and they think that they are all alone.
Keep relying on the power of the Holy Spirit to keep you strong and determined to be more than a conqueror. May our Lord continue the good work that He has started in you.
God bless..
I have been following the advice giving to me and thank God that I have been improving with the help of His Holy spirit. I feel so much better ad liberated. I also have been freed from the shame that I have begun testifying and speaking to other females about this. I no longer feel as if I am the only one whos been through this.
God is SO good because He put woman in my path who understand and do not judge me.I finally got the courage to tell someone about this and they have helped me to pray and fast and I found out that they to have been through it 2!!!
I want to thank you ladies SO much for your help…
ANd AMEN thank you for the response Trophy of Grace for the Lord has told me about the sword He has given me and how I have not been using it to fight…this has been told to me twice by the layig of hands from 2 different preachers so I completley understand what u mean…:)
Thank u 2 the anonymous writer because that helped as well.
May the Lord continue blessing you and your family.
I pray that He may expand your territory, give you strength to continue walking in His perfect will and that you may continue increasing in His wisdom and knowledge.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. (Galatians 6:9)
And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.(2 Corinthians 9:8)
Oh and since I’m not ashamed any more. My name is Deborah…God bless :)
O my sweet Deborah..Your determination and faith have encouraged me this morning. I am so happy that you are using the Word of God to defeat this enemy. You are more than a conqueror and my certainly the Holy Spirit that lives in you is more powerful than any demon, spirit, or principality that will come against you.
Continue to fight and you will when this battle, because Jesus already won the war. You just have to continue to know that you are not a weak victim to this problem, you are a soldier of the Almighty under attack. The enemy wants to keep you burdened and ashamed so that you can not be a useful weapon in the army of God.
Glory to our Lord for his Word and Holy Spirit that lead is into the Truth and Freedom that Jesus died to give us. Go and sin no more, live your life abuduntly in Christ Jesus.
I love you sister and I am so proud of you. Thank you for your words of encouragement they have made my day. (tears of joy)
p.s.
This is why they enemy wants to keep us ashamed.
Revelations 12:11 “And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die.”
Praise God you have so much courage to ask for help!
I tell you the truth, that the enemy is being weakened the very second you recognize you need help and you need it from God! Trust that you admitting you need Gods help with your problem has already done so much for you.
I tell you this is something that I for years had been dealing with also, along with partying and all sort of worldly lusts, but know that God has already given us the power to free ourselves of things things. Through Jesus Christ we are given great power with our words, realize there is a spirit of perversion, and rebuke it in the name of Jesus.
I’m new to the faith, but our generation ministry had a retreat where people were freed of so many things, including the spirit of perversion, trust in that power that God has already given you. You are His daughter, by seeking help His ear and His hand is already to you, now be specific.
I will pray for you also, that Jesus the Lord, with all power over all things, frees you of those lustful thoughts and desires, and furthermore that you have affirmation that NOTHING can take you away from God, not even things you feel ashamed about, and I pray that the Lord also free you of shame, because who the son sets free is free indeed, you are FREE, no bondage to shame, to desires, to lust or anything else, I’m sure everyone else is in agreement too, that you have complete freedom and renewal in Jesus name, Amen. God bless you sister and take care!!
For any women who struggle with this I highly encourage you to go to Dirty Girls, the New Porn Addicts:
http://thenewpornaddicts.com/
Take their surveys and receive some help!
Thanks for the comment Luke. I checked out the sites ladies and it is a good resource and a great place to find more support on this issue.
Thanks alot. I checked out the site and it was a great help. Thanks 2 everyone for their encouraging words.
This is such a wonderful site for girls & women who need help, advice, or someone to just lend an ear. Im defintley am going to tell all the female youth in my church about this site.
God bless you all…
Thanks Debz for your comment. Praise God that this site is helping people. He has made all this possible.
I've struggled with this & much worse, and I came to the point where I realized I could not overcome it with my own strength. Only God, could and that it's such a small/easy thing for him because he is all powerful. You have to trust in Him that means in the mist of the storm getting on your knees & waiting on him. EVERY TIME I HAVE WAITED ON HIM HE HAS NEVER LET ME DOWN NOT ONCE! There is hope! Phileo.
From the way you responded to this situation, itâs apparent that you have had a very difficult time, but you have not turned away from your faith in God and His loving power at work in your life. We are very thankful to see your testimony, for several reasons. First, you have seen that even in the midst of trials and despair, you can trust in Godâs great deliverance (II Cor. 1:9-10), and second, you are able to comfort others with the comfort you received from God, which gives them proof of their hope that they, too, will be delivered (II Cor. 1:3-7).
