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Hello ladies, my name is Lisa aka Trophy of Grace. I am 32 years old. I am the mother of 7. I have 5 biological children and 2 step children. I have been with my husband for 11 years. In my teenage years I was really “off the chain”. I was constantly running away from home. Clubbing, party, drinking, drugging, and fighting was my way of life. I was affiliated with gangs. My lifestyle of rebellion and selfishness led me to jail several times and eventually to prison. I know what it’s like to feel lonely and different from the other girls. I felt like I could not relate to the girls my age so I hung out with the guys. I needed someone back then to lead me to the ONE who could help me. Today I am not that lonely, confused, know it all little girl. I am God’s trophy of grace because it is truly by His grace that I am even alive today. I realize that it was during my teenage years that the world tried to consume and destroy me with its negative influence and drama. Today I am led by Wisdom and Love and I want to share that with you.

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  • Beloved by Him says:

    Dear Shay,
    We are so glad you are encouraged :) Remember that we serve a God of encouragement, comfort, and hope, and any condemnation or fear that you are struggling with is not of God, but the enemy, and you don’t have to receive it! Rebuke him and speak words of truth over your life!
    There are many articles on this site with regards to God’s love, walking in faith, and also homosexuality. When you have some time, maybe you can read them; I think they will encourage you a lot and remind you that you are NOT alone in your struggles. Most importantly, though, spend time in the Word and let His grace and mercy wash over you and renew your spirit. Spiritual battles wipe us out, and you need a time of refreshment to rest and enjoy your Heavenly Father. Sometimes when I need that time, I will meditate on Psalm 23, and remember that God is always with me, leading me, guiding me, and also causing me to stop and rest in Him. My hope is that you will take that time and spiritually rest as well.
    We love you Shay!!!! You can do it!!!!
    Beloved by Him

  • Shay says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you SO MUCH! You have no idea how much your words have helped me. I feel like it was meant to be that I’d ask you for help and you’d say that to me. I feel like I understand so much more now and everything you said just made me feel so uplifted and less scared.

    I do feel like I can end this. I know it will be hard, and I’m still so scared of that, but because of your words I feel braver. I’ll find the moment to sit down and be honest about my feelings and then give everything I have to god. I just want to thank you because the level of my pain, although still there because of the sin has been decreased greatly and you’ve given me courage to fight this and fight hard.

    I’m thanking Jesus that you said this to me and that I read it before I went to bed. Really, thank you so much!

  • Beloved by Him says:

    Dear Shay,

    The cries of your heart really get me, and more than that, I know that God hears them and grieves for you as well. There have been some times in my life where I have been either so contrite over my own sin, or heartbroken by the sins of others, that the only consolation I’ve had is to remember that Jesus was “a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.” (Is. 53:3) I truly believe that Jesus feels and understands your pain and shame like no one else can. Shay, God is a loving, faithful God Who hears and heals the pain of the afflicted; He is the God Who takes away our shame so we can look to Him without fear, and He restores and makes His children whole (Ps. 103, Ps. 34).

    I want to be straight with you: I agree with pretty much everything Treasure Box has said. Ultimately, our sin is our choice, and if we continue in a sinful behavior, then there are consequences to our actions. If we weren’t born again in Christ, then we would have an excuse for our lack of conscience. But since we are in Him, and we have the indwelling of the Holy Spirit Who teaches us all that we need to know, and God’s character and truth don’t change, then our sin is a choice to go against His will, which will never produce the good fruits of peace and joy that God wants for us to abide in all the time.

    But Shay, there’s something bigger here than our obedience or even our quality of life on this earth. Once you have truly accepted Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior, then you are immediately, permanently, and irrevocably transferred into His kingdom as His child. The Bible is very clear that we can only call Christ our Lord and Savior by God living in us by His Spirit. Look at these scriptures from I John 4:13-19:

    “This is how we know that we live in Him and He in us: He has given us of His Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent His Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because He first loved us.”

