The First Christmas Carol
December 3, 2014 – 9:09 am | No Comment

By Lynn Mosher
What is one of the best elements about Christmas, aside from the obvious of Jesus’ birth? The presents? The tree? The food? Nope! For me, it’s the music!
I love all the Christmas music. …

Read the full story »
Dating God’s Way

The decision to date should be by divine appointment, as we allow our heavenly Father to choose who will be spending this special time with His daughters. Learn how to let God make all the arrangements, so you can enjoy the blessings of being in His will!

Get Anonymous Advice NOW!

We’re here to give you advice based on the truth of God’s Word and our life experiences. Please feel free to ask any question you’d like. We want to serve you.

Meet the Women of WeUsed2bu

Collectively, we’ve lived through many of the same experiences that teenagers and young women may go through at some point in their own lives. Read our stories..

Recent Questions & Answers

Here you will find a list of all the questions we’ve received and their answers. May you be led to the article that will help minister to you in your own circumstances.

Tools 4 Building Your Faith

Power-up your walk with God as you read Christian living articles that inform, strengthen and inspire. Equip yourself with the truth of God’s word!

Home » Answered By Trophy of Grace, Battling fear/worry/anxiety/depression, Break Ups, Carol Peterson, Fear/Courage, Marriage/Divorce, Recent Questions & Answers

I Come From A Divorced Home and I’m Scared To Get Married

Submitted by on September 4, 2012 – 12:37 pmNo Comment

E comments on the post ‘Dating Advice From My Daughter’

Hi, I have a question. I come from a divorced home and I’m scared to get married one day because I’m scared something will go wrong and I’ll end up divorced. I pray every day to God not to let that happen, I despertly don’t want to be a statistic. Divorce has given me nothing but wounds that are still being nursed back to health. I heard that like about 50% of divorces happen to people who marry under the age of 24 or 25 , my parents are a part of this statistic; but what if I marry younger than that? What if God wants me to? I desperatley don’t want to be another statistic, and it would kill me to see my children have to suffer the same thing I did.

Thanks, E

Trophy of Grace replies…

I know the pain of divorce sister. My parents divorced when I was young. They got together young and they were not Christians. I was just 17 years old when I first married. I was young and knew nothing about Jesus. My heart was full of rebellion and selfishness. I never understood the true commitment and covenant of marriage. We had a child together that still suffers today because we can’t seem to get along as her parents. I hate it :’(  (Malachi 2:13-16, Matthew 5:31-32, Matthew 19:3-9)

Divorce is devastating to both parties and to the children. Divorce is the unraveling of a family. It is so sad. All too often as married people we allow life’s trials and circumstances to so overwhelm us that we focus more on our problems rather than on loving in the midst of the storms of life. We begin to find ourselves so hurt, angry, bitter, and unforgiving that we can’t have a healthy marriage. (Ephesians 4:31-32, Hebrews 12:15)

I am have been with my husband now for 14 years and it has not been easy. We married in our early twenties. We spent the last years growing and maturing as adults; thank God that God who started a good work in us will continue working in us until Christ Jesus returns  (Philippians 1:6) We have experienced a lot of pain and dysfunction in our lives and we have had to learn and are still learning to allow God to heal us from those pains. We learn to support each other through good and bad times. Are there times where we have wanted to give up? Sadly yes, but we don’t. We choose to love. (Galatians 6:9, 1 Corinthians 13:1-7)

That’s it sister, love is a choice. It’s an action we choose. We choose to forgive. We choose to believe the best in each other. We choose to be long suffering. We choose to pray and trust that God is working in our lives and working all things in our life for our good and for His glory. We know that God has a plan for our marriage so we press forward to fulfill that purpose. We don’t give up. We fight for our love. We fight for our family. (Romans 8:28-30, Genesis 50:20, Jeremiah 29:11, 1 Timothy 6:12)

You don’t have to be a statistic. You don’t have to have your kids go through what you went through. This is why you must choose wisely and prayerfully your future mate. Don’t just choose anyone. Choose a man that loves God, not a man that ‘says’ he love God, but a man that you see in his life that he loves God. Check his spiritual fruit. See how he acts with his family, friends, and loved ones. See how he manages money. Does he serve others? Or is everything about him? He’s he giving or greedy? Is he a doer of the Word or just a hearer. These things matter sister. Anyone can ‘say’ they are a Christian, but actions will always speak louder than words. (James 1:22-23)

Everything that Carol and her daughter shared in the article is full of truth and wisdom. Don’t ignore their wise counsel.

Don’t allow fear to keep you from believing in love. Our Father knows what you need and want; He has a way of giving us both. In fact, He gives us better, because He truly knows what we need and even  knows better than we do, what we really want.

Release the fear. Get counseling for the pain you experienced from your parents divorce. Then focus on renewing your mind on marriage and love. God will give you beauty for the pain you have experienced sweet sister. (Romans 12:2)

Stay on the narrow road.

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

Carol Peterson adds…

Dear E

Thank you for sharing your heart with us. God blessed me with the example of married parents. I’m so sorry you didn’t have that blessing. But something I want to share with you is that even though my parents were married 60 years, every day was not a day romping hand-in-hand through life together.

