The First Christmas Carol
December 3, 2014 – 9:09 am | No Comment

By Lynn Mosher
What is one of the best elements about Christmas, aside from the obvious of Jesus’ birth? The presents? The tree? The food? Nope! For me, it’s the music!
I love all the Christmas music. …

Read the full story »
Dating God’s Way

The decision to date should be by divine appointment, as we allow our heavenly Father to choose who will be spending this special time with His daughters. Learn how to let God make all the arrangements, so you can enjoy the blessings of being in His will!

Get Anonymous Advice NOW!

We’re here to give you advice based on the truth of God’s Word and our life experiences. Please feel free to ask any question you’d like. We want to serve you.

Meet the Women of WeUsed2bu

Collectively, we’ve lived through many of the same experiences that teenagers and young women may go through at some point in their own lives. Read our stories..

Recent Questions & Answers

Here you will find a list of all the questions we’ve received and their answers. May you be led to the article that will help minister to you in your own circumstances.

Tools 4 Building Your Faith

Power-up your walk with God as you read Christian living articles that inform, strengthen and inspire. Equip yourself with the truth of God’s word!

Home » Answered by Sweet Freedom, Feeling Shame/Guilt/Condemnation, Self destruction (cutting - eating disorders - low self-esteem)

Sometimes I Do Very Wrong And I Just Hate Myself For It

Submitted by on April 19, 2012 – 7:00 amNo Comment

Scratcher writes…

Sometimes I do something very wrong and I just hate myself for it and I want to get something sharp and scratch my skin really hard. I know it’s wrong but I just hate myself for doing these things wrong and it just makes me want to harm myself

Sweet Freedom replies…

Dear Scratcher,

For starters, will you please give yourself a new user name? :)

We all do things that we regret.  Everyone is a sinner.  Sin means simply “missing the mark”.  We all miss the mark from time to time.  I struggled with a “perfectionism spirit” for a good portion of my life. Being a perfectionist will rob your joy.  Being a perfectionist makes you self-focused. In order for Jesus to use you, and to flow through you, you need to become other-focused.

Hebrews 4:15-16 For we do not have a High Priest who is unable to understand and sympathize and have a shared feeling with our weaknesses and infirmities and liability to the assaults of temptation, but One Who has been temped in every respect as we are, yet without sinning.  Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy for our failures and find grace to help in good time for every need (appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it.)

1 Peter 5:7  Casting the whole of your care (all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all) on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully.

Psalm 55:22 Cast your burden on the Lord (releasing the weight of it) and He will sustain you; He will never allow the consistently righteous to be moved made to slip, fall, or fail.

graceTo be in right standing with God (forgiveness of sin) is what it means to be righteous.  And, every time a negative self-talk starts going off inside your head, you need to take authority over it through Christ, and say “yes, I know that I may have sinned, but I have been crucified with Christ and it is no longer I that lives, but it is Christ that lives through me.” (Galatians 2:20)

Please do a word study on this word grace.  You need to understand what grace means.  It’s not an easy word to understand.  Stop trying so hard.  Learn what the Jesus’ blood and resurrection life means to you, personally.  

Go to www.blueletterbible.org and put in the word GRACE, or go to http://www.blueletterbible.org/search/translationResults.cfm?Criteria=grace&t=KJV&sf=5

This is a really helpful tool.  But, the transformation and healing that you are seeking is found in the Word of God.  The Bible is your friend.  Your Bible is Spiritual Food.  Your Bible is the Word of God for you.  It’s your manual on how to be a Christian.  It’s your written inheritance.  It’s your guide and comforter.  Write down a few of these scriptures on notecards and carry them with you; say them and pray them,  so that you can fight off these negative thoughts.  You will be amazed at the transformation.  You will become the real you. 

Another book that I would recommend, (depending on your age), Grace for the Good Girl, Letting Go of the Try Hard Life, by Emily Freeman. 

Also, please check out these articles:

http://www.weusedtobeyou.com/category/common-subjects/self-destruction-cuttingeating-disorderssuicide/

God bless you,

Sweet Freedom

Leave a comment!

Add your comment below, or trackback from your own site. You can also subscribe to these comments via RSS.

Be nice. Keep it clean. Stay on topic. No spam.

You can use these tags:
<a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>

This is a Gravatar-enabled weblog. To get your own globally-recognized-avatar, please register at Gravatar.

