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SoniaHis Precious Gift is mother of three, grandmother of four,  a spiritual mother to many women, and a wife of forty years. She is full of God’s Spirit and love. She has a desire to be used by God to minister and mend broken hearts. His Precious Gift has served in prison ministry for several years. She also has a heart for ministering to younger women. Her years of experience, testimony, and love for Christ are here to serve each of you.

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  • His Precious Gift says:

    Hello my love,
    I am so glad you reached out to us with your question and concern regarding marriage. We are grateful for the opportunity to serve and help you.
    I can tell you right away that your boyfriend is wrong; he can believe all he wants but that does not make it right. And I can also tell you that your decision to get closer to God was the right one. The Lord desires daily fellowship with us through the Holy Spirit who indwells us. The moment you receive Christ into your life, He enters your heart in the person of the Holy Spirit. Though you may not always be aware of Him, He takes permanent residence inside you every moment of every day, and that was a great decision.
    Now with your question, when you bring Christ into the picture you need to abide with what the bible says about marriage. When you shared your vows with one another that is a contract but with God we make a Covenant. Covenant marriage is intended by God to be a lifelong relationship exemplifying unconditional love, reconciliation, sexual purity, and growth. A covenant is an eternal commitment with God. People can negotiate out of contracts, but not out of a covenant. The heart of covenant marriage is “the steadfast love of the Lord,” which comes from the very heart of God and “never ceases” (Lam. 3:22)
    God does have a plan for your marriage. He desires to see your love grow and bear fruit. The goal of a covenant marriage is not to merely enjoy each other’s company nor is it to simply endure to the end. The goal of a covenant marriage is to glorify God in your relationship and to exemplify Christ to the world.
    Every challenge presents an opportunity for the Father to display His faithfulness and love. Instead of yielding to confusion make a commitment to trust Him, even when you don’t know what tomorrow will bring. Yes, you may have many questions, and life may not always turn out as you planned. But ultimately, God will be glorified, and you will be blessed. That’s what you will find out as you continue to get closer to Him. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
    Take your burden to the Lord in prayer. Thank Him for working on your behalf, and rest in His supernatural peace. When you place your trust in God, you tap into an unstoppable force that nothing and no one can successfully oppose.
    Blessings always, His Precious Gift.

  • A says:

    Hello,

    I have a question. I was wondering if two people make vows on their own are they considered married? My boyfriend and I made vows to one another in marriage without legally getting married and he believes we are married. I recently broke up with him and feel closer to Christ now but he keeps telling me I’m going against Christ because I’m divorcing him. Please help me.

  • His Precious Gift says:

    My dear sister, you will need to use lots of love and wisdom as you speak with your daughter regarding this sensitive issue. The key problem is that she is only 12. I remember when I was that age and any little thing to me was huge.

    One thing would be to explain to her the different kinds of love. For example, the love of a mother for her children, the love of a friend, the love for a puppy. This also will give you the opportunity to remind her of the love of God, which is unconditional.

    One of the scripture that God gave me as I was doing devotionals this morning is:

    “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6,7.

    God hears your prayers. Ask God for His Wisdom in how to talk to her, and ask Him to make her heart receptive.

    And John 13:34-35 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

    We have a lot of articles on dating that would be good for you to share with her during devotional times. Maybe take one article per day and pray together before and after reading and discussing the article. Here is the link to a list of titles on dating – please note that some may not apply to her age, but there are many valuable nuggets in the articles that can be shared:

    http://www.weusedtobeyou.com/dating-gods-way/

    Here are a couple of good ones on dating that are more age-appropriate:
    http://www.weusedtobeyou.com/the-gift/
    http://www.weusedtobeyou.com/the-dating-prayer/

    I will be praying for God to give you wisdom and guidance as you continue this journey in which God has trusted you with that precious gift that is a Daughter. God Bless you today and Always!

    His Precious Gift.

  • Stacie says:

    S my 12 year old daughter is reciprocating her first crush. I recently saw an email where she said “i love you” we’ve talked to her about the gravity of this word but I’m scared of the pressures of this world. What should we tell her in reference to Gods word?

