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I Have a Horrible Addiction to Pornography & Masturbation

Submitted by on December 19, 2008 – 3:44 am35 Comments

Anonymous said… God bless you!!! I just found this site & I thank God I did because i really need help from a female while staying anonymous because im just so embarrassed and ashamed!! :( I am a young female and i have a horrible addiction to pornography & masturbation and no matter how much i pray or try to stay away from this temptation i continue to fall. It’s horrible and i know that it hurts the Lord when i do it and its also having bad affects on my self-esteem & self-worth. It gives me feelings of worthlessness, guilt, & shame. And it’s also affecting my relationship with a good friend of mines because every time i fall i take out my frustration on him. This problem is horrible because i know its wrong but i cant stop. if theres any scriptures, words of encouragement, or advice please help i would REALLY appreciate it since i feel like im the only female who suffers from this… ::::Thanks::::

ashamed1 Trophy of Grace Replies..

 My Dear Sister,

You are not the only one going through this. They are many others that go through this also. I too have battled with both of these addictions. I overcome these temptations by reminding myself that my body is the temple of God and that I do not want to defile it. The battle is really in our minds. We have to bring every thought under submission to the Word of God. As soon as the thoughts attack my mind I out loud rebuke them in the name of Jesus because I don’t want to fall into sin. I know that if I begin to listen to the perverted thoughts that try to tempt me that I will act on those thoughts. Instead, I choose to walk in the Spirit and practice self-control.

 The more I read the Word, the more my mind becomes renewed. You have to get into the Word of God. Allow it to renew and change the way you think. You will see that the more you put in the Word of God, the more your desires will change and line up with His will for your life.

When I first realized that this sin had a stronghold on me, I felt the same way you do, but I did not give up. I know that you won’t either or else you would not be writing us. You can overcome this. I promise you if you will submit yourself daily to the Lord, you can defeat this demonic attack. I just read an article from www.bible.com that is perfect for what you are going through. I know that it is long but PLEASE read it. I am sure that you will find it helpful.

And to our other readers..if you are battling this same problem or have at one time. Please leave a comment for this sister to see. It can be anonymous..I just want her to see that she is not alone. Tell us what did or are doing to overcome this temptation. Here is the article-

WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT… MASTURBATION?

 “What does the Bible say about masturbation?” is one of our most frequently asked questions. Many Christians have found it difficult to answer this question according to the Bible, because the Bible never mentions masturbation specifically. To understand how God feels about this subject, we must examine other verses that deal with issues such as lust, self-control and purity. Also, we must examine its fruit to see if it is from God. We have tried to address this issue by answering some of the most frequently asked questions. Our prayer is that God will use this page to bring freedom and deliverance. “Does God care about what we do in the privacy of our bedrooms?” Sex is God’s invention. He is the mastermind behind it—and His creation is worth far more to Him than it is to us. This beautiful expression of love was created out of His own heart, as a gift to be experienced between a husband and wife. It is only in marriage that this manifestation of intimacy can be fully enjoyed in the depth for which it was created.

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral” (Hebrews 13:4, NIV). “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4, KJV).

The more beautiful and unique something is (like sexual intercourse), the more power it holds over our lives, either for good or bad influence. That is why it is so easy for the devil to corrupt the most precious of God’s gifts. When we become more in love with the gifts than the One who endowed them, the things that were designed to bless us begin to destroy us instead. Yes, God cares about what we do with our bodies, in public or in private. He doesn’t want us to abuse ourselves in any way. In fact, an older definition of masturbation is “self-abuse.” Although more modern dictionaries may no longer carry this definition, they are still linked together under self-abuse: Self-abuse noun¹ 1. Abuse of oneself or one’s abilities. 2. Masturbation. 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV) further confirms this, saying that unlawful sexual relations defile our own bodies.

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” “Isn’t it still better to masturbate than to commit fornication?”

