Precious In His Sight adds to the question, “What if they are an alcoholic and mentally ill do you still have to stay married”

Hello Anonymous:

First of all I want to say thank you for writing into this site to seek help for this situation. I can feel the heaviness in your heart through your question. Your question was simple and to the point and I’m not sure if you are writing on you behalf or someone else’s.

I am so sorry that this situation is happening, and I want to encourage you with God’s word that says that He will never leave you nor forsake you! (Hebrews 13:5) And God is not a God who has favorites, so His word is imparted to everyone. God is in control of this situation no matter how grim it may seem.

Let me ask you this, are the people involved in this marriage saved?
Do either of them know the Lord and have a relationship with Him?

Whatever your answer may be, my advice to you is to for this couple to seek Christian counsel, through a bible teaching, Jesus-loving church. I know that you are reaching out to our site to get answers, but you also said that one person in this relationship has an alcohol addiction and mental illness.

This person needs to seek help! But first of all, they need to realize that they have a problem. A lot of times people with addictions do not realize that they are addicted because their choice of addiction has become a part of their life, so its just like breathing or eating to them.

This is where prayer comes in!

I am not a professional psychologist, or a certified counselor, but I am a child of God and a praying woman, and I am a witness to prayer changing people!! I have seen God turn the hearts around of people who had been hard core and stubborn.

“And I will give them singleness of heart and put a new spirit within them. I will take away their hearts of stone and give them tender hearts instead, so they will obey my laws and regulations. Then they will truly be my people, and I will be their God.” (Ezekiel 11:19-20)

God has a way of softening people to use them to carry out the plans that He has for their life. And God has a plan for each one of our lives, no matter who we are, if we would just yield to Him and seek Him.
Because this situation is concerning you, I beg you to begin praying without stopping. “Keep on praying.” (1 Thessalonians 5:17)

You are involved in this situation in some special way, and God has purposed you to reach out to our website to seek help, and this tells me that God has placed this burden on you so that you can bring the Light of Jesus to this dark situation! God has special ways of turning a situation around, and you should feel special that you are being used by Jesus to carry out a plan that He has for this relationship.

I don’t know the background of this relationship; you said that the marriage is really bad and there are children involved who are suffering, and I can tell you that the bible says, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to such as these.” (Matthew 19:14) God loves those children and He loves their parents as well, no matter what they are going through.

This is the way God has intended a marriage to be: The husband to leave everything and everyone behind and cling to his wife and when God blesses them with children, the husband should cling to his responsibility as a father and nurture and love his children and not bring them to suffering. “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” (Genesis 2:24)

What is going on in this marriage is not lining up with God’s plan and purpose, so pray! God tells us in His word, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

So I beg you to stand in the gap and pray for this person that is suffering from alcoholism and mental illness. Pray that God would bring clarity to their heart and mind and show them that what they are doing is wrong, and also pray for them to get the right help so that things do not get out of control to the point where someone gets hurt!!

I do hope that this couple can receive some sort of biblical counseling. I can’t encourage separation or even divorce, because that is not what God intended for marriage.

“Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together.” (Matthew 19:6)

I want you to pray this prayer along with whatever God lays on your heart:
“So we have continued praying for you ever since we first heard about you. We ask God to give you a complete understanding of what he wants to do in your lives, and we ask him to make you wise with spiritual wisdom. Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord, and you will continually do good, kind things for others. All the while you will learn to know God better and better.” (Colossians 1:9-10)

Where ever you see the words “you” or “your,” replace it with the person with the addiction’s name.
Use this scripture to pray, and watch God move this mountain-sized issue and turn things around for the good of everyone concerned.

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28)

Sincerely,

Precious In His Sight

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