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I Feel Embarassed, Humiliated, Sad, & Miserable

Submitted by on April 20, 2010 – 6:00 pmNo Comment

Anonymous writes…

broken-heart-grants-tombI am so much in distress right now. I still am to be honest very much in love still with my ex. I have not even seen him much, but every time I see him old hurtful feelings of our break up come back up. I still love him. Here’s what’s been going on lately. The other day I told one of my friends who is in one of his classes to tell him I said hi, mind you I have not spoken to him in a while except for my occasional hi when I see him by chance. Well she did and he told her to tell me hi back, so she did. Well day before yesterday I was walking down the hall when I see him and one of his friends. He waves and I wave and say hi to him. Well when I walked down the stairs his friend turns around and screams hey jflowers, m says he misses you. Well that did it. I was head over hills once again. I really thought that he wanted me back. Also let me backtrack a bit, about a month ago his brother adds me to his MySpace then starts to talk to me. One day he was like, hey m says hi. So I’m like hey m and he starts to talk with me believing that the person that was talking was my ex turns out it was his brother.

So today I wrote him a note asking him about what his friend said and asking him about the MySpace thing. This is what our notes said

I SAID,

“HEY! …. I WAS JUST WONDERING WHAT WAS UP WITH YOUR FRIEND SCREAMING THAT YOU MISSED ME THE OTHER DAY. WOW THAT WAS INTERESTING. AND ALSO WAS THAT REALLY YOU ON MYSPACE AWHILE BACK TALKING TO ME OR YOUR BROTHER PLAYING….”

HE SAID,

“Hey sorry for D(his friend) he has been trying to mess with me a lot lately. He has been trying to hook me up with this other girl to and trying with you too. I don’t mean to be rude or anything but I’m with someone”

When he says someone he means the girl he broke up with me for and he just keeps being a jerk and messing with me. He got this one girl mad at me for no reason at all but I talked to her and we are cool again. He is just annoying. So I just stopped talking to him.

HE GOES ON,

“But don’t get me wrong I do miss you, but I never told him that. Just ignore him too, like I’m doing. And about MySpace, that was indeed my brother just being a brother. I saw the messages but I never sent or typed anything. So yeah now that I told you all of that just write me went ever you get a minute to do so”

I hate not dating him and to make it even worse I feel really bad for writing him in the first place. And I feel embarrassed, humiliated, sad, and miserable.

WAS HE JUST TRYING TO BE NICE TO ME AND SPARE MY FEELINGS WHEN HE SAID DONT GET ME WRONG? I DO MISS YOU PLEASE RESPOND TODAY I WANT TO CRY.

Trophy of Grace replies…

Sister I know that you are hurting. It’s terrible to have a broken heart. I really cannot tell you what his intentions were when he said the things that he has said to you. Only God knows what his true intentions are. However based on what you’ve shared above he seems to have moved on to the next girl. I think it’s time for you to move on also.

You are meditating and hoping for something with this young man that may not be for you. I don’t know if you are a Christian or not but I want you to know that God has a wonderful and specific plan for your life. His plans are always for good. He has a guy for you, you just need to be patient and wait for God to bring him into your life. (Jeremiah 29:11)

So many girls and woman are desperately searching for Mr. Right and finding all the Mr. Wrongs. We did a whole month of teachings on dating. Take a moment and read some of the postings. I think you will be encouraged and enlightened. Here’s a link to that month’s articles.

Dating God’s Way

Two of the articles that I’d really like to you read are

Do You Have To Kiss A Lot Of Frogs To Meet Prince Charming?

And

Mission For Mr.Right

My suggestion to you sweet sister is allow God to heal you by drawing close to Him. When we are in His presence we find healing, comfort, strength, and courage. Most of all we receive encouragement and revelation for our lives. Our eyes opened to see that He is constantly by our side, guiding and leading us. He is always working everything that happens in our life out for our good. (Romans 8:28) We have to trust His plan and His will for our life. He knows what’s best for us.

It’s time for you to start trusting Him and relying on Him for direction in your life. We need Him to help us make wise decisions. We need Him to strength us and give up hope in seemingly hopeless situations.
Your life will be changed forever once you surrender your desires for His. You will be blessed and full of peace and true joy that come from a relationship with Jesus Christ.

The choice is yours sister. You can continue to give your heart to boys that are motivated by their own selfish motives or you can surrender your heart to the true Lover of Your Soul who unselfishly died on the cross for you.

I will be praying for you sister. Please don’t forget to read the postings I suggested above.

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

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