  • His Precious Gift says:

    What does the Bible say about cosmetic surgery? Absolutely Nothing!
    There is nothing specifically in the Bible to indicate that plastic surgery is, in and of itself, wrong. However, there are several things that one needs to consider before deciding whether or not to undergo these procedures. We know that there are always risks, both physical and psychological.
    Cosmetic surgery is a tool. The question, of course, is how we use it. As a Christian, I must recognize that beauty as an end unto itself is valueless, because all beauty is rooted in God and has a moral context.
    Now, there is also the issue of rejection, the Bible promises that you will come face-to-face with rejection. But God also promises eternal and unconditional acceptance. In the midst of your pain, you can know there is One who will never reject you. He’s the One who’s already suffered the greatest rejection for you. Through Jesus, God has made a way for you to find complete acceptance in Him. He wants you to see yourself as He sees you − as the one He loves and will always welcome with open arms. In Him, you will find true healing.
    All beauty originates in God (Ps. 27:4). Beauty is important to God and reflects spiritual significance, as evidenced in the rainbow (Gen. 9:13), creation, and the God-ordained design of the Tabernacle and priestly robes (Ex. 25-28). As image-bearers, our beauty is secure and fixed in the loving, eternal gaze of our heavenly Father (Eph. 1:3-4). Yet our bodies are important to God; Jesus died to redeem both our bodies and souls (Rom. 8:23).
    There are many instances were cosmetic procedures is necessary, I remember our 2-year-old son bit through an extension cord and burnt his mouth. We found a plastic surgeon who restored symmetry and proportion to our son’s features. To have left our child’s face distorted would have been unthinkable. Many car accidents and even cancers need restoration.
    After saying all this I know that if you are asking is because it’s really bothering you and my heart goes out to you . Before doing anything, pray and ask God to lead you in the right decision, remember that God sees the Heart and He knows how you feel.
    I truly hope that I was able to give you some guidance. I will be keeping you in prayer.
    Always remember you are loved….. His Precious Gift.

  • Marie Anne says:

    Hello,

    I was wondering would it be considered unbiblical to get a cosmetic procedure done? Does it matter on the reason or where your heart is at when considering it? What if it is for something that has been affecting your life due to mocking and feeling very unattractive about it like your skin and the procedure could help it?

  • admin says:

    I thought this would be a helpful link for you. Check it out. This ministry called ‘Way of the Master’ has some good responses. The link takes you to 100 commonly asked questions that will help you minister to others. You should check out some of their shows. One of the guys from the ministry is Kirk Camereon, I don’t know if you know who that is. Anyways he was big in Hollywood ‘back in the days’ and He turned his life over to God. He used to be agnostic and this ministry helps equip people to minister to agnostics and so much more. They hellp you have a ready defense.

    http://www.livingwaters.com/witnessingtool/browse.shtml#howtowitness

    This is our dating an unbeliever category. I believe it will speak to your heart. God does not want us unequally yolked, meaning in close relationships (dating and marrying) with unbelievers. Read what others have written in and you’ll see that God will speak to your heart through what others have asked/ shared and through our counsel to them. The Word is the same.

    http://www.weusedtobeyou.com/category/common-subjects/new-relationships/dating-an-unbelievermissionary-datingbeing-unequally-yolked/

    You should also check outt our ‘Dating God’s Way’ category.

    http://www.weusedtobeyou.com/category/dating-gods-way/

    This category is full of Christian advice on dating.

    You are so young sister. Don’t complicate yourself with dating, even more by dating an unbeliever. This is your time to focus on your studies, your future, discovering yourself as a young women, God’s will and specific direction and purpose for your life, hanging out with friends and being young. Enjoy being single. Embrace it.

    God has a special just for you. Your time will come, be patient.

  • Andrea says:

    Hi,
    I need help in preaching to my agnostic and atheist friends and classmates , also can you tell me some ways to prove God’s existence , I belive in God , but it is hard for me to explain it to them.
    I have another question , I like this guy and I’m almost positive he likes me back, I never pictured myself with a guy like him , as he smokes and is an atheist , what should I do??? He’s 16 and I’m almost 15.
    Thank you in advance,
    Andrea

  • His Precious Gift says:

    Dear Ana,
    The only way you can fix this as you say is by being honest with your friend. Many times we feel that if we stop talking about our feelings or our problems they will go away, and that is not so. If you care for your friend just simply go to him and tell him that you like him and when you realized you did that scared you a moment and that is why you pushed his friendship away. Tell him that you hope that somewhere in his heart he would find a way to forgive you. That his friendship means too much to you.
    I hope that his decision will bring joy to your heart but even though he might not want anything to do with you, at least you did the right thing. Remember that every action has consequences, that is why before we make any decision in life we need to really evaluate the situation.
    I will be praying for both of you, always remember that Jesus loves you and in His Word He says that: He has a plan for your life. Jer 29:11.God Bless you always.
    His Precious Gift….

