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Mission For Mr.Right

Submitted by on February 8, 2010 – 10:25 am10 Comments

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Written by: Trophy of Grace

I remember when I was desperate for love. I chased love and attention from any guy that was willing to pretend to even care. I sold myself short all the time dating guys that just wanted one thing from me. I have always been a pretty intuitive chick so it was no surprise to me when I found out that they were just using me, so I told myself that I was just using them too. In a sense I really was. We did not love or respect each other.

“I love you” was muttered to those guys that I thought could possibly be the one, but I quickly learned that love isn’t cheating, sex, lying, and manipulating. However that was the love I got and that was the love I learned to give.

Deep down inside my heart was hidden underneath layers of denial, hurt, betrayal, loneliness, and sadness longing to have a love that was something special and different from the rest. I needed someone to love and cherish me. I wanted to be some man’s everything. My mission for love and Mr. Right only lead me to lust and infatuation in the arms of Mr. Wrong every time. When would I finally be someone’s wifey?

I wish I knew then what I know now, that we don’t need to go around looking for Mr. Right. He will come and find us when the time is right and appointed by God. All we have to do is leave it in God’s hands and change our focus in life from searching for love in all the wrong places to receiving love from the One who gives True Love.

Instead of desperately seeking a relationship with a man we are to first diligently seek a relationship with the One who loves us more than words can say. He is the lover of our souls. He is the one who can give us the desires of our hearts. He is the one that we can depend on and cast all of our cares on. He is the one that has good gifts to give us because He cherishes us with all of His heart. He will not leave us or abandon us. He will not lie, deceive, and hurt us. He sacrificed His son on the cross for us so that we can be saved and live life more abundantly. God Almighty has us constantly on His mind. He longs to have an intimate relationship with us.

Matthew 6:33 “But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things [taken together will be given you besides.

Having a real personal relationship with God before searching for our soul mate is the wisest thing we could ever do. The Lord will teach us about real Love. Receiving His love and spending time with Him will teach us how to love others. Our minds will be renewed and changed. We will be healed and equipped to be the helpmate to the man that God has ordained for us.

While you are being taught and renewed by the Word of God the Lord will also be molding and preparing your future husband. At the same time our Lord will be making a way for your paths to cross one day, if they haven’t already. He is the best match maker because He knows what you both want and most of all what you need.

Abort your mission to find your soul mate. Start pursing a romance with the Lover of Your Soul. He will make you feel cherished, adored, beautiful, and loved. Then when Mr. Right comes you will be ready to serve each other the way God intended. Seek first God’s will for your life.

 

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  • Sweet Linn,

    My advice to you would be to focus on overcoming the bitterness that you are feeling in your heart. Allow the Holy Spirit to heal you and renew your mind in this area before you think about having a serious relationship with anyone. (Romans 12:2)

    As far the feelings that you are having towards your ex. It is normal that you still have feelings for your ex-boyfriend. You obviously spent a lot of time with him and have built up a lot of feelings/emotions for him. However, draw closer to God in these times and allow Him to become your love. Give Him your heart, mind, and attention.

    Here are some scriptures on bitterness for you to look up that I think will help you:

    Leviticus 19:17
    Proverbs 19:3
    Proverbs 26:24-26
    Matthew 5:23-24
    Matthew 6:14-15
    Romans 12:17-19
    Galatians 5:15
    Ephesians 4:31-32
    Colossians 3:8
    Hebrews 12:14-15
    James 1:19-20
    James 3:14-18
    1 Peter 2:23
    1 John 2:9-11
    1 John 3:15
    1 John 4:20

  • Linn says:

    Great article Miss. Lisa

    I especially loved when you said “Having a real personal relationship with God before searching for our soul mate is the wisest thing we could ever do” in which I believe so as well. However, remember when I asked you for advice about my ex&my two best friends that walked out of my life? Well he “mysteriously” called&texted me out of the blue saying that he loves me& blah blah blah. All the usual things guys say. You already know how I feel about him&I’ve been praying that God destroys any feelings that I have for him if he’s not the one,but he just keeps”popping”up&my feelings arent going away at all&IDK what to do. The thing is, I used to believe in Love&wanted the whole package:Husband,kids,ect. Since I felt like I gave my ex the last piece of my heart I had left, I don’t want it anymore. The funny thing is when he 1st came along, I was NOT looking for a relationship&never wanted one again since I’ve had MANY hearbreaks&I’ve just never been the desperate type to have a boyfriend. For some odd reason,he helped me to want it again when we were together. Now I REALLY don’t want it since were broken up, especially with all the hell he put me through. My mind is trying to make me believe that I’m not supposed to be married or have kids. I just feel like if God wants me to have it,he’ll give it to me,but I’m so bitter towards men,love&relationships that if God did offer me a soulmate,I wouldn’t be attracted to him because of all the crap I’ve when through in previous relationships. I know that’s not Christ like&God dosent want me to be that way. Please pray for me brothers&sisters.

