I’ve Lost Control of My Anger
Made In His ImageÂ writes…
The lastÂ few days Iâ€™ve lost control of my anger.Â I mean I am at a place now where I get angryÂ at everyone for the tiniest of things. Iâ€™ve started judging people I used to pray for, yelling at my mom, cursing in mind, and I donâ€™t know what to do!Â Â My anger was the first thing God changed about me, and its been so long ago now since it’s been an issue.Â Why is it coming back now?Â I read the bible everyday, butÂ it stillÂ isn’t working. I am in a constant fight and most of the time I end up losing it.Â This is very frustrating!Â What should I do?
Made In His Image
Dear Made In His Image,
The first thing that I thought when I read this is maybe you areÂ PMSing (Premenstrual Syndrome).Â Here are some of the symptoms:
Taken from Wikipedia
More than 200 different symptoms have been associated with PMS, but the three most prominent symptoms are irritability, tension, and dysphoria (unhappiness). Common emotional and non-specific symptoms include stress, anxiety, difficulty in falling asleep (insomnia), headache, fatigue, mood swings, increased emotional sensitivity, and changes in libido. Formal definitions absolutely require the presence of emotional symptoms as the chief complaint; the presence of exclusively physical symptoms associated with the menstrual cycle, such as bloating, abdominal cramps, constipation, swelling or tenderness in the breasts, cyclic acne, and joint or muscle painâ€”no matter how disruptive these physical symptoms areâ€”is not considered PMS.
The exact symptoms and their intensity vary from woman to woman and even from cycle to cycle. Most women with premenstrual syndrome experience only a few of the possible symptoms, in a relatively predictable pattern. Under typical definitions, symptoms must be present at some point during the ten days immediately before the onset of menses, and must not be present for at least one week between the onset of menses and ovulation. Although the intensity of symptoms may vary somewhat, most definitions require that the womanâ€™s unique constellation of symptoms be present in multiple, consecutive cycle.
I know that I personally go through PMS once a month.Â I find that I am really short and I get angry really quick. I feel so bad after I over reacted towards one of my kids or especially my husband.
If itâ€™s not PMS then you should ask Godâ€™s Holy Spirit to reveal to you what is the root of your angry and to help you address the problem. You donâ€™t want to walk around angry and bitter. No one is going to want to be in your presence because there will be a heaviness about you.
I would strongly suggest that you take time daily to read what the Word has to say about anger. Allow your mind to be renewed on this subject. We have a category called â€˜Scriptures By Subjectâ€™. Here is a link to that category.
The last article posted in the â€˜Scriptures By Subjectâ€™ category is â€˜Scriptures on Angerâ€™. Hereâ€™s a link to that article.
Take some time out and mediate on Godâ€™s Word on this subject. Then ask God to bring to your remembrance His Word when you find yourself acting out in anger.
When overcoming any struggle that we will face we need to go through the process of realizing that we have a problem, praying and seeking Godâ€™s Word about whatever our problem is, and having a teachable spirit and allowing God to renew our minds. The more we renew our minds on the topic the more we will learn to walk through our situations lead by the Holy Spirit and not by our flesh.
You will get through this sister. Draw close to God and allow yourself to be renewed by His grace and mercy. Donâ€™t allow yourself to be under shame, guilt, and condemnation. Forgive yourself and let go of the anger. You do not have to be ruled by it.
Enclosing I would like to share with you another article called â€˜Do Overâ€™. I hope that you will read it and allow your spirit to be ministered to. Hereâ€™s the link: