Purity… From a Guy’s Perspective
Written by: A New Me
Purity—does it really matter to guys? Wouldn’t a guy want a girl with more experience? Isn’t purity just being prude? Well, let me please clarify this subject from the male perspective. The shocking reality is… Purity matters big time. Regardless of what we might say or how we may react, no guy wants to build a relationship with an “easy” girl. The idea of a girl that we would respect and love fits the image many times of what we would want as a wife. No man wants a cigarette smoking, beer drinking, club hopper as a wife. That type of woman is just not trustworthy, and that is why many guys treat women disrespectfully. I mean, come on, do you really expect a man to respect you for the beautiful gift from God that you are when your clothing, attitude and demeanor show otherwise? How can you expect respect when you don’t respect yourselves?
Now don’t get me wrong, we (guys) by far are not perfect and there are many times when we just fall short. That is why it is so important when you’re seeking love and relationship, that you seek God first. Build your relationship with the Lord Almighty first, and He will place the man in your life He planned for you; He already has a plan for you (Jeremiah 29:11). Don’t jeopardize your purity and integrity to “fit in”. That wild, crazy party girl for most guys is good for only one thing, and we all know what that is. When a man is truly looking to love and respect a woman, we are looking for a trustworthy, kind hearted, honest woman. And when a Christian man is looking for a woman to love, he is looking for a woman who first loves God and respects herself.
Wouldn’t it be awesome to have a relationship built on a mutual foundation of faith and love, respect and admiration? It’s not a fairy tale and it’s very real, but it starts with purity for both men and women. Let me let you in on a long-running male secret (sshhh don’t tell)… we often, no, pretty much always EXAGGERATE, especially when it comes down to our “experiences,” so don’t be another locker room conversation piece or another name in the little black book. Instead, be sure that your name is in the only book that counts, the Lamb’s Book of Life, so you may enter the Kingdom (Revelations 3:5, 21:27). Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understandings, in all ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6). The unfortunate reality is that society has made it okay to be sexually impure, but the Word of God tells otherwise. Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity (1 Timothy 4:12). Please keep your purity close to heart because it does matter to men, but most importantly to God, and it should to you. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need (Matt 6:33).
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“That wild, crazy party girl for most guys is good for only one thing, and we all know what that is. When a man is truly looking to love and respect a woman, we are looking for a trustworthy, kind hearted, honest woman.”>
“don’t be another locker room conversation piece or another name in the little black book.”
I find it interesting that this entry focuses almost exclusively on how important female virginity is, while winking at male sexual experience. The writer admits that non-virgin girls are only valuable for sex, hinting that it is acceptable for guys to view girls solely as sexual objects. In other words, it’s ok, maybe even cool, for guys to have “little black books”–but it’s a serious offense against God for a girl to end up in this same book.
Once again, a woman’s value is determined solely by her body, while male “purity” is only a show of semantics.
Dear June Quest:
I apologize if this article has offended you in any way, and as a Christian man, I pray that you will forgive me if I’ve upset you. I want to clarify that the purpose of this article was to expose the traditional idealogy of how guys view purity. The fact is God doesn’t believe in or accept double standards, so it is equally as important for men to remain pure as well as women. The Word of God teaches that sexually immorality and impurity doesn’t play favorites; please remember that the Apostle Paul was speaking to Timothy, a male, when he wrote the scripture I referenced above (1 Timothy 4:12). I want to re-emphasize that PURITY IS IMPORTANT FOR BOTH MALES AND FEMALES; according to God’s standards, we all sin and fall short of glory. I hope that this clarifies my position of the subject discussed. I thank you for your comment and for visiting WeUsed2BU! God Bless you and have a great week!