Anonymous writes…

Men can suck! My babies dad started treating me like his slave and i started to move on and found a guy! than i told my babies daddy and now he is trying everything to get me back what should i do!

Trophy of Grace replies…

I have been thinking on your question for awhile and I have been asking the Lord to give me wisdom. I keep coming up with the same thing.. I truly believe that you need to take some time to yourself and not be in a relationship right now. I think it’s time to focus on you and your child.

You have tried to move on in a new relationship, however now that father of your child has come back it has made you question if what you’re doing is right. If you were sure that you wanted to be with this new guy then your ex coming back would not confuse you. You could very well be on the rebound and looking for comfort to replace the desire to have a family with your ex.

My suggestion is to give the dating scene a break for awhile. Clear your life from the clutter of these relationships. Refocus and regroup. Ask God to show you if you are heading down the path that He wants you to be on. You see, He always knows what’s best for us and He is willing to direct out steps, it’s up to us if we want to follow Him. Put your focus on Him instead of these guys. Seek comfort in Him and His Word build a relationship with the Lover of Your Soul and you find fulfillment like never before. Then once you have found who you are in Christ Jesus you will be sure of what you want and what you’re looking for in a relationship.

Pray for the father of your child. Pray for his salvation. Pray for God to touch his heart and open his eyes to see that God has a plan for his life too. You will see that if you two seek God first and His ways of doing things He will bless you with the desires of your heart. He will give you strength and wisdom to live your life and to become the woman and man that He intended you to be.

This is your time to seek God like never before. Allow Him to do a new thing in your life. Allow Him to be everything you need. He loves you and is waiting for you to submit to Him. His kindness and patience with you has been meant to lead you to repent (turn and go the opposite way).

I will be praying for you.. Here are some scriptures that came to my heart for you. Also check these links they are answers to other Q & A’s that we have in our archives that may help you.

Baby mama/baby daddy drama

Letting Go/Moving On

“Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.” Revelation 3:20

“Trust in the Lord with all of your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:5-6

”Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2

”For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:11-13

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

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