Marriage is hard just as relationships are hard in general and life is hard–usually. My parents’ example of the difficulties in staying together is one thing that helped my husband and I focus on working things out.

Marriage is wonderful but it is also sometimes very hard. One of the reasons people advise not getting married so young is not just that you have more life experience but also because a few extra years helps steel you for the work it takes to develop and keep a strong marriage. But that doesn’t mean getting married young equals a failed marriage. Obviously your chances of success are increased or decreased based on the depth of commitment you both have for each other and the number of shared values.

Most importantly, it depends on how much Jesus is at the center of both of your lives. He is always the key component in any relationship, any situation, any person’s life.

Sometimes God uses our pain. In fact, if we let Him, God ALWAYS uses our pain — for our good and for the good of others and epecially to further His good purpose and plan. Perhaps, if you focus not on your parents’ failure and your resulting fear, but rather on their example of the work and depth of commitment it takes to have a successful relationship and the need to put Jesus at its center, then you can replace some of your fear with hope and courage.

Next month at WeUsed2BU, our theme is “fear and courage.” I hope you will read some of our articles and be encouraged.

Pray that God will show you how to use your parents’ example — not as what is destined to be for your own life — but on things to avoid and more importantly–on keeping Jesus front and center to guide your relationships and marriage in Him.

I pray for you now: Heavenly Father, sometimes our hurts run so deeply in our hearts that we’re afraid even you can’t find and heal them. Please take our pain and turn it into strength. Turn examples of bad relationships into examples of how not to live; what not to do. Remind us that in all things you are with us and seek to guide us if only we will stretch out our hand and take yours. Thank you for who you are and your good purpose for our lives. Amen.

 

 

——-

*The women of WeUsed2bu are a team of Christian counselors that provide godly counsel. If you or someone you know needs anonymous advice we are here to serve you. Seek Anonymous now

 

Leave a comment!

Add your comment below, or trackback from your own site. You can also subscribe to these comments via RSS.

Be nice. Keep it clean. Stay on topic. No spam.

You can use these tags:
<a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>

This is a Gravatar-enabled weblog. To get your own globally-recognized-avatar, please register at Gravatar.

