Comments for WeUsed2bu For Such A Time As This Mon, 15 May 2017 02:16:15 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on What Does the Bible Say About Partying and Clubbing? by Justin White Mon, 15 May 2017 02:16:15 +0000 Once you give your life to, Jesus, there’s no turning back my sisters and brothers. Be strong in the, Lord.

Comment on Born This Way: My Journey From Sexual immorality To Total Deliverance by Beloved by Him Mon, 19 Dec 2016 18:59:14 +0000 Dear Renae,

Thank you for writing in to WeUsed2bu. My hope is that God will give you His wisdom and peace as you seek Him.

I don’t think it’s wrong to desire an earthly father. We were created to have relationship, to love and be loved by others (John 15:12). But this world is a fallen place, and relationships fail all the time. I don’t know whether it’s a personal failure (choice), or God’s providence has allowed something to prevent your father from being there for you (circumstances outside his control), but I do know that God is completely in control and will use this situation for your ultimate good, even through the pain (Romans 8:28-29).

I know it’s hard, but have you considered praying for the Lord to help you be content right where you are? That doesn’t mean we have to like our circumstances. It means that we can accept them in light of God’s goodness and ever-faithful presence. We may not always have what we want, but God promises we will have what we need–resources, help, shelter, comfort, love–all the things that our Heavenly Father can give perfectly when our earthly parents cannot.

There are many scriptures about the fatherless in the Bible, and how the Lord provides for them. You can trust that God’s Word is true (John 17:17), so when He talks about being a father and helper of the fatherless, and that He will take care of you, He means it (Psalm 10:14, 68:5, 27:10). God’s ways are so much greater and higher than man’s. Knowing that God will always take care of you, no matter what, will be a constant source of assurance, whether our parents are absent, or just human, flawed, or disappointing, myself included.

I don’t know how the Lord will resolve your situation, but I would encourage you to take your eyes off what you don’t have, and put them on the One Who will never leave you or forsake you (Joshua 1:5-9, Deut. 21:6-8). Whatever you are called to accomplish or be in this life, God is sufficient to complete the good work He began in you, and will not leave you without help (Phil. 1:6, 4:19, 2 Cor. 3:5, John 14:18).

Sister, I understand how you feel, but I have come to know God so much more because He has been there for me when no one else could or would. I know He loves you so much, more than we can believe, and I hope you will choose to abide in His love, because there is no fear there (I John 4:17-18). You are the apple of His eye, and His beloved daughter.

Much love,
Beloved by Him

Comment on Born This Way: My Journey From Sexual immorality To Total Deliverance by Renae Thu, 15 Dec 2016 19:23:25 +0000 Hi. I’ve been praying and asking for God to bring a permanent father figure into my life for years now. I know the Bible tells us that God is our father but is it wrong to also want an earthly father? I love God with all my heart but I just want an earthy father so badly. I’ve had amazing men in my life in the past, whether they were teachers or youth leaders at church, but none of them have ever remained in my life. I’m 19 and while my friends are thinking of dating and marriage, I’m not. I want a father more than any romantic relationship and I feel so alone.

Comment on Seeking Advice by Beloved by Him Thu, 15 Dec 2016 19:12:40 +0000 Dear sister,

Thank you so much for writing in to WeUsed2u. I really enjoyed your candor about your situation, and I respect your feelings and your desire to grow and be challenged. Good job :)

It’s really not a “what would I do” response that will be appropriate here. The question is, what would God have you do? His plan and will for your life are paramount to the opinions of friends, society, even other Christians. If we were talking about a fundamental issue like salvation, then we would know His will is for all to be saved and none to perish. Whether or not you should marry and have children is a huge life choice you need to continue praying, seeking, and asking Him about, and He will give you His wisdom and answers (Luke 11:9, James 1:5).

