I Do Bars But Its Usually An Opportunity To Hang Out With Other Students
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Can Christians drink at all or only in moderation? I do bars but its usually an opportunity to hang out with other students and we don’t even dance often, we just chat and maybe have a drink or two, not get drunk. At my graduation formal, there was dinner and dance and I mostly went there because it was like the last chance to see everyone together. Im not talking about prom since this was a college. We had pictures, dinner and then me and my girlfriends danced. Of course the music wasn’t all godly since it wasnt a religious school. What wouldve been the right thing to do here? Would it be to leave after dinner then, as soon as the music came on? The music was a mix, mostly neutral but once in a while must have been ungodly. But then this means the only events you can attend will have to be church events because even wedding parties sometimes have ungodly music. Sorry Im not trying to be technical but sometimes its just hard to know right from wrong, well for me. Thank you so much sister.
Precious In His Sight replies…
Hey girl, what’s up? I see that you have a few questions about our post, ‘What Does The Bible Say About Partying And Clubbing?’ Your first question was, “Can Christians drink at all or only in moderation?” And then your response was that you do bars only to hang out with your friends, but you don’t dance, just chat and have a few drinks, but not get drunk.
Ok, now I have a few questions for you. Why would you want to hang out at a bar? What reason are you having a drink or two? Is it because you enjoy the taste, or are you feeling pressured by your friends to still participate in drinking, or do you like that slightly buzzed feeling after you’ve had a few drinks?
Stop and think about those questions and then really ask your self, ‘Where am I in my Christianity?, Where am I going with this relationship that I have developed with Jesus Christ? The bibles says that we should not allow sin to control the way we live and we should not give into sins and lustful desires. We should not let any part of our body become a tool of wickedness, to be used for sinning. Instead we should give ourselves completely to God since He has given us a new life, through being born again. (Romans 6:12-13)
We should close the doors of our past lifestyles, which are doorways for the enemy to come into our lives, and instead open the door to a new and true relationship with Jesus. (Revelations 3:20) Once you have totally closed those sinful doors of your past, ask God to not allow anyone or anything to open it again. When you open the door to Jesus He will lead you to a new way of living where you won’t desire to go to drinking at bars. (Revelation 3:7-8)
I have another question for you. Are the friends that you are hanging out with also Christians? If they are not, but you are, then you should be setting an example for them. When they ask you to go out, and they want to go to a bar, then you, child of God, should recommend some place else. And if your friends ask you why then you explain to them that you are growing out of that lifestyle and you are stepping your game up to something better. This also gives you an opportunity to share about your relationship with Jesus.
Being a Christian, does not mean that you give up life and walk around holding a bible and quoting scriptures to everyone that comes in your pathway. God wants us to enjoy life to the fullest. But He wants us to do it in a way that is pleasing to Him, and that will draw others into the kingdom. Remember that you are the salt of this unseasoned earth. (Matthew 5:13) You are a light in this dark world, so let that light shine wherever you go and among the people you are with. (Matthew 5:14)
Now this does not mean that you should take your light into a dark place, and sit down and indulge in the things that the dark place is offering. God knows that we are in this world but He does not want us to be a part of what the world is offering to us. (Romans 12:2)
Your other question was about dancing. There’s isn’t anything wrong with dancing. There is something wrong with a Christian dancing to vulgar, obscene and degrading music. There is something wrong with a Christian hanging out in a club and partying with those that do not have a relationship with Jesus. It’s okay to dance, even to music that is not Christian based, but yet it is encouraging to the soul. It’s all in the way you do things. Dancing should be done in a manner that glorifies God.
Ask yourself this question, Why participate in something that will only cause you to have to go before the Lord and ask Him for forgiveness? Why not just do what is right?
I want to leave you with a few thoughts and I want you to really think hard about them and go before God in prayer with them. Then when you are done praying take the time to be still and silent so that you can hear His answer.
“When I’m sitting in the bar with my friends do I have that feeling of guilt and even shame?”
“After I’ve had a few drinks and I’ve left the bar with my friends, how do I feel? ”
“When I go to a dinner or party and the music is really pumping with some lyrics that includes obscene language and I hit the dance like its nobody’s business, I wonder what God is thinking about my actions then? I wonder if He is saying; “Well done, my faithful servant”?
“Do the friends I hang around with know that I am a Christian and if they do, why are they still wanting me to hang out in a bar? Could it be that I’ve never given them a reason to think that I have totally changed?”
“Have I changed, or am I still living in my pre-Christian lifestyle?”
I hope that my words have jogged something in your heart that would cause you to really think hard about the way you spend your social time.
We will be praying for you sister.
Sincerely,
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