  • I am so glad that our Lord used this article to minister to you! I am blessed to know that you were blessed by it.

    What an interesting story sister! Perhaps our Lord IS play matcher maker here! I believe that God still uses dreams to speak to us today. And I love how He uses His Word to confirm what He is showing us. I would suggest to you to continue to draw close to the Lord the way you have been in prayer and in His Word. Keep your eyes on His Word no matter what. As you sit in your private time reading He will give you confirmation and direction you’ll see. He promises to continue to faithfully guide us all the days of our lives sister. He will reveal to you if this guy was sent by Him.

    I think you probably already know this verse, but it is perfect for what you are going through. It’s Proverbs 3:5-6,

    “Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.

    In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths.” – Amplified Bible

    I want to share with you an article that I wrote. It’s called ‘Check the Spiritual Fruit’. I think this will help you out some.

    http://www.weusedtobeyou.com/2010/02/19/check-the-spiritual-fruit/

    Sincerely,

    Trophy of Grace

  • Michelle says:

    I’m so glad I came across this. I can really relate to what you were saying in the beginning, well all through out this, because as a teenager I was always looking for love the wrong places. But by the grace of God, He has really lifted me up and now I’m so in love with Him and I’m just letting Him have His way in my life. I actually came on here seeking advice about this guy that I just feel so connected to….the problem is we have never spoken a word to each other. The thing with this guy is I saw him in a dream, and it was like we were a couple on a date or something, just laughing and enjoying each others company. I just ignored it because I’ve seen the guy around at my church ( he works security) but I never paid him any mind. So I blew off the dream but the very next night I had the exact same dream so now this has my attention lol! So now when I see him in church I’m looking at him different and he noticed and now he’s looking at me and smiling, so it’s almost God is doing some kind of match making but neither of us seem to know how to approach each other. I’m really afraid to lean on my own understanding because that has gotten in trouble before. I’ve been asking God ” what does this mean?” A few nights ago I prayed and I asked God to just show me and reveal to me what the deal with this guy is and that night I dreamed of him again and in the dream he asked me to dinner. So right now I’m just like…uhhh okay lol! I loved what you said here, “At the same time our Lord will be making a way for your paths to cross one day, if they haven’t already.” I’ve been loving and serving God with my whole heart and I ask Him everyday to grant me the desires of my heart as long as seek Him first and foremost. I really apologize for just going on and on about this but I really don’t have many people I can talk to about this subject. I just don’t know what to do.

  • admin says:

    This is true Asia..we need to be patient and trust God’s timing. His timing is always right on time and it is always in the right season. Stay tuned more interesting and encouraging articles will be posted soon. Blessings to you in Christ Jesus!

  • Asia says:

    I love this. I do believe that we should be waiting on God and not rushing things. If we rush most likely get caught in things and situaions we never meant to happen.

  • Beloved by Him says:

    “And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.” (Gal. 6:9)

    Dearest Sister,

    We truly understand how you feel, and you must believe that you cannot give up! You have to get up under this burden and turn it into glory for God; otherwise, the enemy will keep on winning in this battle to keep you from God’s best for your life. The more he can keep your eyes on your pain and off of God, the more he can convince you that this is the way you will always feel. He wants to devour you—along with the good plans that God has for you! (Jer. 29:11, I Peter 5:8). You have got to be strong, sister! You can do it! “Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might!” (Eph. 6:10)

    Don’t give in to despair, but take courage, lift your head, and know that the Lord your God is for you, and He will provide all your needs according to His riches in glory (Rom. 8:31, Phil. 4:19). The question is, will you let Him? When you are feeling unloved, will you trust and believe in the love He has for you and receive it by faith, even if you don’t feel it? (I John 4:16) When you are lonely, will you be assured of His presence, even if you can’t see Him? (Heb. 13:5) When you are faithless, will you remember that He is faithful, because He cannot deny Himself? (II Tim. 2:13) And when there is nothing around you to be thankful for, will you still rejoice and be joyful in Him, because He is your God? (Hab. 3:17-18) These things are all choices that we have to make if we are ever going to climb out of the pit. If we choose to remain in the holes we (or other people) dig for ourselves, then God will still be there with us (Ps. 23:4). But that’s not where we need to stay. If we patiently wait on the Lord to renew our strength, knowing that we will see His good in our lives, then He will mount us up on eagle’s wings, and we will receive beauty for the ashes, strength for the fear, gladness for the mourning, and peace for the despair (Ps. 27:13, Is. 40:28-31, 61:2-3).