    You say that Jesus Christ is your Lord and Savior, so you can confidently know that you are saved, and that you have the Holy Spirit living inside you. Therefore, you are sealed by Him until you get to heaven, and nothing can change that. Ephesians 1:13-14 says,

    “In Him you also trusted, after you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation; in whom also, having believed, you were sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise, Who is the guarantee of our inheritance until the redemption of the purchased possession, to the praise of His glory.”

    Jesus says in John 10 that all those who are His, those who hear His voice and respond to Him, are His forever. Read verses 27-30:

    “My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me. And I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand. My Father, Who has given them to Me, is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of My Father’s hand. I and My Father are one.”

    Shay, I have struggled with this same issue, worried that I would lose my salvation, and the enemy has played some serious mind games on me. But I only found peace when I accepted that God’s word is truth, and His word says that I am His, no matter what. There is no power greater than God’s power. There is no sin that wasn’t paid for on the cross. And God doesn’t change; He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. When you got saved, He already knew all the sins you had committed, were committing, and were going to commit…and He paid for them all. When Jesus said, “It is finished,” on the cross, it meant that the power of sin and death in the world was paid for in the eternal. If we die in the midst of sin, it doesn’t change the state of our regenerated spirit in us. Our temporary and crucified flesh is going to go down fighting, but because of God’s love and eternal provision through Christ’s atonement for sin, the way God sees and knows us will never change. He sees us as He sees His beloved Son, made sanctified and perfect forever.

    My prayer for you is that you will dig deep into scripture and see for yourself the good promises of God, things that we can’t even fully comprehend because His greatness is unsearchable and His ways are so far above our ways. Maybe start in Ephesians and I John, and as you begin learning about how blessed we truly are in Him, and how great His love is for us, my thought is that you will begin to see how shallow the pool of sin really is when compared to the width, length, height, and depth of Jesus’ love (Eph. 3:18-19). The battle against sin can be really overwhelming, but greater is He Who is in you than he that is in the world (I John 4:4). You have all you need to walk away from the sin in your life, but even if you have a life-long struggle with a stronghold sin, Jesus loves you and will never let you go, because “If we are faithless, He remains faithful; He cannot deny Himself.” (II Tim. 2:13)

    God WILL prove Himself faithful to you, sister. Hang in there–don’t give up hope. We love you, and He loves you more than any of us can imagine.

    Much love,
    Beloved by Him

    ps…read Romans 5!!!!

  • Shay says:

    Thank you for writing back so quickly… I hope I don’t seem like I’m pushing at the hell question too much. It’s just that truthfully, a part of me is confused.

    To be honest, if anyone in the past told me I’d be in this situation, I’d never believe them because I find this to be so wrong. I know that I can stop, and I almost repeat to myself every night how wrong I am for NOT stopping.

    What you say about how we can never be separated from the lord makes a lot of sense to me, but the reason the hell question hits me so much is… If someone follows god, loves god, and died during that part of their life like you described, where your just stuck in the sin… do they go to hell for eternity? Is that the kind of people that go to hell?

    I would trust in anything god said. If it came out that god thought we shouldn’t ever use fans, or listen to music, then I would suddenly be a firm believer that we shouldn’t. I just want to ask someone who knows more about it than me, is that how it works? I feel like god would never let that happen, but I don’t want to be arrogant and act like I know that either.

    I’ve been saying for a while to god, please help me find the strength to end this or some day I swear I’m going to end this… and then when I read that saying you’d change your ways later in life is dangerous because it’s the prayer of hell. I asked god to some how show me that hell is just not where I’m going… I hope I’m making sense, but I guess I’m just asking about this because I don’t quite understand this myself.

  • Dearest Shay,

    The fact that it’s killing you indicates that the Holy Spirit is urging you quite strongly to STOP the behavior now.

    As a Christian, I once was steeped in a sin that I knew was wrong. I felt very bad about it and, I’d like to say, I couldn’t stop. Well, the truth is I wouldn’t stop because I desired the pleasure more than obedience to God.

    One night, God gave me a dream. I heard the doorbell ring and went to see who was there. I saw a man with a gun. Before I could do or say anything, he shot me in the heart and I knew that it was over. The next morning I asked God what it meant. He told me that the awful sin was hurting my soul – I needed to stop NOW!