For anyone suffering in bondage to sin, we want to you to know that by His death on the cross and His resurrection, Jesus has truly triumphed over sin and its power in our lives (Col. 2:11-15). When we accept His sacrifice for as payment for our sins, He sets us truly free from what has had us bound (John 8:36). The Bible explains it this way, âI have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live I live by faith in the Son of God, Who loved me and gave Himself for me.â (Gal. 2:20) For some more encouraging reading, there is a beautiful story of Godâs deliverance found in Psalm 107 that describes how He frees people from the prison of their sins. We have seen this firsthand, and are living proof that Jesus saves! By His grace, we pray that you will live victoriously in Him until we are all in the presence of His glory. He loves you, and so do the women of WeUsed2bu.
Sister. You Are Not Alone. May God Bless This Site. It Has HELPED Me Alot.
Thank you sooo much anonymous..your words of encouragement affirm that our labor is not in vain. All glory goes to God for the ministry of WeUsed2bu.
Stay in touch..
I thank God that i found this site!
It’s a wonderful thing you have done. I’ve also battled with these same things, i was able, with God’s help to stop my addiction to pornography, but i still struggle with masturbation… :(
I pray for help and i seem to get it, God does help me and then a few weeks later i do it again, and i feel so horrible afterwards, i don’t even feel worhty enough to pray.
I’ve planned to pray to ask God to help me overcome this addiction once and for all.
Thank you for the websites and words of encouragement you all have posted.
Please pray for me.
P.S I’m so happy that God has been able to deliver you all from this sin and it gives me hope that He’ll help me also.
God richly bless you all! â„
Dear Anonymous,
Thanks for being so brave to talk about what youâre going through. A wise woman recently shared with me the verse from Rev. 12:11, âAnd they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony.â When weâre bold to speak out about the Lord and what He is doing in our lives, we are giving others hope, and âHope does not disappoint, because the love of God is poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit, Who was given to usâ (Rom. 5:5). I pray that even right now you have a fresh outpouring of the Holy Spirit in your heart, and that He fills you with His love, peace, and joy in Jesusâ name.
I want you to absolutely put out of your mind the feeling that you are not worthy to pray because you may have fallen into sin. First of all, weâre commanded to pray without ceasing (I Thess. 5:17). How else are we going to get forgiveness, or the power to overcome sin, if we canât ask it of God? It wonât happen. Also, we donât ever approach God in prayer because we are so holy or because we have done good works. Itâs only because we are Christâs, and have put on His righteousness, that we can boldly go before God and give Him our requests (II Cor. 5:21, Heb. 4:15-16). Once we have accepted Jesus Christ as our Savior, He conveys His righteousness and right standing before God onto us, and it never has to do with whether we have sinned or whether weâre a saint (Rom. 3:21-28). Galatians 2:21 says, âIf righteousness came by the law, then Christ died in vain.â It is absolutely wrong to think that we could commit a sin that would be too big to be covered by Jesusâ death on the cross. So let it go and receive Godâs complete and total forgiveness! He promises not to remember your sin anymore, and to cleanse you from it (Heb. 10:17, Ps. 103;12, I John 1:9) If you fall again, itâs like it was the first time. He keeps no record of wrongs! (Ps.130:3-4) No matter what you do, or what youâve done, you are justified in Godâs sight. Itâs the sanctification process that can be painful!
Sometimes, breaking the bondage of stronghold sin takes a long time, maybe even years, and we might even see echoes of our former behavior occasionally over the course of our whole lives. The apostle Paul struggled with something in his life, and prayed three times for the Lord to remove it, but God allowed it to remain, because it kept him humble and dependent upon Him (II Cor. 12:7-10). Iâm not saying that this will be your situation. I hope and pray that the Lord Jesus sets you completely free in this area of your life, and I would encourage you to pray for that freedom and healing. But if the Lord does allow it to be a process, then accept it as part of His perfect plan (Ps. 18:30). The Lord knows our weaknesses, He has already seen where and when we are going to fall, and yet He loves us and wants to continue making us more like Him. Nothing is hidden from Him; He just wants you to love Him and walk humbly with Him as He works in you to will and to do His good pleasure (Heb. 4:13,15, Micah 6:8, Phil. 2:13). Trophy of Grace and I have been talking lately about how the Lord chooses the foolish things of the world (like us, and all of our shortcomings) to confound the wise (I Cor. 1:27). The Lord doesnât use perfect people, He uses those who are willing to serve Him despite their struggles.