The easy answer to this question would be, “Yes, it is better to masturbate, because at best it corrupts only one person. It certainly is the lesser of two evils.” However, why would a loving, holy, all-powerful God abandon you to a situation in which you have to choose any evil, whether it be “lesser” or “greater?” To really answer this question, we must again go back to God’s original plan for sex. First of all, masturbation will not truly relieve the sexual pressure that one may feel. It may for a short moment, but in the long run it only creates a deeper desire and capacity for sex, which will lead to more masturbation. If you let yourself become enslaved to a sexual high, you will find that you need to go to increasingly extreme acts to maintain the same degree of excitement. There are even ungodly sex therapists who recommend masturbation as a way of increasing sexual desire, not lessening it. This creates a vicious circle, like the junkie who craves a “fix,” but is only temporarily satisfied. The more he indulges in his dependency, the more ensnared by addiction he becomes. This is the nature of all sin. That is why Jesus declared that all who sin become a slave to sin (John 8:34). Furthermore, masturbation usually involves fantasy, visualization, and often pornography. The Bible is very clear as to what God expects of us in these areas of fantasy and lust. It teaches that we must not look lustfully at each other nor should we behave in such a manner as to entice others to lust after us.

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust upon a girl. I know full well that the Almighty God sends calamity on those who do” (Job 31:1-3, The Living Bible). “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28).

While the above verses refer to men lusting after women, all women know that it can very easily be reversed to apply to themselves as well. Men may be more easily visually stimulated than women, but women can be just as vulnerable to sexual fantasy in the emotional realm. Both are sin in God’s eyes , and both can be brought into subjection by controlling our thoughts through Christ’s power. All sexual immorality begins with a thought. A lustful thought not taken captive, will eventually lead to other perversions, because sin reproduces itself in increasingly greater measures. If we do not deal with our evil thoughts, they will take root in our hearts. It is for this reason that God is so concerned with our thought life. Jesus came not only to deliver us from our “outward” sins, but also from wickedness that begins in the heart.

“Isn’t God unreasonable to demand sexual purity after giving us sexual drives that seem to overwhelm us at times?”

Our loving God never demands from us what is impossible for us to do. We are so weak within ourselves that it may seem impossible, but He will equip us with His holy power to overcome any sin, if we ask in faith. Of course, sexual urges in and of themselves are not wicked. They are natural. God created us that way. He desires that we get optimum pleasure out of them by using them the way they were created to be used. However, many desires for physical gratification (whether it be food, sex, etc.) stem from a deeper need that is unfilled deep inside us. Gorging our flesh can never fill a hunger that grows out of our spirit. Only intimacy with God can fill the deepest needs inside of us. No other created thing has that power. God is no more unreasonable than any caring parent who lovingly disciplines their child. It is only because He knows what is best for us. He sees a mighty potential in each one of us that far supersedes our wildest dreams, and He loves us enough to do all He can to bring it to pass.

“I agree with all the theory, but living it out on a day to day level is another story.”

This is the place where we need the empowerment of the Holy Spirit in our everyday lives. The Holy Spirit is not a vague “force,” but the very power of God to comfort you and strengthen you against the sins that used to rule you before you were born again. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we have the very ability that Jesus had to resist temptation. He depended completely upon the Father and so must we. Something you must know is that God is not the one who is tempting you in this area to “test” you. God is on your side and wants to set you free from these things, not lead you into them!

“When tempted, no one should say “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed” (James 1:13-14).

God wants us to overcome every sin and temptation in our lives. Please slowly read the following verses and let their message seep deep inside your spirit.

“No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it” (1 Corinthians 10:13). “For though we live in the world we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:3-5). “In the same way count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness. For sin shall not be your master for you are not under law but under grace” (Romans 6:11-14). “For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.” (Hebrews 4:15-16, King James Version). “Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God” (2 Corinthians 7:1). “Can I really be set free?” “In (this) freedom, Christ has made us free—completely liberated us; stand fast then, and do not be hampered and held ensnared and submit again to a yoke of slavery—which you have once put off ” (Galatians 5:1 Amp).

If you are in a real struggle with any form of sexual sin, we do not believe it was by accident that God led you to this teaching. He wants to set you free, starting right now! We would like to share several things that you can do to break loose from this stronghold:

1. Confess this sin first to God, then go to a committed Christian you trust, such as your pastor. Ask God to lead you to someone that you can be accountable with, who will be faithful to pray with you and for you. This will take humility on your part, but it will lead to life. James 5:16 says: “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” (You may not feel “righteous” but if you have admitted your sin to God and received His forgiveness, you are! That means your prayers are powerful and effective!)