    This is what Jesus says,

    Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say? (Luke 6:46)

    In scripture it says over and over again that homosexuality is a sin.

    Now, I do believe that you’ve accepted Jesus as your Savior. Why? Because the sin bothers you so much!

    I also know that once saved, you cannot lose your Salvation. Look at the information in the following link:

    If you have accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior – you believe in His Name – then you need to love Him so much that you renounce this sin. Not sometime in the future, but now. Why? Because our Daddy Abba loves you so much that He will discipline you::

    For the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.” (Hebrews 12:6)

    The question isn’t about going to hell or not, it’s about whether you’re going to like it when He disciplines you. You belong to Him, the enemy will not snatch you out of His hand (John 10:29). Because you have been set apart, He expects you to follow His commands. If you don’t, He will discipline you and His discipline is painful!

    No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. (Hebrews 12:11)

    What you are doing hurts you spiritually and it hurts God. If you’ve accepted Jesus as your Savior then you are His – no one can take that away. But because you are His, He will make sure that you are walking in His ways.

    I will be praying for you, dearest Shay! I know how difficult this is, but it’s not impossible to get rid of this sin. Follow the steps mentioned in my previous response – get help now. God loves you and nothing will ever separate you from His love (Romans 8:38).

    Love you!

  • Shay says:

    Thank you so much for all of your kind words. When I first read this, I felt very uplifted, but once again soon doubtful because I’m still scared all of the time.

    I’m writing back because I’m plagued by one fear every day and it is still Hell. I’m trying SO hard to end this but its so hard for so many reasons, and I know that I’m going to at some point, when ever I find the strength to finally just do it… but I have to ask you, if I were to die tomorrow would I go to hell? Even though I try in every way I can to follow god, but this one mistake dragged me down and if I had lived longer, I’d have eventually broken out of it… would I?

    I don’t know how to explain just how much this haunts me but it’s killing me, it’s breaking my heart. I read that in Hell god won’t answer your prayers, it’s too late… I see in the bible that you should be stoned if you’ve done what I do… and I agree and I cry and I’m so petrified. Please help me, is this true? A part of me doesnt’ believe that it could be and the other part of me believes it must be.

    Please help me, please, any advice is SO appreciated.

  • Dear Eric and Shay,

    I am responding for Trophy of Grace today. Since there are two questions and two people to answer to, I’ll address this answer to the one who is involved in homosexuality.

    You probably have no idea how many Christians out there still sin! Look at David and Bathsheba in 2 Samuel 11, and yet David repented and was forgiven by God and was still used by God! There were consequences to his sin because that is the way the world works. God truly does want us to walk in the ways of the Lord.

    One of the devil’s greatest lie is to convince the daughters and sons of God that there is no hope for them – they’ve sinned and/or are still sinning and therefore will go to hell. Might as well give up now, right? I read that Jesus died once and for all for all of our sins. He paid for them on the cross. We are all sinners because we live in this sinful body even though we are now new creations in Christ Jesus, and have been saved by grace, not by anything we have done so we cannot boast (Ephesians 2:8-9)

    This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! (2 Corinthians 5:17)

    We are new creations, but still struggle with sin. See what Paul says:

    And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can’t. 19 I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. 20 But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it. (Romans 7:18-20)

    As you can see, even the great missionary Paul struggled with the desires that waged war within him. But he is not without hope because he knows there is no condemnation in Christ (Romans 8:1). Christ paid for our sin on the cross (Romans 8:3). And then Paul gave us the secret to overcome this sinful nature of ours:

    Letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. (Romans 8:6)

    You have the Spirit in you because you’ve accepted Jesus as your Savior. Now you must be proactive and “take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5)

    The lie that is being believed here is that there is no hope – you are doomed and going to hell. It’s over. What??!??

    First off, God see your heart, you hate the sin. This is good! This is conviction. You should hate the sin. And you should stop it now! How?

    I John 1:8-10 says,

    “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us”.

    This is what you must do:

    1. Confess the sin to God.

    2. Run away from the sin and the one who is causing the sin. Why desensitize yourself to the Holy Spirit? Get away from that person who is inciting lust in you.

