I Feel Like An Outcast!
MySpace friend writes…
I moved to oklahoma with my dad when i was 15…i recently moved back to ohio with my husband and 4 kids to be with my mother and 16 yr old sister..i have been back for 2yrs now and my mom and sister dont have alot to do with me or my kids.my sis is very spoiled and nothing matters but her..my mom is the same way she doesnt even spend time with my kids cuz my sis gets jealous…i need my mom and i have told her this but she and my sis r living in a world where nothing matters but them…i feel so alone and i feel like an outcast!
His Precious Gift replies…
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
My dear, this is a scripture that keeps me from feeling the way you do as an outcast; it still amazes me how God would give us certain questions in our lowest point. I know what you are going through, but the only thing with me was that I knew that God was in control. That does not take away from you feeling the way you do right now, because nothing ravages a heart like rejection. You need to realize that at times in our lives we will be rejected by some, but that doesn’t make you or your children rejected by God.
Rejection is refusing to accept or consider someone. To be rejected is to be cast aside, cast off, cast away—you feel you are put to the side, as having no value. I understand that we need our mothers’ love, guidance and approval, and it’s really sad also that the grandchildren are missing the part of the family that is so important. I don’t know why your mother and sister have decided to act this way, but one thing I can tell you is that the only thing you can do is to find peace in God’s Word.
Colossians 3:13 says, “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” I know that at this moment you might not want to hear about forgiveness, but is the only way you will be able to keep your family together. Your feelings will eat you up, and at the end if you think about it, you are not going to change their minds. But there is one thing you can do: pray for them and put it in God’s hand, remembering that as you forgive and give it to God, you will change, and your heart will be full of peace. Forgiveness is releasing your resentment, releasing your right to hear “I’m Sorry,” or your right to get even. It removes from you the weight of resentment, freeing you to live a life of joy and peace.
I tried for many years to please my mother and to earn her love. There was nothing I could do to make her happy; my brother was the only one she cared for, and even though I had 3 children, she only showed affection for my oldest. As a mother, my heart broke for my children, and I was miserable. But not until I received Jesus as the Lord and Savior of my life, when I accepted His forgiveness and love, I became aware of His constant presence within me and I allowed Him to lead in all I said and did, not until then; I felt FREE…!
I will encourage you to refuse to dwell on negative things said or done to you in the past, and release them to God. You have a purpose; trust in God’s promises to fulfill His purpose in you. I know you can overcome all those feelings; you will never have freedom if you don’t give it to God.
Remember we are here for you always,
Much Love,
Admin adds…
Also here’s another posting that a girl wrote in feeling rejected from her family. Her situation is different but the pain is still there..
May be this will help you too..
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