A young friend says..

I’ve like this guy for soooo long and I just can’t seem to get over him no matter what. I have never had a boyfriend so I’m kind of scared. And there’s not a lot of differences with us besides age and grade, I’m 14 and he’s 17. I’ve prayed to God to help me with this situation but it seems to have gotten worse everyday cause now I have to hear about his new girlfriend and now I think that there’s no way he could ever like me. There are so many differences between me and her. Some days I just could cry all night cause I’ve like other guys before but he’s different. He goes to church with me and we do choreography together there. He’s a really great guy. And I really like him but if he doesn’t like me then how will I get over him if every time I see him, he makes me smile and blush uncontrollably!?! It’s not like I’m looking for my future husband. Please I need HELP!!!

Trophy of Grace says…

Sweet Sister,

I am so sorry that you are going through this heartache with this crush. It sounds like you have spent a lot of time thinking and imagining having a relationship with this young man. Now you are jealous and coveting this new relationship. This is a case of meditating too much on the wrong thing.

We can not spend our time daydreaming or wishing for material things or people. As believers, we have to be in control of our thoughts and bring them under submission to the Word of God. This means that when we have bad or impure thoughts that we need to rebuke and reject these wrong thoughts and think good things. Confess the Word of God over your thoughts.

Tell yourself out loud, “I will not be jealous or envious about this relationship. I will stop meditating on (his name). I love Jesus and He is the lover of my soul. I give Him all of my heart and devotion. Thank you Jesus that you have given me the power to overcome these thoughts. I can not do it alone. You are my strength. You give me self control and the ability to overcome these thoughts. I will not think about this guy any more. In Jesus name…Amen”

You will be surprised how quick these thoughts that try to bombard your mind will flee. Try spending more time reading the Word of God. Ask our Lord to teach you to love Him even more. Tell our Lord that you want Him to have your devotion and your thoughts.

You are still quite young. You will see that the time will come where you will meet the man that our Lord has for you, but you first need to seek the kingdom of God. Put Him first and you will see that everything else will fall right into place. He is your number one priority. Allow the Word of God to consume your mind instead of thoughts of this young man.

Pray before you go around him and ask our Lord to give more power and self-control to help while you in His presence. You may need to try to not be around this young man if the feelings and thoughts are too much. I know the Lord will see you through this. He already is because you are seeking counsel. You will overcome this…in Jesus name.

“Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” Philippians 4:8

“You CAN do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens you!” Philippians 4:13

“You can bring your thoughts under submission!” 2 Corinthians 10:5

THE BATTLE IS IN THE MIND!!!

God bless you my sister…

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