    3. Let the Holy Spirit control your mind by transforming your mind (Romans 12:2). Read the Bible, pray, seek God’s will, praise God, thank Him for everything He has blessed you with, go to Church, and ask God to help you with this addiction. He is a mighty God – this is easy for Him.

    I know how hard it is to start this because you don’t feel worthy to come to the throne of God – another lie from Satan.

    So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.(Hebrews 4:16)

    God is waiting for you with open arms. Once you start praising Him, reading scriptures and praying to Him, and listening to some good worship music (my faves are Hillsong United), you will feel His presence again. He’s always there, but you’ve closed the door. It doesn’t take that long to get back in there again. Just start.

    4. This spirit of lust that is controlling you is just that, a spirit. Resist the devil and he MUST flee (James 4:7). By thinking and desiring the homosexuality, you are allowing that spirit into your thoughts. Shut those thoughts down! Every time evil, lustful thoughts pop up, rebuke them in the name of Jesus! You HAVE that power – so use it.

    5. Get help. Find a pastor or professional Christian counselor who can help you overcome these desires. There are many successful stories out there, and yours is just waiting to happen. Then you can help others in this!

    6. Find an accountability partner and use him/her. Call for prayer when you feel weak, continue to be honest with your partner so they can help. And realize that this is a process. It may happen overnight, and it might not.

    7. Use your Weapon – the Word of God. Start memorizing scriptures that will help you overcome such as Romans 8:37, Philippians 4:13, Philippians 1:6, James 4:7, Romans 8:1. Print out some of these scriptures and memorize them – then use them daily throughout the day. Especially at night as you are falling asleep. What better way to hit slumber land than with scriptures being quoted in your mind?

    Sister, don’t believe the lies of the devil anymore! You are saved through the blood of Jesus. All this talk of how good you are is just talk. None of us are good. Jesus is good and He paid the price for our sins. Realize that to become perfect in Christ will take a lifetime and it will only happen when we are finally with Him. However we are righteous, but only through His blood. I still consider myself a nincompoop – but He loves me and He loves my heart. I have a heart theat wants to please my God. I know I fail sometimes, but He is still with me. He knows my weakness.

    And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. (Philippians 1:6)

    I like to think the following thought when I struggle with a deep sin that doesn’t get conquered easily: God knew I would sin in this way before I even accepted Jesus as my Savior, and He still chose me! That means that He has faith in me to overcome this, and He is ready there to help me. He knows I will get through this because I am more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:37). He is my strength in my weakness. And God is your strength in this weakness. Turn to Him now. Don’t delay another day! You can overcome this, I have faith in you.

    God bless you with the Spirit of Wisdom and Revelation that you may get to know Him better!

    Write back if you still have questions or need help. We are here for you!

  • Eric and Shay says:

    I hope it’s okay that two people are asking a question… but I’m trying to be here with her through this. First, I’d like to ask my own question, cause I originally was going to do this alone… but I have a really personal question to ask you. My friend who is writing this with me… Well, I don’t even know where to start. But I’d just like to say how good of a person she is. She is so in love with our lord and savior, and has always strived to do what is right for him. People always said she was the example of what a christian should be. She always told others how they should wait till marriage, never do certain kinds of things with their lovers because even after marriage it wasn’t acceptable. She always put god first. A lot of people who didn’t believe in god before came to become so close with him because they were moved by her. A LOT of people call her an angel, and truly believe she was meant to be the way she is… She’s really nice and when people are cold to her, I never see her do it back. She never curses either. She does everything she can to please him. I saw her slip up once and say gods name in vain instead of gosh and she felt so terrible and apologized to him and stuff. Shes just, to me, such a good person… but here’s the thing… She messed up. There was a girl she became so close with and developed a soul-tie. Through their friendship, she was practically mentally abused by this girl and eventually felt pressured and confused into a romantic relationship with her. Now that she’s tried to break it off so many times and it didn’t happen, she feels so guilty. I know you might think, if she did that how good can she be… but the way she is now, she cries to god every night begging for his forgiveness, she watches 700 club and programs about god all the time. She doesnt agree with homosexuality and if people ask her if she agrees with it she says no it is wrong and it is against gods belief. She feels so terrible because shes lying and not telling people the truth because they keep this secret from everyone. She feels helpless because she says its an addiction shes trying so hard to find a break to but has failed so far. She knows in her heart that its wrong and swears to her lord every night that one day she IS going to break this off and get away from it forever. This isn’t what she wants. She wants to get a husband one day and have children and spread god throughout the world. She says she feels she truly has potential to be someone who does so much in gods name with the world. But it just makes me so scared and her too. Please, I know it isn’t any of our place to say who goes to hell excpet god, but I know you guys know a lot about the bible… Please Please help… If she were to die tomorrow, would she go to hell? If she hadn’t ended this yet, but loved god with all her heart, does she wind up in hell? We’ve been so scared because the turn of the year a lot of people say will be the rapture… and she’s so scared. She says some days she feels so sure that god would not send her to hell if she died right then, but then when she looks into the bible she begins to feel that maybe she would. I know this is wrong… I know you might think that she is wrong… but please be honest, from what you know, do you think this girl would go to hell if she died? She’s really innocent, shes 17 and yet she likes things like tinker bell and plays child games and plays with dolls and I know its so sinful for her to do what she’s done, but if all else, honestly tell me is it likely she’d go to hell? We have to know.

    We’re keeping our questions personal so I wont be reading what he said above, but I probably deserve none of the words he has said… Honestly I just break into tears. I feel like Im wrong for coming here to ask these questions because I should turn to god for the answers. I love my lord and savior and I want nothing more than to be a servant to him in my life… Im at a loss for words, Im sorry :'( but I thank you so much for taking the time to read this and help us… God bless.

  • admin says:

    Please Linn,

    I pray as I respond that our Lord will let you see that what I am saying is in love, and because I love you!

    I know you are hurting. I am struggling some pretty ugly things right now. Yesterday was my pitty potty day. I cried like a baby all morning because I felt so tired and overwhelmed by my circumstances. I have been feeling betrayed, let down, taken advantage of, and divided on my own household. I get a call from sister in the Lord, who I have grown to love dearly, and I hear about the awful attack her and her family are going through. I felt angry, but not with God. I’m not made that He is allowing us to go through this. He knows what’s He’s doing, why He allows us to go through somethingd that we go through. He’s God so I’m not going to question Him right now.

    Sister, in this world we are going to have trouble. Jesus told us this. BUT He also said, ” I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”

    He has overcome, so that means we have overcome. We WILL OVERCOME!! We need to not give up! We need to not quit!!! God has a plan and a purpose. I have thought about quitting this ministry because my life, with my 6 kids, business, marriage, and extended family can be so overwhelming and unmerciful. But I don’t and won’t because I trust God to bring me through all this. That’s what you have to do sister!

    We can’t sit around looking at all the bad things that happen to us, or all the things we don’t have. We have to look at the good and thank God for His blessings. He sees when people do evil against us. He is our redeemer and vindicator honey. Trust me He will not let the wicked go unpunished.

    Evil people will surely be punished, but the children of the godly will go free. – Proverbs 11:21

    These dreams you are having are meant to torment you! I know I have horrible dreams too sister. I cry and scream in my sleep too. I wake up my husband with my crying and screaming some times. You are not alone in your attacks. We are all going through.

    Snap out of it and don’t think of wanting to leave heaven before your time, least you give the devil his wish. He would love to take you out, becaause He knows God has a plan for you. God wants to use you, but you must suffer. In your suffering you will grow and be refined sister. You are going to come out shining from this furnance of oppression you are in. I promise. But you have got to hold on. Go to our FB page. there some verses and pictures posted there I think will speak to you.