CAPTCHA Image
*

  • brea olson xxx interracial
  • asian girl anal video
  • black guys fucking japanese women
  • mini shirts showing pussy
  • young teen girls breasts
  • gorgeous shemale has sex video
  • little girl video galleries
  • hardcore lesbian teen ass hole lick
  • kitty foxx pussy
  • Black strip club sex
  • free porn tube black girl revenge
  • shemale screws girl in ass
  • Italian teen fuck
  • group anal and dp sex videos
  • Sex xxxx porn
  • black girl webcam strip
  • mature amateur adult porn video
  • movies for young adults about friendhip
  • interracial mom sex
  • xxx webcam girls
  • asian muscle video
  • bikini bow girl
  • very young tai girls
  • naked asian girls pussy
  • blackbird bitch hip
  • free porn videos at porn
  • shemale fucking girl movie
  • movies appropriate for young ren
  • real homemade ebony videos free
  • tight sex fuck punk
  • leelee sobieski topless pics
  • high quality porn movies downloads
  • clitoral orgasm video collection
  • black afro tits video scenes
  • upload my porn video
  • yong lesbian teens stripping
  • lady sonya interracial porn
  • hard and deep anal movies
  • erotic interracial sex movie trailers
  • free old indian pussy pics
  • jenna jameson blowjob video
  • little girls naked movies
  • busty pornstar free sex video
  • very young boy and girls sex
  • free pics of puffie nipples
  • black men kissing white women pics
  • movies teens nude
  • guy suck spit in girl mouth
  • very young teen thai illegal
  • best women anal pornstars
  • drunk party first sex
  • teen sex image gallery
  • black cock only female pornstar
  • white man black girls oral sex
  • fuck depraved teen
  • sexy mature films
  • asian teen fucks her brother
  • Spy cam naked girl
  • asian girls first time anal
  • free perfict girl porn movis
  • Teens up the ass
  • ghetto ass anal
  • tila sex video
  • interracial women porn
  • Naked brown girls
  • young teens girl pain
  • xxx porn marie luv
  • india shamita pussy sucked
  • mmmf sex pics
  • amazing hot teen sluts porn videos
  • free galleries ebony
  • Falcon beach sex
  • black moon tits
  • chubby teen oral cum pics
  • bikini string up her ass porn
  • softcore porn movies watch
  • wives who fuck blacks
  • Older big ass
  • free girly gang bang videos
  • slutload young school girls
  • young litle girls fucked hard
  • girls on straight guy
  • Naked teens striping
  • ass fuck video
  • free rear entry sex videos
  • slutload big booty wet pussy
  • sexy emo girl solo
  • virgins losing it movies
  • hotwives and swingers
  • video on rolling black hair
  • naked video sex
  • european guys sex video
  • forced bi orgasm pictures and videos
  • whats a good porn movie
  • black makes pussy squirt
  • sexy girl and car wallpaper
  • hardcore heather videos
  • hardcore sex debbie toon
  • black round ass hoes fucking
  • Hot supermodels nude
  • Latina cum shot
  • free vntage mature movies
  • free hardcore teen fucking movies
  • erotic picture legs
  • transexual ass eating
  • eating wifes pussy orgasm
  • black eyed peas sexy mp
  • free pee porn streaming videos
  • girls in bikini porn videos
  • inch dick blowjob
  • lesbian mature mpegs
  • little japanese girl porn
  • teenage whores from japan
  • stories redhead blowjob pictures
  • classic girls black tall ugg boots
  • young and black porn
  • Teen amatuer nude
  • perteen nude modle girls
  • porn sharing wives
  • pussy bikini hot
  • Sex in car pictures
  • sexiest hottest chick busty babes porn
  • lydia girl nextdoor dirty wife facial
  • homemade female orgasm porn
  • Black oiled ass
  • sleeping sexy girls fucked
  • free sex video at prom
  • pictures of naked teen cheerleader girls
  • xxx tits video free
  • girls money fuck
  • All time best teen movies
  • pinky lesbians sex
  • black mature pussy
  • filipina teen blowjob
  • house mature vids
  • lindsay lohan lesbian sex
  • football lockerroom naked pics
  • blonde milfs gettin fucked pics
  • christine video amateur
  • mature female bodybuilders sexy
  • cartoon ebony porn
  • girl likes pussy
  • amateur black guy fucks my girl
  • bib nipple teen movies