I really got the feeling from your posting that you might be struggling with shame, and I want to encourage you that any feelings of shame you might have are not from God! Shame causes us to feel unworthy, unusable, and unloved, and that is NOT how God sees us! Shame is distinguished in II Cor. 7:10-11 from true guilt, which motivates us to change, to move away from sin, and to become a testimony of Godâs grace in our lives. The enemy wants to keep us ashamed, because it keeps us isolated and makes us believe that nothing will ever be different. Donât believe those lies! When Jesus died on the cross, He carried our shame for us, and He defeated sin in the flesh, making a spectacle of it! (Col. 2:14-15, Heb. 12:2) We may still struggle with sin, because weâre not yet free from our human fleshly body, but weâre not condemned because of it. You need to be strong and stand in the truth, that âThere is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and deathâ (Rom. 8:1-2). You are not a slave to sin; if you belong to Jesus Christ, then you are a slave to righteousness, and you can look forward to the day when you are living in the freedom He gives His children, and you will testify to others of His word that âIf the Son has set you free, then you are free indeedâ (John 8:36, Rom. 6:18-19).
I would like to join you in prayer to ask for the Lordâs deliverance for you and for everyone who is struggling with stronghold sin. I pray in the name of Jesus that He would show Himself mighty to save on your behalf, and that by His power and His grace, you will have the victory that overcomes the world, because greater is He that is in you than He that is in the world. I pray that He will break the gates of bronze, and cut the bars of iron in two, that He will send His word and heal you, and that He will restore your soul and give you His peace for despair, strength for fear, and gladness for mourning. I know that Jesus hears our prayers, and that we have what we have asked for, because we do His will. I praise You, Lord Jesus, for Your love, Your greatness, and Your faithfulness to Your people. We love You, Lord. In Your name we pray, Jesus, Amen.
Much love, sister.
Sincerely, Beloved by Him
hi sisters in christ! i feel so blessed having stumbled upon this website while doing my usual surf. :) i am also struggling in the same area in my life right now. every now and then i ask for forgiveness from the Lord but i seem to falter a lot and give in to the desires of my weak flesh. i actually have not talked to anyone about this, even my closest family members who share the same faith because i have my fears and reservations so i silently pray about it and repent. i just pray the Lord will strengthen me more in battling with these impure thoughts. i honestly believe this began when i lost my virginity to my ex-boyfriend. i had opened doors and crossed lines even before God had willed them to be opened and crossed and so i had become vulnerable to these temptations. :(
however i would like to thank you for this answer and for sharing God’s word. i feel more encouraged and comforted after having read this. i have added this site to my bookmarks. your articles are very helpful and encouraging. let us keep the faith :)
To God be the Glory! :)
To God be the Glory!
Absolutely to God be the glory, sister. Without Him, none of us would have any hope or victory, but with Him, we can do all things! (Phil. 4:13) Remember that in Him, we are all new creations; the old things have passed away, and all things are new (II Cor. 5:17). Even when we fall, by His grace we are not utterly cast down (Pr. 24:16, Ps. 37:24). We confess our sins, and He forgives and forgets them. But more than that, He is renewing us day by day, changing us to be more like Him (II Cor. 4:16). Find your confidence and strength in the fact that Jesus died to free us from sin, and because of Him, we can continually choose to live in that freedom and to refuse to take our old bondages back (Gal. 5:1). We wonât be perfect, but we can have perfect peace in the process if we keep the eyes of our heart fixed on Him and keep walking and living by faith (Is. 26:3, II Cor. 5:7).
You do not have to go through this on your own. So many people have come forward and shared their struggles in this area. Itâs just like it says in the first part of I Cor. 10:13, âNo temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to manâŠ.â Donât ever let the enemy trick you into thinking that you are alone in this sin, or that you canât find support. Thatâs how weâre kept powerlessâwhen weâre isolated and ashamed. The Lord is faithful to reach out to us with His mercy, and to provide others to help share our burdens (Lam. 3:22-23, Gal.6:2). But the best ally we have is the Holy Spirit, Who gives us the will and ability to say no to sin. And believe it, there will be a way, just as the second half of I Cor. 10:13 says, ââŠbut God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.â Keep fighting the good fight in this area, praying for Godâs full deliverance, and renewing your mind so that it conforms to Godâs will (Rom. 12:1-2). In time, you will see victory; until then, keep praising and thanking God in all things. It will help keep things in perspectiveâHis greatness is infinitely bigger than any problem in our lives.
