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I Believe Sex Before Marriage Is Fine…

Submitted by on January 22, 2009 – 5:12 pm4 Comments

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Matthew 19:4-6 (Contemporary English Version)4Jesus answered, “Don’t you know that in the beginning the Creator made a man and a woman? 5That’s why a man leaves his father and mother and gets married. He becomes like one person with his wife. 6Then they are no longer two people, but one. And no one should separate a couple that God has joined together.”  I just would like to know how that is represented as ONLY married people have to be virgins? You think the writers of God would come on out and say it. I think when it says “He becomes like one person with his wife” It means they unite in marriage and they are now one.  I believe sex is ok as long as it IS the person that you’re going to be with for the rest of your life.

Trophy of Grace responds…

Jesus is saying that God made man and woman to leave their father and mother to be united together in marriage. Then that is when they become one physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  Sex is a benefit of marriage.  When we are married is when we as men and woman are to experience true intimacy with one another, and sex is part of that. God’s purpose was that we were to remain pure (virgins) until we are married.

You say that you believe that sex is ok if it is with the person your going to be with for the rest of your life, but if you know that you are going to be with them, then why wouldn’t you want to marry them and ask God’s blessings on your relationship? Then you can give yourselves to one another without guilt, knowing that it is right in God’s eyes.

I know out of personal experience that I thought that certain guys could have been ‘the one,’ and I foolishly gave myself to them, to only end up feeling used and taken advantage of.  This is most certainly not God’s will for us.

It’s important that whatever we think is based on truth. Most importantly, we need to be sure that what we think lines up with the Word of God. Meaning…we need to know what God thinks about it because that is what matters most. We should want His will for our lives more than we want our own, because our way is full of foolishness and error.

“There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death.” Proverbs 16:25

He says not to commit adultery and to flee from any sexual immorality. (Exodus 20:14 & 1 Corinthians 6:18)

I found this article, Why should I save sex for marriage? written by authors George Martin and Scott Myers of Summit Ministries.  I know that it is long, but I really think you should read it.

Why should I save sex for marriage?

When God creates something, He creates it with purpose and design. The Genesis account of creation makes it clear that God’s creation is “good” (Genesis 1:31). But mankind has a history of distorting what God has made, whether out of ignorance or just plain stubbornness. The golden calf of the Israelites, for example. Gold is beautiful to look at, but God clearly did not want His people worshipping it.

Sex (and yes, sex was God’s idea) is no different. God created it, and therefore it is reasonable to expect that it is good. But when man distorts it by ignoring God’s specific standards, it becomes harmful and destructive. So the question we’ve asked ‘why save sex for marriage’ is really a question of understanding God’s purpose and design for sex. We can choose to do things God’s way, and experience the beauty of His plan, or we can choose to do things our way, and experience harm and destruction (Proverbs 16:25).

So, let’s talk first about why God created sex. One reason is obvious: procreation. When God told Adam and Eve to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28), they probably figured out that He wanted them to have sex. But God also wanted them to develop intimacy with one another, and He knew that sex would help them do that, in a way that nothing else could.

God also knew that because sex is so powerful in creating intimacy that there must be some constraints on how it was to be used, so He specifically relegated sex to the arena of marriage. The kind of intimacy that God desires between a married couple cannot occur between one person and several others; it can only be experienced between one man and one woman. Hence God has specifically said, “Do not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14), and “Flee sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18). That is, do not have sex with someone who is not your spouse. Obedience requires that sex be reserved for one’s spouse.

So far we have two basic reasons to save sex for marriage: (1) God tells us to, and (2) God’s purpose and design for sex cannot be fully achieved any other way. Many, though, have argued that non-marriage sex is not all that harmful. Let’s look carefully at the potential consequences for this particular area of disobedience.

Sex outside of marriage causes damage in at least two areas: (1) physical consequences, and (2) relational consequences.

The physical consequences are becoming increasingly obvious and increasingly dangerous in today’s society. AIDS and other Sexually Transmitted Diseases are frightening realities. “Safe sex” is more accurately described as “reduced risk sex.” The only truly safe sex is abstinence. There is also a very real risk that children could be born — and possibly grow up without two parents. Your actions affect your life, your partner’s life, and the lives of your family. They can result in handicapping an innocent baby’s life as well. Worst of all the willfull destruction of human life often results from pre-marital sex.)