  • Ana says:

    I used to like this guy at church and we were best friends and then I stopped talking to him to try to stop feeling those feelings towards him so he wanted to know if he did anything wrong but I didn’t wanna talk so now it’s been almost 5 months since we have stopped talking and I really don’t want our friendship to stop what do I tell him? How do I fix this? Please help I don’t wanna lose a best friend

  • The wisdom that His Precious Gift gave is awesome. I am going to add a little more to that.

    If you’ve accepted Jesus as your Savior, then you are going to Heaven. End of story. There are no conditions attached to that. Whether you are happy, sad, angry, confused, lost – it doesn’t matter – you are going to Heaven.

    “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” (Romans 10:9 NLT)

    The last thing I want to share with you is the following:

    22 The faithful love of the Lord never ends!
    His mercies never cease.
    23 Great is his faithfulness;
    his mercies begin afresh each morning. (Lamentations 3:22-23)

    Every morning, I want you to wake up and thank God for His mercy, it is new every morning. Each day is a brand new page that needs to be written on. Forget your past and write the future – study Philippians 3:12-14 to get a good understanding of this. Take it one day at a time, from victory to victory. Days of failure are gone the next morning, and you can thank God for His mercy and start all over again.

    One more thing, please find a professional, Christian counselor that you can talk to. It is important that you have someone who can help you sort out your feelings.

  • admin says:

    Sister I know you are frustrated right now and feel hurt and sad about breaking up with your boyfriend, but I believe your feeling of frustration is coming from a distorted perspective. You are looking at this wrong. From what I gather here you broke up with your boyfriend because you feel you were doing it in obedience to God. You broke up with him because obviously His Spirit was showing you that you were unequally yolked in your relationship. Therefore you felt that God was leading you to break up with him, so you choose to be obedient.

    You’ve done well sister by following the leading of the Holy Spirit, but the Holy Spirit revealed that you were unqually yolked for you, not for Him. He doesn’t want you to be in a relationship that may hinder your faith causing you to stumble along on your journey, which is why He revealed the truth to you. He loves you so much. He wants the best for you. You should be rejoicing that God has lead you into the truth and given you the strength to break it off. You should be happy that you are hearing from God. Trust Him to mend your broken heart now, because He will. He knows your hurt.

    Don’t get mad at Him though. He knows what’s best for you sweetie and He’s showing you, leading you, and empowering you to do what is best for your life. He loves you so much and will bless your obedience.

    Remember sister our Lord gave up His Son for us, which was the ultimate sacrifice. Jesus suffered a brutal death for our sins. His sacrifice was not easy. It was full of pain and suffering, but He did it to set us free from the penatly of our sins. Sacrifice is not easy, that’s why it’s a sacrifice. It’s hard to give up something that is valuable to us, but we must remember that our sacrifice and obedience fulfills a greater purpose and we should give our sacrifice with a trusting, hopeful, and faithfilled heart. God called us to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for us. He is our example, and we must follow in His steps. ( 1 Peter 2:21-25)

    Don’t regret what you have done when you know that the Holy Spirit revealed to you that you were unequally yolked. Don’t get mad because of the truth that was revealed. Loving God means listening to Him and following His leading. Trusting that He knows what’s best for us will help us to be obedient to His leading, then His commands are not burdensome. (1 John 5:3)

    You are on the right path sister, rejoice. Stay on the narrow road. I leave you with these verse.

    James 1:22-25 But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only foolinh yourselves. For is you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in the mirror. You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like. But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don’t forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it.

    1 John 5:3 Loving God means keeping His commandments, and His commandments are not burdensome.

    Psalm 119:105 Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.

    2 Timothy 3:16-17 All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize that is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip His people to do every good work.