Also remember that whatever was awakened when you lost your virginity, God does more than forgive you. He also quiets you with His love, and rejoices over you with singing (Zeph. 3:17). I heard it explained once that itâs Godâs way of singing those desires back to sleep until they are awakened again at the right time, in marriage. As you continually commit to stay pure and not defile yourself, you can be assured that God makes all things new, including your chastity (Is. 43:19). Give yourself fully to the One Who is able to keep what you have committed to Him for as long as you need, even until eternity (II Tim. 1:12). He is able to keep you from falling, He is faithful, and He will do it (Jude 24, I Thess. 5:24). We love you, sister, and the Lord loves you more than you can even imagine! Thanks for sharing your heart with us.
Sincerely,
Beloved by Him
Its very apparent that this issue is a hot topic in the lives of many women..
Ive attached a link to a video that MUST BE WATCHED by anyone struggling with this issue….
It is a video of a young lady who shares her testimony and goes in great detail of the shame, guilt and depression she was delivered from….LADIES you are not the only one
I praise God for this site!
ooops…heres the link to this video
http://www.mydailychristianlife.com/2009/04/dameco-breaks-silence.html
Thanks so much for your comment nnenna. This is a very hot topic. Many men and women are struggling with this stronghold in their life.
I just visiter her myspace and reading her blogs. This young woman has a great testimony and seems to be on fire for Christ and determined to others set free from this oppresive and destructive stronghold. Thank you for the link and thank you for your comment.
Stay in touch sister..
You are not alone and now i relize i’m not so alone either. i have a problem in these areas also and for so many times i have tried and tried to overcome this but i only seem to disappoint the lord i ask for help but i still fall. its hard to give up somethin glike this its very difficult becauses its almost addictive. to be honost the root of my problem is my self esteem i don’t feel good about myself or see myself as pretty especially since i don’t have the kind words and reassurence of my old boyfriend anymore we are friends but htings aren’t hte same since we had to stay apart since he disobeyed and i also and we almost crossed lines we shouldn’t have. I loved him and he loved me and i still love him but that longing ness for him and his love let me to feel awful and lead me back again in this place thhat i had once dappled in but overcome but now i feel hopeless nad ashamed and worried that God will leave me since i keep failing over and over again i’m a christian and i have been for some time but i keep giving in to my flesh and not my spirit. until today when i stumble don this site becuse i was determined to find help from christians who wo’t judge me and think i’m awful . thank you fo rthe encouragement. BUt as for wha to do to overcome this is distract yourself anf pray thats what i try to do anyway sometimes it works sometimes i can’t think of anything else but how good i’ll feel.
âDonât you realize that you become the slave of whatever you choose to obey? You can be a slave to sin, which leads to death, or you can choose to obey God, which leads to righteous living. Thank God! Once you were slaves of sin, but now you wholeheartedly obey this teaching we have given you. Now you are free from your slavery to sin, and you have become slaves of righteous living.â Romans 6:16-18
My Sweet sister this is an addiction that you are enslaved to, but you donât have to be. You do not have to give into the sinful desires of your flesh any more.
I believe the first step to overcoming this battle is to draw close to the Lord now more than ever by praying, fasting, and most of all reading His Word. Shame and condemnation will come on you so heavy that you will not want to enter into Godâs presence to pray and seek help. You most certainly will not want to read His Word either. But that is when you have to RUN to His feet humbly sorry, confessing your weakness and sin. If you will draw near to Him he will draw close to you I promise. He wants to strengthen you and renew your mind over this situation, but it is through spending time with Him that you will learn to want to submit more to Him than to your sinful desires. As you spend time reading the Word it will renew your mind, your way of thinking. It will give you revelation into your own life and what Godâs is trying to teach you and change in you. (James 4:8)
Do not allow the guilt from your sin to keep you from repenting and getting in His presence. The enemy of our faith knows if he can keep you away hiding from God that you will not receive the encouragement and reassurance that you need.
Let me assure that He is NOT angry with you sister. He is sad to see you going through this. He wants you to be free from this bondage. He wants you to have peace in your heart. He does not want to see you going through this. But it is your choice to continue in this. He has given you His Word which is clear and which will give you wisdom and strength to fight this battle. He has given you His Holy Spirit which prompts you when you are heading down the wrong path. It is your choice to listen or to ignore Him.