CAPTCHA Image
*

  • fat girls ass fucked
  • licking little girls pussy
  • free asian women creampie videos
  • sex vid threesome
  • farm girls boobs
  • Teens getting fucked while sleeping
  • boys fuck milf free videos
  • 4142359820
  • Charlie theron sex scenes
  • free ex sex videos
  • free videos of girls getting tucked
  • 2101587658
  • cheating wife spy videos
  • amateur webcam superb
  • young teen girls fucked gang
  • swingers group sex pictures
  • slim black girls fuck
  • Big big black asses
  • harry young kentucky black farmer
  • 1222638114
  • cum inside japanese girls
  • sexy bitch lyrics
  • aunt judys free amateur nude pics
  • young babes sucking cock
  • girls performing sex acts with guns
  • big ass white chics videos
  • wired pussy ass beads
  • free young nudism gallery
  • sex girls egyptian pic
  • from japan lesbian
  • free wired pussy
  • celeb female pussy bush
  • petite casual clothes
  • freee star angelique gallery
  • oscar lusth foursome video
  • teenage girls pee movies
  • naked pics of ela longoria
  • girls coerced sex
  • kiss my ass lesbian
  • sextoon blond girl
  • torrent wife sex
  • Nude girls in kitchen
  • Sex xxx gratis
  • hot teen pussy fucking
  • hairy homemade threesome movie
  • old korean women sex artchive pic
  • girl having an orgasm squirting
  • blonde lesbians video
  • naked pic sites
  • slutload big black girls
  • japan tiny bikini
  • blonde erect clitoris pics
  • non vagina pics
  • mature old ladies sex tubes
  • mature housewife fuck
  • Nudist sex beach
  • young dildo ass
  • wicked lesbian
  • Indonesia sex
  • pictures of butt crack
  • polish teen free pics
  • black fuck viedoes
  • fat black ass fucked hard video
  • amateur extreme pics
  • pussy lesbian finger
  • free wife amateur videos
  • Young sexy asian girls
  • michie james video
  • ass licking ffm egorize
  • free amateur boys masturbation videos
  • pierced pussy pierced niples thumbs
  • golden era of videos
  • Teen kelly naked
  • all girl get fuck hard
  • free sex movies babes
  • fucked blonde pussy
  • ordinary nerd pussy
  • Nude kareena kapoor photo
  • black ebony galleries
  • boobs on bikes pics
  • women naked pussy small girl tits
  • sex pentration video
  • teen girl fist
  • teens free video gallery
  • shemales swimming naked videos
  • anal office pantyhose videos
  • girls young mature
  • girls eating pussy creamie
  • free xxx movies mexican girls
  • girl virgins getting fucked
  • Girl ass fucking
  • 7298847306
  • allison daley clothing petite
  • amateur transexuals powered by vbulletin
  • teens kissing girls
  • Black girl having sex
  • free schools for troubled teen girls
  • kinky girls masturbating and spanking
  • Lesbian girls threesome
  • video sites amature sex
  • hairy erotic videos
  • 5469835073
  • video of reese witherspoon sex
  • sexy bikini underwear
  • black thick free video
  • ebony lesbians licking dirty chocolate asshole
  • sexy blond string bikini
  • videos of amatuer wife
  • Lesbian pussy cum
  • ass fat sex woman
  • How to masturbate for man
  • Nude pics of kendra wilkinson
  • mature adult gallery
  • Sex scene in the wrestler
  • free mature black clits tits videos
  • shemale fisting pics
  • nice fucking pussy
  • free video watching of
  • worms in pussy sex
  • hot teen latin pics
  • shemale creampie girl bareback
  • naked sex nudits groups
  • fuck naked girls
  • 3758404834
  • erotic furry pics
  • naked girls geting fucked
  • Huge tit cumshots
  • Big pussie lips
  • laker girls boobs
  • peep hole pussy
  • girls sucking mens dicks
  • a transexual teen girls boobs
  • 5014159054
  • lesbian moms having sex video
  • ebony black women pictures
  • deep throat picture galleries
  • action girls sex scene
  • charmane star anal video
  • younger teen p o r n
  • fat black pussy movie
  • Sexy teen cum shot
  • mega asian anal galleries
  • japan high school girl
  • athletic fitness girls sex video
  • naked pussy boobs
  • teen black galleries
  • japanese girls public sex fuck
  • girl epic mount warcraft sex
  • 6842042818
  • girls naked in the water
  • star gallery post
  • venus anal videos
  • xanga video naked
  • men sucking cunt erotic sex stories
  • latina school girls xxx
  • plumber sex movie
  • Live sex hot live shows
  • Ass girl pics
  • pics of couples in
  • two guys lick pussy
  • mature nylon rease videos
  • navtica movies anal
  • anal sex blonde redtube
  • arab tits fucking pussy
  • young naked sexy teens
  • free mp shemale vids
  • Linda lusardi nude pictures
  • cp fresh pussy
  • oral sex girl gallery
  • old mature in bbc vids
  • beautiful girl galleries
  • blonde natural hairy pussy tube
  • young bikini teens
  • free star cumshot facial movies
  • blondes tongue anal fuckfest ass jpg
  • cute sexy young redhead pussy
  • mature wife goes black husband films
  • soft wet pink teen pussy close
  • sex scens from hollywood movies
  • sex with my girlfriends best friend
  • really sexy chicks
  • black ass girls sex sex
  • watching my wife fuck two cocks
  • Hot naked midgets
  • vintage mature galleries
  • Wet horny pussy
  • asian babes kissing pics
  • latina pussy ass butt booty
  • Hairy pussy closeup
  • stacey keibler sex video
  • 7627250694
  • busty z free movie s
  • swollen pussy lips
  • cock and ass movies
  • pussy pumping cups
  • private wife sex video
  • fuck japan free boob
  • interracial mandingo movie gallery
  • Girls boob show
  • 4826728855
  • creampiesuprise in pussy
  • naked skinnyteen girls
  • Black beauty pussy
  • nj sex videos
  • teens who suck for money
  • tween models galleries teen
  • sexy girl gagged
  • teen ebony free movies
  • pretty japanese enema anal girls
  • anal threesome cumshots
  • Huge indian boobs
  • pictures of shaved pussys
  • mature womenlong length videos
  • free homeade shemale videos
  • free minute blowjob movie
  • brunette public hardcore xvideos
  • Redhead lesbian
  • naked shower girls videos
  • wife tubes getting bred to blacks
  • webcam teen girls masturbate
  • hot young naked russian girls
  • free teen masturbation full videos
  • Nacked girls
  • teen lesbians and strapon
  • anal teen snapshots
  • german secretary pics
  • shaved danish girls
  • hot naked models showing pussy
  • raped young girl
  • naked batcherette partys
  • forced russian sex galleries
  • free adult amateur girl
  • cheating amateur housewives
  • black pregnant housewife
  • 1512843284
  • free ebony sex teasers
  • petite brunete teens
  • movies on seinfeld
  • tubes interracial gangbang
  • video share fpussy fuck
  • caught my wife eating pussy
  • homemade uk couple hardcore
  • black ass hand jobs
  • hardcore college girls
  • milf mature free video
  • free amateur male pictures
  • plump blonde teen with piercings nicole
  • girl grabbing girl ass
  • pussy fucking com
  • hot bitch video for scooter
  • person sex orgy video download
  • hd tube orgasm
  • clothed teens fuck
  • naruto video
  • giving better oral sex to women
  • free korean tube
  • Teen anal wmv
  • young teenage bikini models
  • sex toys waukesha party gals
  • fuck my pussy hardxxx
  • bikini babes galleries
  • mature women with young men
  • delinquents movie
  • mature nl old and young lesbians
  • hd streaming videos
  • young teen tiny fuck streaming
  • girls learning to deep throat
  • hardcore white teen ass
  • hot girls fuck each other