I Am Going Through Alot of Changes And I Need Some Help
Anonyous writes…
Hello, I’m a 15yr old girl looking for some advice or counseling. I have just started a new life committed to Jesus. I’ve committed being chaste before marriage and to being dressed modestly by mother until I am 18. I am very happy to be serving Jesus and being my an obedient daughter until marriage.
I used to be vain and only interested in my teen girl friends and what boys thought of me. I want to obey my parents now and to be my mother’s girl.
I am going though a lot of changes and would like some help. My mother has started dressing me modestly and I have given up all my teen cloths and shoes. I’m only 127 so rather small and my mother has was spent a lot of money on new cloths. Only everything I have to wear now is childrens cloths and shoes. I feel loved and my mother says I look adorable and we do everything together but also feel awkward and shy around girls at Church though I have some made young friends too. I don’t know I am really happy losting all my teen problems and it’s fun just being like a kid again. People can’t tell I’m a teen but I am 15. Is what my mum and I doing wrong?
Confused or not sure girl,
Heart of Worship replies…
Hello Sister,
First, congratulations on starting a new life committed to Jesus! That is so wonderful, and is a decision I know that you will never regret. Praise the Lord for the wonderful things He is doing in your life! We rejoice with you, sister, and have been praying for you fervently since receiving your question.
I want to commend you for your commitment to purity before marriage, both in your thoughts and actions! The step that you are taking in making modest clothing a priority in your life shows the transformation that God is doing in your heart! There are several reasons that the Bible gives us for dressing modestly. 1 Timothy 2:9-10 (NIV) tells us “I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.” Our body is the temple of God: “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NIV)
I also admire your desire to honor your mother and obey her rules until adulthood. The Lord will bless you richly for honoring and obeying your mother. In Ephesians 6:2-3, the Bible says “Honor your father and mother - which is the first commandment with a promise - that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” It sounds like your mother is very supportive in your decision to follow Christ — what a blessing! I understand that you are feeling very awkward about the new clothing your mom has purchased for you. However, I think that you are absolutely doing the right thing in obeying your mom. Be encouraged by the words of Colossians 3:20 (NIV) which says “Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.”
It sounds like your mom is trying to encourage you in continuing to dress modestly and living a life of purity by buying these new clothes. However, if you feel the clothes are too childish, perhaps you could respectfully talk with her on your next shopping trip. Mature clothing does not have to be immodest clothing at all! Do you have any young women in your church who dress maturely in a way that you admire? Perhaps you could mention the style of clothing that those young women wear so that your mom could have a visual example of clothing you consider modest, yet more mature. However, please be sure to express your true gratitude for all of the items of clothing she has purchased for you and the encouragement she has shown you in supporting your new life in Christ.
My heart goes out to you because I vividly remember being 15 years old. Sister, you are caught between childhood and womanhood, and it IS HARD! I pray that you will know God’s love for you in a very special way. Please do not let Satan discourage you and cause you to feel awkward or ashamed in any way. You are a light in a dark world! Your youthfulness can be used by God to reach many young people for Him. 1 Timothy 4:12 (NLT) says ” Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.” You will be known by your actions and your heart, not just your outward appearance. One of my favorite verses is 1 Peter 3:3-4 (NLT) which says “Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” I can tell from your letter that your heart belongs to God and your desire is to serve and please Him. Please be encouraged by the truth of 1 Samuel 16:7 (NIV) which says in part “…The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart”
I am praying for you and trusting God to direct your steps in your journey for Him. (Proverbs 3:5-6).
In His precious, unfailing love,
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