That being said, I can share with you that when I was young, I didn’t want children, either. I came from a broken home and did not see myself as a parent or part of an extended family. God had other plans, however, and as it turns out, my children not only brought me back to Christ, but raising them has deepened my walk with the Lord and expanded the boundaries of my heart in ways that I never would have believed or imagined. One of God’s first commands to Adam and Eve was to be fruitful and multiply, and the Bible says that children are a heritage and reward from the Lord (Gen. 1:28, Psalm 127:3). Yes, the thought of such great sacrifices is scary, overwhelming, and in some ways, even undesirable. But Jesus said that whoever loses their life for His sake will find it (Matt. 10:39). When we choose to submit to His will, we can never lose God’s best for us.

Stay in the Word and keep praying, my sister. and be content with whatever stage of life in which you find yourself (Phil. 4:12). One of my favorite scriptures is Psalm 18:30, “As for God, His way is perfect, His Word is proven, He is a shield for those who trust Him.” Trust that He is worthy of whatever He asks you for in service to His glory and good will. Keep us posted :)

Much love and Merry Christmas!
Beloved by Him

Comment on Seeking Advice by Beloved by Him Thu, 15 Dec 2016 18:47:02 +0000 Dear Rayven,

I am so sorry to take so long to respond. I have been in the process of a move and did not see this until today!

But I believe God used that time of waiting for you to His glory and purpose. Sometimes, as Lisa aka Trophy of Grace used to say to me, we need to stop hearing from man and wait to hear from God. There are times in our Christian walk that we have to choose to forge ahead blindly. Not without wisdom, because God promises to use His Word as a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Ps. 119:105). But definitely we can walk without, and in spite of, our feelings. The truth is that when it comes to faith, our feelings don’t really matter. We are commanded to walk by faith, not by sight (2 Cor. 5:7).

Sometimes an act of faith feels completely contrary to what our hearts are telling us. The Bible says our hearts of flesh are deceitful and desperately wicked, and we can’t know what’s in them–only God does (Jeremiah 17:9). So if God is allowing you to go through a season of testing, where He has taken away your surety in your feelings and knowledge, it’s okay! Choose to be thankful, embrace this trial, and trust that He is doing a far better work in you than you could possibly understand! (James 1:3 Romans 5:3, Is. 55:9) God will not let you down. He is faithful even we are not! (2 Tim. 2:13)

Don’t be afraid, dear sister. His perfect love will cast out your fears, and He is always working in you to will and to do His good pleasure (I John 4:18-19, Phil 2:13). I know you are suffering in this trial, but remember this verse,

“But may the God of all grace, Who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.” (1 Peter 5:10)

God WILL complete the good work He began in you, sister! It’s His promise!

Have a very merry Christmas <3

Much love
Beloved by Him

Comment on Seeking Advice by Lovedbutwineing Wed, 14 Dec 2016 16:17:31 +0000 Hello

I hope your still replying to people. I wrote a while back ago and im back again because you guys are so great!especially for someone who doesnt really know where to go for advice often.
I wrote sometime ago about a love life problem i was having. I am gladdd to report that I do believe I have met the Man God wants me to be with. We are doing well and are discussing.but theres one majoy problem.I previously before meeting him didnt want kids…at ALL. but then I accepted that its a lot to ask of a man unless if he initially doesnt want them either, so I prayed that “Lord if the man you have for me wants kids, ill have them,i wont fight”. Then he came, and he does want kids, but we wont for at least the first two years of our marriage.I mean if we arent capable his fine with that. but knowing me I know i wil be capable. but i often find myself dreading the eventual pregnancy and therefore children. I am trying to get used to the idea, warm up to others children etc. but part of me it still really dreading the loss of all freedom of my life. Being in this relationship has been a huge change for me already especially with time being his love language.
i kept following advice to enjoy my single life previously meeting him 4 months ago.and perhaps I was enjoying it TOO MUCH. Im in the debate between staying with him, and preparing for children i am freaked out about or ending things and keeping the freedom I loved so much. but now im starting to think this “freedom” idea is world-code for “selfishness”…….I dont know where to even begin praying. I dont even know what question to really ask but I guess what I am asking is…If you were me, what would you do?

Comment on Seeking Advice by Rayven Sat, 20 Aug 2016 04:02:05 +0000 Hello!