    These are not just empty words to try to make you feel better—they are the words of truth that heal and sanctify us! (John 17:17) You can’t live a life of faith by trusting in your feelings (II Cor. 5:7). There are going to be times when we are overwhelmed, hurt, and suffering, to the point where we don’t want to go on and we want it all to end. The apostle Paul felt that way, I’ve felt that way, and many of our brothers and sisters in Christ have felt that way too (II Cor. 1:8, I Peter 5:9). But it’s at these times that we can experience great victory instead of crushing defeat, if we will choose to trust not in ourselves, but in God Who has delivered us from even death itself! (II Cor. 1:9)

    This season in your life is for a purpose, as crazy as that may seem to you. The Lord wants you to know Him—as your Maker, your Provider, your Prince of Peace, your Salvation, your Life! He is not lacking or insufficient. His ways are perfect, His word is proven, and He is a shield to those who trust Him (Ps. 18:30). He is even your spiritual Husband—the One Who will never fail you, even when all others do (Is. 54:5). And ALL of His promises are “Yes” and “Amen” in Christ Jesus (II Cor. 1:20). If He’s made you a promise in His word, He keeps it. When He says, “I have called you by name, you are Mine,” He means YOU (Is. 43:1). When He assures you, “I have loved you with an everlasting love, therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you,” He’s talking to YOU (Jer. 31:3). And He is telling YOU, “Fear not, for I am with you, be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” (Is. 41:10) These are the words you have to cling to when you feel like everything is falling apart.

    Don’t you see that He has already blessed you in a very special way by giving you a child? When the Lord chooses to give us children, it’s because He is rewarding us! (Ps. 127:3) That child is your heritage, your legacy from God. You’ve got to do your best, by the power of the Holy Spirit, to live a faith-filled and obedient life, as a living testimony of God’s goodness. Don’t keep living for others, trying to win their approval or their affection. Live as unto the Lord, not to people (Gal. 1:9). By the life of Christ in you, let Him “make you complete in every good work to do His will, working in you what is well pleasing in His sight,” so that you will give Him glory and bring Him praise! (Heb. 13:21) You need to know who you are in Him, not who you think others want you to be. He created you for His good purpose, and He will be faithful to complete all the work He began in you (Eph. 2:10, Phil. 1:6, I Thess. 5:24). You are not alone, and you never will be!

    This may seem like the impossible right now, like telling a fish to come out of the sea and climb Mt. Everest. I get it. When we’re really down, everything feels that much harder. But I want to encourage you to push past those feelings, pray for grace and strength, and fight the good fight of faith, knowing that your inheritance is already sure—it’s eternal life with Christ Jesus Himself (I Tim. 6:12, Eph. 11:14). Trophy of Grace is always encouraging me to battle the spirit of heaviness by putting on the garment of praise. Find some really good praise music and pour it into your spirit. Play it loud and play it often! Let it minister to you and keep filling that place in your heart and mind that the enemy has convinced you is a “void.” There is no void for those who are filled with the Spirit of the living God! (Eph. 5:18) You don’t need the false comforts of this world to make you feel better. You need the living Word of God and the peace that only Jesus gives (John 14:27).

    One closing thought—the Lord has given you more than just your child as your heritage from Him. He’s also given you His righteousness, which no one can ever take away from you. Isaiah 54:17 says,

    “’No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment you shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is from Me,’ says the Lord.”

    You are who God says you are: His beloved daughter, bought with the price of His Son’s blood and sealed with His Spirit as a guarantee. He has already overcome the world, and now you need to have faith that you will have that same victory in Him. May the Lord continue to crown you with His lovingkindness and tender mercies, and may you choose to rejoice and be glad in Him as you wait for Him expectantly.

    Much love, sister,

    Beloved by Him

  • Royalty says:

    I wish I had a dollar for everytime I have heard that in regards to finding Mr. Right, I would be rich by now. Don’t get me wrong it sounds good and I’m sure it is right on point, but to me it just seem like words that people say to make you feel better about your miserable situation. I’m tired of being misused and mistreated by men but, I feel so lonely and desperate without the jerks. I have tried and tried and prayed for a deeper relationship with God one that super cedes all relationships with everybody else, but I don’t feel anything I feel empty. I try to fill this hole by bending over backwards for people not just men, but everybody trying to get their approval, trying to make them love me but of course it doesn’t work. I hate my life, I hate all of the expectations to be everything for eveybody and not have anyone or anything for myself. The only reason I am alive now is because I have a child that depends on me but I wish I was never born! I’m tired of crying, I’m tired of hurting, I’m tired of being used, I’m tired of being alone, I’m tired of praying and not being able to hear or understand what God’s will is for me. I’m going to end this comment because I’m tired of complaining! Please pray for me.

  • Trophy of Grace says:

    Your welcome.. I have to give all glory to God because He is the One who puts these things on my heart to share. He knows what we need to hear and just when we need to hear it. God bless you sister..

  • Anonymous says:

    Wow! Thanks somuch for your words of wisdom Trophy of Grace. They were exacting what I needed to hear during this season in my life. You really blessed me today..

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