My Cousin’s ‘In Love’ With The Pastor’s Son But He’s Nasty
Anonymous writes…
Hi.My cousin is 16 and shes recently been’in love’ with this guy.I think she is too young,and how can she even know what love is(boy girl love,not godly love)The guy is a pastors child,but he is mean,nasty,makes her do whatever he wants.and pretty muWch has her under his thumb.I dont know what to tell her,but i love her and i dont want her to et hurt.she is also a christaian although she doesnt act like it.What shuld i do?Thanks
His Precious Gift replies…
It is very hard to see a loved one make wrong decisions in there life and if it is a family member it’s way harder. We hurt for them because we want the best for them and if that person is a Christian we think they should know better. I know your heart breaks for your cousin. I believe that first thing you should do is pray and ask God to help you, to give you the right words to say, to be able to show compassion and not be angry at the situation. Also for you to know when it would be the right time to talk to her because yes, you need to talk to her as soon as possible. I am a great believer in prayer, because prayer changes things!
Tell her how concerned you are about the relationship and the things you see that worry you. Let her know that you are there for her at anytime and that the reason you care so much is because you love her and don’t want her to get hurt.
Usually women that will accept that kind of treatment have very low self steam and really don’t know who they are in Christ. Also your cousin is very young and since he is a pastor’s kid, she might think that it’s ok to be treated that way. Actually he is playing a game of manipulation and with her low self-esteem she does not even realize it. Proverbs 26:24 describes the manipulator “A malicious man disguises himself with his lips, but in his heart he harbors deceit.”
Always remember that God is in control. Philippians 4:6-7 is one of my favorite scriptures. It says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Be there for your cousin. Let her know that you love her and if she needs to talk, you will always listen without judgment but with love and the Word of God which will set her free. I will be also joining you in prayer for you and your cousin.
Much Love,
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