I’ve been a Christian my whole life, gave my life to Jesus in my teens (I’m 20 now). And yet, this past year I’ve never felt so disillusioned with Christianity. So many things don’t make sense, and no one has any answers. All in all, I believe that God is real. But its hard for me to believe that Christianity is good beyond my doubts. To my human mind, so many things about it are just confusing, some things even seem wicked. I haven’t prayed or read my Bible in a while. Every time I do I just have more questions. Questions that never get answered. I don’t know how to believe through my doubts. I’m not even sure I want to. To everyone else, it seems like Christianity is such a blessing to them. To me, It often seems like something I just don’t know how to do. Please help!

Comment on Seeking Advice by Beloved by Him Mon, 04 Apr 2016 17:14:55 +0000 Dear Jenn,

Thank you for sharing your situation with WeUsed2bu. My prayer is that the Holy Spirit will minister to you and affirm any good thing I might share with you today, in Jesus’ name.

Yours is an interesting situation, for several reasons. I love that you are involved in clubs and advocacy with your university peers. It’s great that you want to be involved, for both your own benefit and the benefit of others. During this very important time in your life, there are some key principles to consider as you make commitments, invest your time, and pursue friendships that could last for many years.

I don’t know what kind of Christian club it is with which you are involved, but I can’t help but wonder if there are several types of denominations that are represented there. Often in college, there may be Christians who come from very different places in their faith. There may be an adjustment period as people learn to accept those differences in each other’s walks. I would encourage you to give it some time before you leave this club. Hebrews 10:24-25 is a good reminder of the fact that we should continue to fellowship with our brothers and sisters in Christ, to be mindful of them and exhort them, which will stir up love and good works on each other’s behalf and support us as we live more and more in the end times.

You also didn’t mention the kind of social advocacy group with which you are participating. Depending on the cause, sometimes people don’t feel like they can either advocate for it at the level you feel you should, or even get behind it at all. I find it interesting, however, that a Christian community would view you as peculiar because you have a heart for social justice. God’s Word charges us to take up the cause of the oppressed, the orphan, the widow, and so on (Ps. 82:3-4, Is. 1:17, James 1:27). Praise the Lord that He has given you a heart that loves justice; don’t forget to also be merciful and humble as you walk with the Lord in your endeavors (Micah 6:8).

I have worked both in a church community and in the secular world, and there were definitely times I felt more accepted by those outside the church. Part of it, I believe, is that Christians bring the light of Christ into people’s lives, even if they don’t recognize it as His influence. The world is starving for love and acceptance. They are desperate for kindness and commitment. God diffuses the fragrance of Christ through us into a terribly lost world, and some people will respond to the ministry of God’s loving Spirit (2 Cor. 2:14-16). This is one of the reasons we are in the world but not of it, that God might be glorified through us. And sometimes, we His people can make the church feel like a pretty exclusive club, with our judgment, legalism, pride, and lack of real love for one another. If we don’t feel accepted and loved by our family in Christ, and we feel appreciated and valued in the world, it is easy to write off fellowship as a loss. But don’t be tempted to do that. Find another church group. Look for a small group to join. Check out area churches that might have a young adults ministry. We can be friendly with the world, but we cannot fellowship with the lost in the same way we can with those of one Spirit (2 Cor. 6:14, 1 Cor. 12:13, Prov. 18:24).

Stay in prayer and in the Word, and God will reveal more than we can figure out on our own (Prov. 3:5-6). His ways are always above our ways, and He will give you the wisdom and discernment you need. Do all that you do to please God and not man, and to His glory :) (Gal. 1:10, Col. 3:17). And always remember how much He loves you!

Much love,
Beloved by Him

Comment on Seeking Advice by Jenn Sat, 02 Apr 2016 07:17:59 +0000 Hi,

I’m a 20 year old university student. I have been heavily involved in the Christian club at my school since I started university…but I’ve never really felt like I belonged there. I’ve made a few really good friends through the Christian club, but for the most part Ive always felt like nobody there really gets me. Im not sure why…I find it so hard to make connections; I just feel so out of place. I should say that I dont think anyone is trying to purposefully make me feel this way; they are all lovely people who love the Lord, I just get the feeling that we’re not on the same wavelength.