Take some time to really meditate on Romans chapter 6-8. Read them out of an NLT or Amplified translation which will be easier and clearer for you to receive. You need to know that sinâs power in your life is broken, for when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin. Sin does not have to have power over you anymore. In fact we are not to let sin control the way we live, we are not to give in to sinful desires. You just have to learn to rely on His strength and power, instead of your own. (Romans 6:6-7,12)
The more you learn what His word says you will be able to shout it out when the desires come. âI am not a slave you to spirit of perversion! I am a child of God! And I am no longer a slave to my sinful desires!! I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me! I will NOT submit to you!!â
That is what has worked for me. I went through exactly what everyone is saying on this posting. I had the same desires and I submitted to them constantly. Shame would be so heavy that I would not want to pray for days and so it would be days before I would repent. But the Lord told me to stop hiding from Him. Even if I gave into the act I would say, âplease Lord, help me. I hate this!! Please forgive me and help me get through this.â
I began to pray more and even fast about my problem. I would not allow my failures to keep me from Him. I would cry out even more determined not to be a slave to my sinful desires. The more time I spent reading His Word and praying the more I realized that my desires starting changing. When the temptation would come His Word would rise up in me. If I was in the shower I would remember that 1 Corinthians 10:13 said that He would always provide a way of escape from our temptation, so I would get out of the shower. I threw out any inappropriate movies. I confessed my sin to my husband and asked him to come along side of me to help me too. It was a struggle, but it was His Word that gave me freedom from shame and guilt. It was His Word that would come up in my mind and heart when the temptation would come. I began to realize that I did have a choice and I did not want to continue to make the wrong one.
You can do this sister!! You can do this through Christ who will be your strength. It is time for you to be strong in the power of His might and not your own. Itâs time for you to submerse yourself in the Word of God and renew your mind.
Sister..YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! He is with you. We are with you in your suffering. You will overcome this because He who lives in you is greater and stronger than ANY demonic spirit of perversion that is trying to keep you enslaved to it. It is time for you to fight. Pick up your sword (the Word of God) and fight!!! (Ephesians 6:10-18)
Sincerely,
Trophy of Grace
I was just getting my morning feeding of the Word on and I came across these verses and thought of you.
Hebrews 4:14-16
“So then, since we have a great High Priest who has entered heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to what we believe. This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.”
I just wanted to encourage everyone out there who is suffering from this. Until recently i had this problem too, it made me feel so guilty and dirty. But with God’s help i was able to overcome it,God gave me the courage to talk about it. I am so thankful for His hand at work in my life. He alone has healed me and given me the power to continue on through the temptations. True i have slipped down, but He has helped me to stand again. He is sooo amazing.
This verse has just come to me, Isaiah 61v10 “I delight greatly in the Lord, my soul rejoices in my God. For he had clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of righteouness”
I just wanted to enocourage anyone who’s struggling to keep going, through the hardships,i’ve been there,im still going through it,but praise the Lord he is so good. God has promised in Psalm 103 one of my favourites, to forgive all [our] sins (v3)and v5 says “who satisfies [our] desires with good things so that [our] youth is renewed like the eagle’s”. IGod is with us every step of the way all we have to do is turn around and take his hand, he will help us he has promised “God is within her,she will not fall; God will help her at the break of day” Psalm 46v5.
Thank you so much R! That was a great comment, full of truth and love. We appreciate you sharing with us.
I’ve been addicted to porn for a while. Actually, the first time I saw it was when I was curious in 6th grade.. Well, the seed was planted and it grew to a horrible addiction that I couldn’t get rid of until this year! (And it is still a work in progress..) I’ve always felt dirty, guilty, ashamed… I’ve confessed it all to God. and I pray all the time for him to keep me away from temptation. (And he does!) Yes, I have slipped, and during those times I would NUMB my heart to God’s voice telling me I’m hurting Him and hurting myself by doing this.. But everytime I fall, I turn to God and He’s STILL THERE just waiting for me to take His hand.. Well, now I’ve decided. I can’t do this without God and He wants to help me out of this! So now I pray every night that I will be kept out of temptation’s way.. and that if I do get tempted that I would stand firm against it. So far (for a few weeks) I have been CLEAN and am proud to say that I have made great progress in overcoming my porn addiction! I believe God will completely purify my mind from all dirty thoughts, especially so that I can be a strong and confident daughter of God in my university years, where I will probably face many more different temptations..
Guys and girls, YOU CAN DO IT! Pray! Read the bible! Pray some more! You can do it! Take God’s hand and overcome it :)
I don’t have a good verse in mind right now but definitely a great song which is “Healing Begins” by Tenth Avenue North, which really encouraged me to come clean with God and with my best friend about my problem! Have a listen of it! Air1 radio (www.air1.com/listen) plays it pretty often! I pray that all who are struggling with this problem are healed inside and out :)
(btw, love the site :D)
Thank you so much for sharing this comment sister! I am so proud of you. Continue to keep pressing forward. He is so faithful to not allow our temptation to become more than we can bare. He always provides a way out. He always provides is strength to help us in our weakness. He is faithful!
Here is the song you were talking about on Utube..