 2. Flee from and reject anything that aggravates this sin. For example, you may need to get off the Internet for a season or purchase software that blocks out pornography. This may sound too drastic, but it certainly is mild compared to Jesus who said, “If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body, than for your whole body to go into Hell” (Matthew 5:30). His point was that we must be willing to part with anything that causes us to sin—even if it hurts temporarily.

3. You may need to seek healing and deliverance from qualified Christians who are anointed in this area of ministry. If you have been deeply involved in sexual sins, the devil probably has a stronghold in that area of your life. If you can, find some people who can help you stand against the devil, for he is the one who seeks to lead you into temptation, and whispers lies of hopelessness and shame into your ears. If he drops a filthy thought into your mind just when you are trying to pray (he has used this tactic on even the holiest saints of God), tell him to leave in the name of Jesus! Recognize his voice for what it is, and submit yourself to God. As you do this and resist the devil, he will flee from you! He is deathly afraid of those who are submitted to God in brokenness and humility.

4. Don’t give up! Deliverance might take time. Self-control takes effort. You may slip occasionally—or even a lot. But remember that God loves you and He will be faithful to perfect His character in you as long you keep submitting to Him. Eventually you will win—and not because of your best efforts, but because of God’s mercy (Titus 3:5). Just as salvation is received in faith, so deliverance must be received in faith. This has nothing to do with our character, strength, or failings. The only thing it is dependant upon is you receiving it in humility. If you should fail, recognize it quickly, ask God to forgive you—and then receive His forgiveness! He is faithful to do that which He promised, not just in a select few mighty men and women of God, but in all who ar e willing to come humbly before Him. That includes you!

We want to encourage you to hold on to this scripture as your anchor:

“May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul, and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. The one who calls you is faithful and He will do it” (1 Thessalonians 5:23-24).

If there is anything else we can do to help you, please let us know. In closing, we would like to pray for you:

“Father, we thank you for bringing this person into our website. We know that it was your Holy Spirit that led them here and we thank you for your faithfulness to them! We lift them up to you now and ask that You fill them with a desire for You that transcends every other desire they have ever known. Let them know your cleansing love and power. We thank you that he whom the Son has set free, is free indeed. We speak this freedom into the life of this one whom the devil has bound in shame. We speak healing and deliverance and we break every tie that has kept them under a spirit of addiction and perversion. We stand against the Evil One and his every plan to bring destruction in this one’s life. Father, in faith, and by the power and authority You have given us, we declare that this one is FREE in the name of Jesus! We commit them to Your care and we loose Your Holy Spirit to minister to them at this very instant. We ask these things in the precious name of Your son, Jesus Christ.”

35 Comments »

  • kc 4 jc says:

    glory to God deborrah.its funny coz i just read the last post after posting mine.happy for you.bbye

  • kc 4 jc says:

    hey.
    just so yo know,i too am facing the masturbation problem but am alot better now than i was.personally i had lost control and what i had (as always when am helpless but not hopeless),i prayed.Even when i did it over and over,God reminded me that “if my heart condems me,God is bigger than my herat” (forgotten where that verse.) Girl,you are gonna come through.Speak into ur life and the least when all strength is gone,pray.take care x x .many of us are routing for you.let us know if you over come.

  • admin says:

    This comment has blessed our heart’s sister. Glory to God! We are so encouraged by your words.

    Congrats on your new marriage. May our Lord bless you both with love, wisdom, and understanding. If you haven’t already you should read the book called Love and Respect by Emmerson Eggerichs. It’s a good book for married couples.

  • Deborah says:

    Hi i wanted to give you an update. This is deborah, the one who asked you for help. Thank you SO much! My life has taken such a drastic turn since I found help with your site. The Lord delivered me and I can now say I am fully healed :)
    I am now married to a wonderful man of God.; though I never believed it could happen. It took alot of obedience, discipline, and encouragment but thank God I was able to overcome this addiction.
    I even showed this to my husband and told him how I came to you for help. He read it and was glad that I got the help I needed.

    THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! Though I know that God alone deserves ALL of the glory, im just glad He put you all in my life :)
    God bless you!!!!

  • Father,

    I come before you in Jesus name on behalf of my sister here. She is feeling broken and crushed in spirit over this sin in her life. Father help her to see that your Holy Spirit in her can help her overcome ANY battle no matter what it is. She does not have to be a slave to sin any more. I pray that you would give me the words to speak to her in love. I ask that you would touch heart and give her a desire to draw closer to you in your Word so that she can find strength, confidence, faith, and courage to keep pressing forward. I bind any condemnation that may be coming against her mind and ask that you would help her to realize that she has been forgiven and empowered by grace to live her life more abundant here in this world. I thank you for bringing her to us to speak words of life and power. I ask that you bring others to her that will confirm your will for her life, that will confirm what you have been speaking to her heart. I trust you and leave her to you because she belongs to you. In Jesus name I pray, Amen!

    Sister,

    You are NOT stupid!! All of us battle sin daily. All of us fall short daily. Not one of us is without sin. But as believers we have the Holy Spirit living and working in our lives helping us to do what is pleasing to God. We are NOT in this world alone without help and without hope. You can and will overcome this by the blood of the Lamb and by your faith and trust in Christ Jesus. This is a time to draw close to Him like never before. (Philippians 2:13)

    This is a good place to be, humbled and broken. You see can we can never think we have arrived. We are always going to be susceptible to falling back into our old ways, if we are not constantly meditating on the Word. When we do not have our eyes on Jesus it is easier for us to allow compromise to settle in our minds and for us to do what we know we should not be doing. Get into the Word like never before and you will overcome this. Trust me. That is how I and many other brothers and sisters in Christ are going it.

    Also you need a support group. You need to have a couple of godly people that you can keep it real with and share your struggle with. These people should not be gossipers. You need to be able to trust them with this. They should be people that know the real you and will speak the truth of God’s Word to you in love. We all need people to hold us accountable to live up to who we are in Christ and who will pray and intercede on our behalf.
    If you do not have anyone right now we will be here for you to pray and encourage you. But I believe that our Lord is going to bring you someone who will love and understand you and what you are going through.

    I want to share some scriptures that I think you should meditate on. Allow the Holy Spirit to minister to your heart and mind through them.

    1 Corinthians 10:12-13 If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall. 13 The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.

    2 Peter 1:3-4 By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence. 4 And because of his glory and excellence, he has given us great and precious promises. These are the promises that enable you to share his divine nature and escape the world’s corruption caused by human desires. (Continue reading on thru verse 11)

    1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.

    James 1:14-15 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.

    Matthew 26:41 Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak!”

    Hebrews 2:18 Since he himself has gone through suffering and testing, he is able to help us when we are being tested.

    Philippians 2:13 For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the POWER to do what please him.

    Here is also our scriptures by subject page on temptation that will give you other scriptures that will help you in your struggle.

    http://www.weusedtobeyou.com/2010/09/23/scriptures-on-temptation/

    You are not alone in your struggle and you can overcome this. Don’t give up! (Galatians 6:9) No matter how many times you give into to this desire keep pressing into our Lord. Guilt and condemnation will try to keep you away from Him. The more you draw close to the Lord in the Word you find that you are getting stronger in overcoming your temptation and sin in this area.

    I will keep you in my prayers. Please don’t hesitate to write back when you need us.

    Sincerely,

    Trophy of Grace

  • Rain says:

    I thought i was strong and i had overcome this temptation, i felt happy and confident but in one moment its all started again and i have just relised how weak i am. Ever since i\’ve come away to uni, everything is just getting worse, little things just trigger me. I really don\’t know what to do, i feel so dirty and shameful of what ive done, but its like i can\’t stop it. I really just want someone to pray for me coz im finding it so hard. I know part of the reaseon why its started back again its coz God told me that i couldn\’t go out with a guy and now im just really craving a relationship. I just feel so helpless and stupid.

  • Thank you so much for sharing this comment sister! I am so proud of you. Continue to keep pressing forward. He is so faithful to not allow our temptation to become more than we can bare. He always provides a way out. He always provides is strength to help us in our weakness. He is faithful!