The relational consequences are just as real, though they may be more difficult to grasp. First, sin always damages a person’s relationship with his God. Psalm 66:18 says, “If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.” Intentional disobedience of God’s command to not commit adultery dishonors and displeases God. Conversely, God is pleased when His children choose obedience and self-control instead of the immedia
cy of pleasure.

Second, relational damage happens between a Christian and those who are watching his life. The sin of adultery (i.e., televangelist scandals) causes a person’s friends and even “outsiders” to view the adulterer as less committed to obedience, and more prone to hypocrisy. But a Christian who saves himself or herself in obedience to God wins the respect of those who see his or her life.

Sex outside of marriage also damages the relationship between the persons involved. Trust is the main issue here. If two people do not cherish sex enough to wait for a marriage commitment, how can they trust one another for fidelity? Conversely, a man and woman build trust and respect for one another when they both survive the struggles of self-control — each will have the confidence that the other respects them, and cherishes their intimacy.

Similarly, if a person has not carried sexual purity into marriage, his or her marriage relationship is affected by the past. If a man or woman has previously had sex with someone else, their marital intimacy has already been affected. One or both spouses will have to deal with real or perceived comparisons with “former lovers” and feeling that intimacy was not important enough for the other person to wait for it. But if both have waited for their wedding night, the intimacy has already begun with a solid foundation.

Why save sex for marriage? We’ve discussed several reasons: (1) God commands us to, (2) God’s purpose and design for sex can only be achieved within marriage, and (3) the physical and relational consequences of sex outside of marriage are painfully real.

“But we’re in love!” some might say. Maybe so, but if one believes in God’s definition of love, he must realize that love is patient and kind; it does not seek to please itself, nor does it delight in evil, but is always hopeful (1 Corinthians 13). True love would be patient in waiting for the proper time for sex.

It would be kind to future spouses by not pre-harming marital intimacy. True love would be unselfish in placing God’s desires and the needs of others above itself. It would not delight in the evil of disobedience, nor would it force another to disobey God. Love could never be a reason for premarital sex; rather, it should be one of the greatest reasons to avoid premarital sex.
“But we’re going to be married anyway” is another common excuse. Along with being presumptuous, this stance will almost certainly leave one question unanswered: If one gives in to moral temptation before marriage, what’s to stop him or her from giving in to moral temptation once married?

“What if it’s too late? What if I’ve already forfeited my sexual purity?”
Good question! Certainly a person cannot reverse the past, but there are a number of steps one should take to keep from further damaging his or her intimacy with God and others.

First, acknowledge your actions as sin. For those who have accepted Christ’s payment of the penalty for their sins, He asks only that they confess – agree with God that they are sinful.

Second, maintain purity from this moment forward. Jesus told the woman caught in sexual sin to “go and sin no more” (John 8:11). You cannot change what’s been done, but you can keep yourself and others from any further damage by avoiding situations which might cause you to compromise your commitment to sexual purity. Paul advised Timothy to run away from temptation (2 Timothy 2:22), and Joseph is famous for running from moral danger (Genesis 39:7-12).

Third, be honest with anyone who is a “potential spouse” — don’t wait till your wedding night to discuss your sexual past. Some intimacy problems may be averted if you address them early on.

Sex is a good thing. It must be, if God created it! The only way to keep it a “good thing” is to follow God’s guidelines. God will reward you if you choose to honor Him, and save sex for its proper time and place — your marriage.

I hoped this helped you. You will be in my prayers sister..

Love,

Trophy of Grace

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4 Comments »

  • admin says:

    :) Happy that you like Weused2bu!

  • Ma40Yt9 says:

    Very, very nice page! :)

  • admin says:

    The first time hurts but then after that it feels better. However having sex before marriage can you leave you feeling unfulfilled and used, even if it was ‘good’ sex . God’s plan for us is to wait to enjoy sex in marriage. There is great blessing in saving yourself for your husband. Don’t think so much on how sex feels or you will find yourself giving in to experiencing it before your time. Be wise and wait :)

  • Jessy says:

    How does sex feel?

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