    Hold on to Galatians 6:9

    Let me pray for you my friend:

    My Lord, Father God, Precious and Mighty Holy Spirit,

    I feel your presence as I type this. My fingers can’t even keep up. Precious Jesus you see the struggles my sisters and I have been facing. We are tired Lord. It can get so hard some times we just want to throw in the towel and say I’m done with all this mess. But I know you understand this, because you understand our weaknesses. You suffered much, and are our example. We can keep on going by the power of the Holy Spirit, through the grace of God. Thank you for this. Help us to receive your grace in our weakness. Help us to keep pressing on, in the face of this junk. We want to bring you glory. We want you to use our testimonies to help others. We trust you, even though we don’t like all of this. We trust you. We will still hope in you. Fill my sister with an extra portion of your grace anf increase her faith. Draw her to your Word. In Jesus name, Amen

    I want you to read 1 Peter 2. Especially focus on the part about suffering.

    You are going to be just fine sister. Don’t over mediate on them dreams.


    Trophy of Grace


    You write in WHENEVER you want. You can bombard us, just be sure your seeking God’s face first in His Word. He must be who you seek first. Love you.

  • Linn says:

    I also had a cousin that was murdered. I’m tired of people coming& going& hurting me& breaking my heart&God letting them get away with it like it’s nothing. I often ask God to send for me while I sleep. I hate this cold world we live in&I just want to go home( Heaven) …. If God gave me the choice to live or spend eternity in heaven,I would choose Heaven no questions asked….I want to go… besides,I miss my cousin…. at least I know in Heaven, I don’t have to worry about any type of pain….I just wish He’d take me

  • Linn says:

    Hi Miss Lisa,

    I apologize for blowing up your comments…. Really I am ….I just don’t know what to do. :( It’s about my ex And&My ex best friend that’s a guy…. You already know the story with my ex… but the weirdest thing is that the dreams that never seem to stop(of my ex) I started doing something I’ve never done…I would dream that I’m crying when in reality i AM actually crying.-tears&all. I’ve asked God to break this ” soul tie” that you say I have& I’m STILL hurting….I haven’t heard from him in 3 mo. He recently got in contact with me&i asked him why did he leave. He told me he was with somebody( which killed me even more)& that it wasn’t working. …. Now I’m still hurt. …..Crying&crying&crying…. I’m so tired Miss Lisa. I’m too tired…. of EVERYTHING going wrong. From losing my best friend of 3 years to his gf, to losing my other best friend of 7yrs to the World, to losing the love of my life& possibly loosing my grandmother to cancer. I don’t know what else to do. I’m crying as I type this comment. I’m so tired of everything going wrong. I’m tired of always doing right by people I love only for them to walk out of my life. I hate how these people can treat me like crap&hurt me beyond measure, then leave&live happily ever after while I’m stuck picking up the pieces….. Now I hate anything about being in love. I don’t want it anymore……I try to go to our Father in prayer, but I don’t even know what to ask for….. (Even More Tears&Pain)

  • admin says:

    Thank you so much for your prayers. They are surely on time.

    I just want to say, don’t focus on your heart or how you ‘feel’, walk in obedience and faith. The feelings will come and your heart will line up with mind.

    You have the mind of Christ and where you mind goes your heart will follow, eventually. Just keep doing what you KNOW is right.

    Love you sister.

  • admin says:

    Thank you for praying for my family :)

    You have to forgive your ex. Let it go. Leave him and the situation at God’s feet once and for all. Don’t think about it. Cast the thoughts away. Take them captive. When you see your mind is going there, stop it. You have control over your mind through the power of the Holy Spirit sister. (Zechariah 4:6)

  • Linn says:

    Sorry for the double post. I’m using my android.

    Sorry for the double post. I’m using my android :/

    Thank you so much for your encouraging words& through Christ Jesus for the much needed prayers. :) It’s ALWAYS good to know that someone is out there praying for us. :)

    I am sorry to hear about your loss& your recent trials. I have taken a moment to pray to our FATHER on you& your families behalf. I pray that He provides a blanket of comfort on you& your family& the protection from the enemy as he knows our weakenesses. Your a very strong woman, but mostly a strong woman that’s after Gods own heart, so I know you will pull through. :)

    I know I have a soul-tie to my ex and I’ve TRIED to break it. My heart just isn’t trying to move. But I do remember when The Word says the heart is deceitful above all thing’s who could know it.

