Myspace Friend Asks:
Im in love with this dude and im preg with his baby. Im 7months. And we broke up cause he said he needs time 4him self. Do u think that means something?

Daughter of Destiny
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My Dear Sister,

I have been in your situation before. I had a 10 month old daughter and found out I was pregnant with our second child and my boyfriend just left. This was a very difficult situation for me being a pregnant single mother, on my own with a child. I was very angry at him for awhile and couldn’t understand why he had to leave. These children were his responsibility. This was our family and you don’t walk out on family.

To answer your question directly, yes I think that means something. It could mean several things. He could need the time apart to absorb the fact that he is having a child, and get himself together. Or on the other hand, it could also mean that he is not mature enough to handle having a child and is not ready to grow up. In all reality, his “time to himself” ended when you found out you were having this child. This relationship took a plunge into something serious.

You both need to decide if you will raise this child together as a couple or separate. You need to ask him if he wants a part in this child’s life. This means time to grow up. Its not about the two of you any more. This child needs you for food, clothes, shelter and love.

I don’t really know your situation and its hard for me to say exactly what this might mean. But I think you should prepare yourself if he decides not to come back. Are you prepared to raise this baby on your own?

Having a baby is a blessing and a miracle from God. God will never put more on you than you can handle. And believe it or not God has a plan for your life; he knew that this would happen. He is there beside you. Always. He knew you when you were in your mother’s womb, just as he knows your baby now. (Jeremiah 1:5) Your lives were already predestined before you were even born.

I tell you, lean on God now! When I was alone with two small children God was my husband, comforter, provider and friend. So so many doors opened and closed for me. It was only by His grace that we ate every month, had lights, and had an apartment. It was not easy but I KNOW I wasn’t alone.

Today that boyfriend that left me.. well he found God. It was a long journey. It took almost 5 years. Now we have those 2 beautiful children, we got married and I too am 7 months pregnant with our 3rd child. So yes I think this means something for you, DRAW CLOSER TO GOD. Seek a relationship with Him. Let Him lead you where He wants. If He has removed this man from your life He will give you another. But this man will love and honor the Lord. He will be a father to your children and the man you need him to be. Or your boyfriend may return to be that man. But leave this to God. You will be amazed!

Your Sister in Christ,
Daughter of Destiny

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