Recently I started to get more involved in an advocacy group at my university and that has ignited a passion in me for advocating for those who are oppressed and marginalized. I know this is a passion God has placed in me. And I know he has placed me in this advocacy group for a reason, as I am one of 2 Christians in the group. I have made so many amazing friends through this advocacy group and I feel like they all accept and value me just because of who I am. Its sad to say, but I feel more at home with my advocacy group friends than the people in the Christian club…

Lately Ive been noticing that I dread going to the Christian club events because I just feel like a total outsider there. Ive felt this way to some extent since I started being a part of the club, but I still stuck around because I know I need the support of a Christian community…but I actually feel the opposite of supported when I hang out with them. I also think me getting involved with the advocacy group has created a bigger rift between me and them, cause now they REALLY dont get me (Im just another “crazy” social justice warrior).

So basically, what should I do? If Im being honest, I would prefer not be a part of the Christian club anymore. But would that be wrong? Why do I feel so out of place there? Am I doing something wrong?

Thank you in advance,

Comment on Seeking Advice by Blessed and Highly Favored Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:05:23 +0000 Thank you for coming to us again.

Let me first frame your question like this: Everything that is unholy, unrighteous, unclean, everything; comes from the root of sin, plain and simple. Only one person was sinless. He Came, He lived and taught; He died for our sins and rose on the 3rd Day so we would not die in our sinful state. Jesus prevails in all things.

In this era, we live our lives being bombarded by media, especially in the Western Culture. Oh the anguish, not being able to constantly look at our phones, catch what was just tweeted, and comment on someone’s page. We do live in perilous times and the road of Christianity is fraught with endless distractions, and amusements that seek to pull us away from our commitments, to make us focus, if only for a moment, on sinful things.

During this Holy Week, I remember when I was on the Mount of Olives, thinking on the arrival of Jesus on a donkey as a VICTOR into Jerusalem and the events of that week. I imagined the the roar of the people singing and yelling and noise of His arrival in Jerusalem. The people loved Him, and showered Him with love in the display of waving palm fronds and laying their coats on the street for the donkey to tread on. As I walked down the steep road, there is a Jewish cemetery that fills the hill side on the left. The road leads to The Garden of Gethsemane, which is where our Lord was betrayed. At the top of the Hill, I was thinking about triumph, but when I got to The Garden, all I could think was Jesus seeing his captors, walk along the zig zag path from the top of the Gate of the City to the valley and up to the hillside of the grove of olives. He must have heard them leave, and seen their torches parade down the hillside toward Him, yet prayed even harder that He would be obedient (Luke 22:39-46) to do The Will of the Father. And because Jesus prayed, He was strengthened and proceeded to fulfill His Mission.

I write this to you earnestly…all perversions come from sin, BUT Jesus is the, “Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world (John 1:29).” If the devil thought he could get Jesus to sin, (Jesus the Son of God, Emmanuel, and the only Holy thing on earth), what did Jesus do PRIOR to the temptation and directly after? He prayed. There is HOLY POWER in prayer, and sinful imaginations must be cast down and prayed out. But you musn’t put yourself in a position to encourage or entertain such thoughts to begin with. Removing yourself from situations is the first step. If it’s media (TV, internet, phone, etc) turn it off and block images. Then, check your mind. Don’t let it wander off into places it’s not supposed to be. Capture that thought and and ask yourself, “Would Jesus think this?” 99.999999% of the time it’s no. If it’s people..well, are you supposed to hanging with this crowd and do they edify (lift up) Christ? Might be time for some new friends. Sin distorts our perceptions, sin distorts our behavior, sin distorts everything. But Praise God for the saving Grace of the Lord Jesus Christ who takes away the sin of the world! Rejoice!

Pray. Ask for His help; He’s always a whisper away.
“Our Father who is in Heaven, Hallowed be Thy Name….”

Blessed and Highly Favored