I Just Feel That I Can’t Talk Or Trust God With It Anymore
Update on R from the posting ‘Its just so frustrating that God doesn’t want me to go out with him’
I thought I’d just update you on how things have been going, because to be honest I’m struggling a bit.
We both prayed about the situation for a week like we said and then we met up to talk about it. Now I knew God would give me an answer and it was a pretty clear “no” from early on during the week that the answer was “no”. God was sooo amazing he gave me such peace about this, it didn’t bother me at all, so I was just praying that God would give the guy the same answer. We met up and we talked, although here’s the bit I’m struggling to understand, my answer was “no”, yet his was “yes”. Can God do that and what does it mean??? I know that sometimes in life we’re not supposed to understand God’s purpose for doing certain things, but I just find it so weird that we got toally opposite answers.
Anyway things have changed, although I haven’t seen him since he was was really acccepting of the situation, praise he Lord. But as soon as he’d left it was like my mood just changed. I wanted to kick myself. Honestly I felt so stupid for saying no and it’s been with me ever since. It’s like having a little voice in my head saying you shouldn’t have done that, you should have taken your chance. Am I right in thinking that this is the devil trying to trick me and guilt trip me??? Because if I’m honest its working.
I really feel that I’m a mess again over the same problem. I just feel that I can’t talk or trust God with it anymore. It’s like I just don’t want to accept that the answer was “no” and that it’s not going to happen. I know it’s selfish and wrong but I just can’t help it. I think part of it is down to the issue of trusting God with my future and the guy who He’s got prepared for me. I guess I’m just being human and wanting to control this part of my life. I’m just confused about what our answers mean, because the guy has told me he’s still got feelings for me and he can’t turn them off just like that, and now I’m questioning whether I did/do still have feelings for him.
So I’m having a bit of a confusing time with everything at the moment. I know I should talk to God about it but it’s like I don’t want to. It’s like there is something that is preventing me from doing it.
Thank you for listening
R
Precious In His Sight replies
Hello R: I’m Precious In His Sight and I am responding to your question to Beloved by Him.
You seem a little confused over this situation with this young man. Can I first say to you that I am proud of the fact that you are writing into this site for advice and not turning to the world.
I want to first address one part of your question:
“We met up and we talked, although here’s the bit im struggling to understand, my answer was no, yet his was yes. Can God do that and what does it mean???”
Matthew 18:19 says, “I also tell you this: If two of you agree down here on earth concerning anything you ask, my Father in heaven will do it for you.”
Now my question to you is, were you both praying about the same thing? And when I ask that, I mean, did you both come up with an agreement of exactly what you were going to go before the Lord with? Did you, first of all, pray together on this matter so that each of you would know how to continue praying for the situation?
You said that God gave you such a peace about the answer being no. What happened to that peace that you were feeling when you first got your answer?
Philippians 4:7 tells us that God’s peace is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand and His peace will guard your heart and mind as you live in Christ Jesus.
Are you feeling as though his answer should have been the same as yours? Would that have made things better in your eyes?
Well let me just give you a few things to think and pray about, along with a few scriptures to meditate on.
You asked if the devil is trying to make you feel guilty? I would say yes, because of the fact that you felt so peaceful after receiving an answer from God. The enemy has a way of getting us to let down that peaceful guard that is over our heart and mind. This is where the Holy Spirit comes in.
In John 14:27 Jesus is telling us that He is giving us a gift of peace of mind and heart, and this peace is not like what the world gives to us. And He also tell us not to be troubled or afraid. God gave you peace about a situation and it seems as though the outcome was not what you had planned so now you are upset with God’s answer to you.
Yes, sometimes in life we do not understand God’s answer to our prayers, at that particular moment. But, as time goes by and we move on with life, we see the reason why God told us no or not yet.
Have you ever thought that this is not the right time for this situation that you feel you should be a part of and that could be the reason for a “no” answer? Ecclesiastes 3:1 says that there is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven.
Could it be that God does not think that you are one hundred percent ready to be a part of this situation? Could it also be that God wants you to lean more, trust more and hope in Him more?
Proverbs 3:5 tells us to trust in the Lord with all of our hearts and do not depend on our own understanding.
Please don’t turn your back on God because of someone else’s answer to a situation that you have already received a peaceful confirmation from our Savior on. God loves you so much and He only wants what is best for you. He is only directing your path and taking you down the road that He has carved out for you.
Proverbs 3:6 says to seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths.
When you go to God in prayer and ask that His will be done, and you receive an answer, whether it is in your favor or not, His will is being done and isn’t that what we pray for?!
1 John 5:14 says that we can be confident that he will listen to us whenever we ask him for anything in line with his will. Also remember that God does not do anything to bring us harm, but all of His actions and answers towards us and to us is are out of the love that He has for us. The love that God has for you should take away that fear you may have of you making the wrong decision. The perfect love that God is giving you will dismiss the confusion and fear that is dwelling inside of you.
1 John 4:18 says, “Such love has no fear because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of judgment, and this shows that his love has not been perfected in us.”
Continue to hold on tight to God’s word and please don’t stop praying to Him, let Him do His job as your Heavenly Father. Let Him lovingly guide your life in the right direction. Hold on tight to that peace that you felt in your heart when you first got an answer from God. Don’t let go of His word and when you feel as though you can not or do not want to pray, then just sit still and allow the Holy Spirit to do His job and intercede on your behalf.
Romans 8:26 says, “And the Holy Spirit helps us in our distress. For we don’t even know what we should pray for, nor how we should pray. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words.”
Be faithful and stay blessed dear sister in Christ…….
Sincerely,
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