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Is My Voice Pretty Enough?

Submitted by on March 16, 2012 – 8:00 am2 Comments

E comments on the post, ‘Why Are You So Afraid To Do Anything With Your Gift Of Song Writing And Singing’

singerEver since I was a little girl I always dreamed of being a singer.  I was a little more dramatic when I was little.  My problem is that I can sing, but I guess I am not sure my voice is very pretty. I don’t know if this is a selfish desire or what.  My sister likes singing and everybody thinks she has the great voice. 

My grandmother was a former singer, and she and her sisters would have gotten a record deal, but their dad turned it down.  My grandmother says that I have talent and a good ear, and said that my sister is the one that was tone deaf, not to be mean.  

Only two people have ever said I was good at singing.  I play violin and I’m beginning to learn piano too.  I’ve always said I play violin to let it sing for me mostly because I lack the courage to actually ask for singing lessons.  

My sister heard me singing the other day, and then I heard her talking to my other grandmother about it.  I asked my mom if I was a good singer and got no answer.  My voice isn’t bad but I know it could use some work.

I’ve asked God if my voice could get better as I get older.  At 13 years old my voice  is still kind of icky.   

What do you think? Is this a selfish desire or an actual desire?

Sweet Freedom replies…


I agree with Precious in His Sight and love Jesus Culture’s song, His Love Never Fails, too.

This is your heart’s desire to sing. It sounds like you need to pursue it. You should ask for those voice lessons and go for it. Pray and ask God to help you to not compare yourself to your sister, or anyone else. You may want to keep it to yourself for now regarding being a singer, and pray. A lot of times our family members are too close to have a clear view of our situation, and like you said you are still so young. If you have prayed about it and God has spoken to you to sing, then sing. Also, maybe you can join Choir in school. Or, maybe you can join the choir at church and/or ask someone to work with you and help develop your voice?

There are many singer/song writers that may not have the “best” or “the most trained” voice who have gone on to being the most successful. Think of Bob Dylan, Bono of U2, Madonna? Their voices weren’t the most trained, but they had an “anointing” or the “heart”. Think of an athlete who may have all the talent in the world, but if they don’t have the “heart” they won’t succeed in the long run. I would rather listen to someone singing from their heart any day. I listen to all kinds of different music, but mostly I’m listening for the “story” that they are telling, and I’m listening to their heart. I’m sure that you have heard the saying, “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”; it’s true. There is beauty in all things if you are looking and listening.

Ecclesiastes 3:11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He also has planted eternity in men’s hearts and minds (a divinely implanted sense of a purpose working through ages which nothing under the sun but God alone can satisfy), yet so that men cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.

Also, we are made in God’s image and likeness.

Genesis 1:27 So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him: male and female He created them.
And the word says that as we grow up, we are changing…..

Colossians 3:10 And have clothed yourselves with the new spiritual self, which is ever in the process of being renewed and remolded into fuller and more perfect knowledge, upon knowledge, after the image the likeness of Him Who created it.Also read the rest of Colossians 3. It’s encouraging.

1 John 3:2 Beloved, we are (even here and) now God’s children’ it is not yet disclosed (made clear) what we shall be (hereafter), but we know that when He comes and is manifested, we shall (as God’s children) resemble and be like Him for we shall see Him just as He is.

Then King David wrote this beautiful Psalm about how God formed us in our mother’s womb and that we were made intentional…..…..

Psalm 139:13-15 For You did form my inward parts; You did knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will confess and praise You, for you are fearful and wonderful and for the awful wonder of my birth! Wonderful are Your works and that my inner self knows right well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was being formed in secret and intricately and curiously wrought (as if embroidered with various colors) in the depths of the earth (a region of darkness and mystery). Your eyes saw my unformed substance, and in Your book all the days (of my life) were written before ever they took shape, when as yet there was none of them. How precious and weighty also are Your thoughts to me O God! How vast is the sum of them!

E, as you can see, I base all that I believe and all that I say to you from the Word of God. I really recommend that you also do the same. Read your bible. Find out who God says that you are. Find your identity in Christ. Then, you will not care to compare yourself with anyone.

Finally, when I was your age, my sister and I both sang and led worship together in a very small church and loved to worship. I wished that I had pursued it then, and taken lessons when I was your age, and not compared myself to others, like my sister. :) I still love to sing and I am a true worshiper. So, if you have a song in your heart, then sing!!

God is worthy of our praise!


Sweet Freedom


  • admin says:

    Thank so much for sharing this comment. Very encouraging :)

  • anonymous says:

    I love the advice given on this website and I totally agree. I\’m 16 and love to sing too (and play piano). I felt called to start singing in church about two years ago, and now I sing part time on the worship team in my church.
    Sweet Freedom is really smart about saying not to compare yourself. I struggle with that sometimes. I end up feeling either like I\’m the best or the worst, and neither is good. Besides, God just loves to hear you praise him! I like to sing my heart out when my parents are out running errands so that it\’s just me praising God without embarrassment, expectations, or judgement.
    Anyway, hurrah for the gift of a love for music! If you pursue it in God\’s will, it can be such a blessing in your life.

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