    Here is the song you were talking about on Utube..

  • YL says:

    I’ve been addicted to porn for a while. Actually, the first time I saw it was when I was curious in 6th grade.. Well, the seed was planted and it grew to a horrible addiction that I couldn’t get rid of until this year! (And it is still a work in progress..) I’ve always felt dirty, guilty, ashamed… I’ve confessed it all to God. and I pray all the time for him to keep me away from temptation. (And he does!) Yes, I have slipped, and during those times I would NUMB my heart to God’s voice telling me I’m hurting Him and hurting myself by doing this.. But everytime I fall, I turn to God and He’s STILL THERE just waiting for me to take His hand.. Well, now I’ve decided. I can’t do this without God and He wants to help me out of this! So now I pray every night that I will be kept out of temptation’s way.. and that if I do get tempted that I would stand firm against it. So far (for a few weeks) I have been CLEAN and am proud to say that I have made great progress in overcoming my porn addiction! I believe God will completely purify my mind from all dirty thoughts, especially so that I can be a strong and confident daughter of God in my university years, where I will probably face many more different temptations..

    Guys and girls, YOU CAN DO IT! Pray! Read the bible! Pray some more! You can do it! Take God’s hand and overcome it :)

    I don’t have a good verse in mind right now but definitely a great song which is “Healing Begins” by Tenth Avenue North, which really encouraged me to come clean with God and with my best friend about my problem! Have a listen of it! Air1 radio (www.air1.com/listen) plays it pretty often! I pray that all who are struggling with this problem are healed inside and out :)

    (btw, love the site :D )

  • admin says:

    Thank you so much R! That was a great comment, full of truth and love. We appreciate you sharing with us.

  • R says:

    I just wanted to encourage everyone out there who is suffering from this. Until recently i had this problem too, it made me feel so guilty and dirty. But with God’s help i was able to overcome it,God gave me the courage to talk about it. I am so thankful for His hand at work in my life. He alone has healed me and given me the power to continue on through the temptations. True i have slipped down, but He has helped me to stand again. He is sooo amazing.

    This verse has just come to me, Isaiah 61v10 “I delight greatly in the Lord, my soul rejoices in my God. For he had clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of righteouness”

    I just wanted to enocourage anyone who’s struggling to keep going, through the hardships,i’ve been there,im still going through it,but praise the Lord he is so good. God has promised in Psalm 103 one of my favourites, to forgive all [our] sins (v3)and v5 says “who satisfies [our] desires with good things so that [our] youth is renewed like the eagle’s”. IGod is with us every step of the way all we have to do is turn around and take his hand, he will help us he has promised “God is within her,she will not fall; God will help her at the break of day” Psalm 46v5.

  • I was just getting my morning feeding of the Word on and I came across these verses and thought of you.

    Hebrews 4:14-16

    “So then, since we have a great High Priest who has entered heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to what we believe. This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.”

  • “Don’t you realize that you become the slave of whatever you choose to obey? You can be a slave to sin, which leads to death, or you can choose to obey God, which leads to righteous living. Thank God! Once you were slaves of sin, but now you wholeheartedly obey this teaching we have given you. Now you are free from your slavery to sin, and you have become slaves of righteous living.” Romans 6:16-18

    My Sweet sister this is an addiction that you are enslaved to, but you don’t have to be. You do not have to give into the sinful desires of your flesh any more.

    I believe the first step to overcoming this battle is to draw close to the Lord now more than ever by praying, fasting, and most of all reading His Word. Shame and condemnation will come on you so heavy that you will not want to enter into God’s presence to pray and seek help. You most certainly will not want to read His Word either. But that is when you have to RUN to His feet humbly sorry, confessing your weakness and sin. If you will draw near to Him he will draw close to you I promise. He wants to strengthen you and renew your mind over this situation, but it is through spending time with Him that you will learn to want to submit more to Him than to your sinful desires. As you spend time reading the Word it will renew your mind, your way of thinking. It will give you revelation into your own life and what God’s is trying to teach you and change in you. (James 4:8)

    Do not allow the guilt from your sin to keep you from repenting and getting in His presence. The enemy of our faith knows if he can keep you away hiding from God that you will not receive the encouragement and reassurance that you need.