    Sincerely,

    Trophy of Grace

  • His Precious Gift says:

    My dear sister in Christ:

    I am so sorry that you have so many limitations and you feel so alone and unloved. Don’t let your emotions take control of your life though.The problem with leading an emotionally charged existence is that it will cause your perspective to be distorted and therefore cause you to make decisions that will lead you away from the will of God. It will cause you to ‘feel’ like you’re far from His unconditional love, from His peace, from His guidance, but you’re not. (Romans 8:38-39)

    While He created you to have feelings, they were never intended to control you or disturb your peace of mind and security in Him. We have the Spirit of God that helps us work through our emotions and leads us into all truth. Positive emotions such as faith, hope, joy, peace, and trust will move us toward a closer relationship with Father.

    God wants us to know Him and for our hearts to connect with His, which is why He gave us His Spirit. (Romans 8:11) God’s Spirit produces in us love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. This is the new life God has empowered us to live, therefore we should lean more on the Spirit and less on our emotions. (Galatians 5:22-23)

    But emotions such as depression, anger, anxiety and bitterness will hinder what God wants to do in your life IF you don’t surrender them to Him.

    John 10:10 says, The thief enters only to steal, kill, and destroy. I came so that they could have life—indeed, so that they could live life to the fullest. The thief is the enemy of souls, Satan.

    You talk about being in the middle, between God and the world perhaps this could be because you don’t trust God. You blame Him for all your disappointments. You say you believe that your journey with Him has been a waste of time. Perhaps you feel torn between the God and the world because you have not allowed yourself to let go of these negative emotions, therefore you have yet to experience God and know God for who He really is.

    Now I am going to tell you how you can get back on track, so you can experience everything that our Lord has for you. One of the most important ways is by reading and meditating on His Word. Joshua 1:8 instructs us to ponder and meditate on it day and night, making sure we practice everything written in it. Then we’ll get where we’re going; then we’ll succeed. The Word is life. We need to fall in love with it. The Scriptures give us direction for our every day walk, it is a manual for our lives. (2 Timothy 3:16-17) The confusion we experience comes from not knowing God’s character, which is revealed by His Word (The Bible).

    2 Peter 1:3-4 By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence. And because of his glory and excellence, he has given us great and precious promises. These are the promises that enable you to share his divine nature and escape the world’s corruption caused by human desires. (NLT).

    Another way to get close to God is through prayer. I know that sometimes we are so hurt and disappointed with things that have happened in our lives that we feel that we don’t want to pray. Perhaps we blame God or maybe we think God won’t hear us. But God does here us.

    Jeremiah 33:3 Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things.
    John 14:14 “If you ask anything in my name, I will do it.”

    John 16:23 “Whatever you ask the Father in My name He will give you.”

    James 5:16 “The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.”

    Job 22:27 “You will make your prayer to Him, He will hear you”

    I will never forget many years ago, I was going through a season in my life when I was full of questions and uncertainties, even though I knew God and I loved His Word there were days that I went to bed and in order to sleep I would to place the Bible over my chest opened up to the book of John. It looked silly to some people but it brought me comfort and I felt peaceful. I knew God’s promises and how much He loved me.

    My love, I know that God has a plan for your life (Jeremiah 29:11) In order for you to know His plan you need to find Him in His word. I will be praying for you. Also don’t ever say that you wish you were not born because you are made in God’s image and you have a destiny in this world. He promises that He never abandons His children. Thank you Lord!

    Always know that we are here for you and that you ARE loved. No matter what path our life takes, Our God will get us to our destination in victory.

    Much Love,

    His Precious Gift

  • Anonie says:

    Hi,
    Scratch that last comment about wondering whether I should break off my relationship with a nonChristian, I’ve already done it. But now that I’ve done it I feel worse than I could imagine. When you do things for God, aren’t you supposed to feel good, or at least be told by God that you did the right thing? Because I’ve just given up one of the only things in my life that make me feel loved, and He doesn’t even care. I feel no peace, no love, nothing from Him, no matter how much I try to hear from Him, pray, read the Bible. Why is He doing this? I know He’s real, I know He cares, but I don’t even know if I matter to Him at all. After all, I just sacrificed so much to obey Him and He doesn’t even send a Bible verse, or a sense of “hey, I just did the right thing!”. The only people I’ve told are my friends and slightly my sister, but they either don’t understand or don’t have any idea what to do (which makes sense to me). If you try and seek Him, isnt He supposed to answer? If you obey Him, isn’t He supposed to answer? Please help!

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