    I know this tie has to be broken&I want it to be. It’s so bad that the sincerely good guys try to approach me&I shut them completely down. Lol. (Not that I’m looking, because I’m not) I just want to get rid of the bitterness because it’s trying to make me into A relationship-hating person that despises Love. I don’t hate my ex, I just hate what the loser done.

  • Linn says:

    Thank you so much for your encouraging words& through Christ Jesus for the much needed prayers. :) It’s ALWAYS good to know that someone is out there praying for us. :)

    I am sorry to hear about your loss& your recent trials. I have taken a moment to pray to our FATHER on you& your families behalf. I pray that He provides a blanket of comfort on you& your family& the protection from the enemy as he knows our weakenesses. Your a very strong woman, but mostly a strong woman that’s after Gods own heart, so I know you will pull through. :)

    I know I have a soul-tie to my ex and I’ve TRIED to break it. My heart just isn’t trying to move on or be healed. But I do remember when The Word says the heart is deceitful above allthings; who fo

  • admin says:

    Hello my friend,

    I’m a doing good today. I had a very difficult weekend. It was full of sickness and different test and opportunities for my patience to grow and I’m not too sure how I did. I have been thanking our God for His grace which has helped me endure and overcome my recent trials. We serve a loving God who’s mercies and compassions are new every morning. Thank God for that!

    I’m so glad your new job is going good! I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother. I know you want to see her healed. We must trust our Lord with however He chooses to heal her, whether it be here in this world or He takes her with Him will she will NEVER have to suffer again. He knows what is best for her and your family.

    I know she is the glue, but this is where you all have to pull together and let her see that she has done with all of you and that you all will be OK. She needs to heal and rest knowing that her family is covered by God and that you are going to pull together. So assure of this.

    Let me pray now for your family.

    My Lord,

    I come before you in Jesus name asking that you would pour out a miraculous amount of grace and peace on my sister’s family. I saw you do it in our family recently with the loss of our my little cousin. You proved yourself so real to my entire family. I thank you for that. I have never seen your grace empower someone the way I saw my aunt sustained by your power. I ask for that same strength and faith to rise up in this family. Let them trust in you. Let them hope in you. Let them believe in healing for their grandmother and be OK with however you choose to deliver her from this. No matter what we know that you will deliver her and comfort all of them. We trust Lord and we’re our faith is weak please help our unbelief.

    In Jesus name, Amen.

    I love you my friend. Even though we have never meet in person the love of God brings us close together. It is an honor and privilege to speak into your life.

    As far these dreams. Don’t put to much mind to them. You created a soul tie with this young man and it needs to be broken. Ask God to severe any connection in your heart to him. Remember that you have already received confirmation that He is not the one. Don’t turn back now. Don’t allow the dreams to weigh you down and confuse you. Stand by your decision and allow your strength to come from the Holy Spirit.

    Read 2 Corinthians 12:9 & stay connected to the Vine. He will sustain you. (John 15:4, John 15:8)



  • Linn says:

    Hi miss Lisa,

    Just wanted to touch basis with you& to see how your doing. :) The new job is great&I couldn’t ask for anything better. However…..

    Other things are not so easy to deal with… my Grandma is battling stage 4 lung cancer& the doctor wants to stop her chemo. These past few months have been very difficult to deal with. I know Our Father can perform miricals, but this is too much. I’m not so sure that He hears our prayers to keep my grandma alive. She is the glue that holds the family together.
    All I’m asking for is strength, patience, and a much needed miracle. Please everyone pray for my family&I. :(

    Also…….I keep having dreams about my ex. There’s times I feel like I hate him, then there’s times I miss him terribly. I’m used to getting over ex’s easily,but this one won’t go away. It’s been almost 8 mo. And I STILL cry. & the fact that I keep having these dreams does not help…. I don’t know what to do. I’m about to drive myself crazy&put myself in an early grave at 21.

  • admin says:

    I think your questions can be answered with some other articles we have already here. Follow these links and read some of our other posts. If you still need help right back in please.

    I have found some of the tools on Way of The Master’s site to be helpful. This link is to 100 answers to commonly asked questiosn asked and how to miniter to others. Hee’s also our ‘Witnessing To Others’ category.

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