    Let me assure that He is NOT angry with you sister. He is sad to see you going through this. He wants you to be free from this bondage. He wants you to have peace in your heart. He does not want to see you going through this. But it is your choice to continue in this. He has given you His Word which is clear and which will give you wisdom and strength to fight this battle. He has given you His Holy Spirit which prompts you when you are heading down the wrong path. It is your choice to listen or to ignore Him.

    Take some time to really meditate on Romans chapter 6-8. Read them out of an NLT or Amplified translation which will be easier and clearer for you to receive. You need to know that sin’s power in your life is broken, for when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin. Sin does not have to have power over you anymore. In fact we are not to let sin control the way we live, we are not to give in to sinful desires. You just have to learn to rely on His strength and power, instead of your own. (Romans 6:6-7,12)

    The more you learn what His word says you will be able to shout it out when the desires come. “I am not a slave you to spirit of perversion! I am a child of God! And I am no longer a slave to my sinful desires!! I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me! I will NOT submit to you!!”

    That is what has worked for me. I went through exactly what everyone is saying on this posting. I had the same desires and I submitted to them constantly. Shame would be so heavy that I would not want to pray for days and so it would be days before I would repent. But the Lord told me to stop hiding from Him. Even if I gave into the act I would say, ‘please Lord, help me. I hate this!! Please forgive me and help me get through this.’

    I began to pray more and even fast about my problem. I would not allow my failures to keep me from Him. I would cry out even more determined not to be a slave to my sinful desires. The more time I spent reading His Word and praying the more I realized that my desires starting changing. When the temptation would come His Word would rise up in me. If I was in the shower I would remember that 1 Corinthians 10:13 said that He would always provide a way of escape from our temptation, so I would get out of the shower. I threw out any inappropriate movies. I confessed my sin to my husband and asked him to come along side of me to help me too. It was a struggle, but it was His Word that gave me freedom from shame and guilt. It was His Word that would come up in my mind and heart when the temptation would come. I began to realize that I did have a choice and I did not want to continue to make the wrong one.
    You can do this sister!! You can do this through Christ who will be your strength. It is time for you to be strong in the power of His might and not your own. It’s time for you to submerse yourself in the Word of God and renew your mind.

    Sister..YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! He is with you. We are with you in your suffering. You will overcome this because He who lives in you is greater and stronger than ANY demonic spirit of perversion that is trying to keep you enslaved to it. It is time for you to fight. Pick up your sword (the Word of God) and fight!!! (Ephesians 6:10-18)

    Sincerely,

    Trophy of Grace

  • no name says:

    You are not alone and now i relize i’m not so alone either. i have a problem in these areas also and for so many times i have tried and tried to overcome this but i only seem to disappoint the lord i ask for help but i still fall. its hard to give up somethin glike this its very difficult becauses its almost addictive. to be honost the root of my problem is my self esteem i don’t feel good about myself or see myself as pretty especially since i don’t have the kind words and reassurence of my old boyfriend anymore we are friends but htings aren’t hte same since we had to stay apart since he disobeyed and i also and we almost crossed lines we shouldn’t have. I loved him and he loved me and i still love him but that longing ness for him and his love let me to feel awful and lead me back again in this place thhat i had once dappled in but overcome but now i feel hopeless nad ashamed and worried that God will leave me since i keep failing over and over again i’m a christian and i have been for some time but i keep giving in to my flesh and not my spirit. until today when i stumble don this site becuse i was determined to find help from christians who wo’t judge me and think i’m awful . thank you fo rthe encouragement. BUt as for wha to do to overcome this is distract yourself anf pray thats what i try to do anyway sometimes it works sometimes i can’t think of anything else but how good i’ll feel.

  • admin says:

    Thanks so much for your comment nnenna. This is a very hot topic. Many men and women are struggling with this stronghold in their life.

    I just visiter her myspace and reading her blogs. This young woman has a great testimony and seems to be on fire for Christ and determined to others set free from this oppresive and destructive stronghold. Thank you for the link and thank you for your comment.

    Stay in touch sister..

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