  • naked teens with huge tis
  • videos of girls suckin dick
  • biggest ass gallery
  • free movies of male ass cane
  • bit dicks tight pussy videos
  • fingering girls anal amateur soroity
  • men who married young wives
  • local girls with big tits
  • halloween teen girl costumes
  • free amatuer nudist sex videos
  • Thumbs sex movies
  • bald korean pussy
  • ultra hot anal pics
  • james bond pussy galore sex scene
  • hardcore greek thumbnail galleries
  • movie sex in the city on
  • Sexy teen big tit
  • hardcore teen boys
  • facial pit and picture
  • amateur video porn
  • mia sara naked video
  • videos girls pissing
  • pictures of perky nipples
  • baby phat jeans in petite sizes
  • ebony strapon videos
  • beautiful teen blonde sex
  • jewish amateur sex
  • porn amatuer movies
  • new orleans marti gra pictures topless
  • anal eating porn
  • small ass anal movies
  • free anime sex video
  • spanking anal sex stories
  • cum in fat girls pussy videos
  • young nudism girls vidoes
  • sexy nude asian
  • young free porn gallerys
  • sexy ass mpegs
  • wife son fuck
  • mature handjob porn
  • erotic school girl
  • world sex ass
  • asian hariy pussy
  • favela group sex
  • angel teen blonde
  • sexy girl with tire
  • painting little black girls angels praying
  • red tube amateur female squirting videos
  • pictures of teenage girls wearing diapers
  • beautiful girl b cup boobs
  • blackstripper fuck collegegirls at party
  • Teenager sex slutload
  • Injection in ass video
  • high quality couples sex videos
  • free school girl porn videos
  • sebastian young on fire video
  • teen sex assault
  • neighbors bedroom sex window video
  • chrissy blooms pussy galleries
  • teen chicks masterbating
  • vigin young girl
  • sex videos freash
  • naked facebook pictures
  • shemale big cock cum shot movies
  • mulatto black girls with big bootys
  • topless model videos
  • in public hot boob video naked
  • tiny breasted young girls
  • black lesbian having sex
  • grannies young boys porn
  • japan schoolgirl pissing
  • mother licks teen pussy
  • nude girls oral sex
  • girls going deep throat
  • Fuck old pussy
  • Holly from girls next door nude
  • sex videos teaching
  • hot chinese girl strip sex
  • college girls have orgasm
  • hairy pussy updress
  • petite age sex videos
  • shit sex stoies lesbian
  • Hairy little pussy
  • youngs girls old men nude photos
  • alternative teen giving blowjob
  • animated sex blowjob
  • wife sex forums video
  • facial cumshot video compilations
  • sex sex sex free videos
  • dark bbs loitas sex pics
  • amateur wife handjob video
  • women petite nude
  • Teen group fucking
  • sex lessons videos porn
  • petite wool walker coat
  • girl rides hard porn
  • Nude indian television actress
  • mature big tit free sex movies
  • old woman young boy porn
  • blonde narsty lesbian anal strapon
  • party dresses for young girls
  • kerry marie anal sex
  • teen movies hardcore free
  • black couple fucking pics
  • big tits on black chicks
  • teenage girl strips on webcam nude
  • big tits hariy pussy
  • sexy school girl young
  • vids of willow s naked
  • teen porn babe videos lesbian leah
  • pussy tit powered by phpbb
  • girl asian pool swim
  • fucking sexy teen
  • black dominant shemale
  • orgasm contractions movies
  • sexy moms big butts
  • black teen white guy
  • blowjob nikki benz pornhub
  • free black teen pussy pics
  • do females like oral sex
  • tight teen amateur
  • nicki hunter measures pussy
  • young teen brunettes
  • Girls show pussy
  • lesbian schoolgirls shaved pussies
  • asian fisting videos
  • amateur free naked video
  • amturer porn movies
  • old men young girls sex tapes
  • flannel pajamas womens petite
  • mature blowjob mouthful video
  • Small tight tits
  • sexy mom licking daughters pussy
  • Wild girls fuck
  • petite thai girls
  • naked beer pong video
  • white and black lesbians
  • european teens having sex
  • little teen pussy video
  • school girls nude webcam
  • japanese teen attacked in pool
  • free xxx wide pussy videos
  • girls in locker room xxx redtube
  • yoga pussy girls poses
  • real az girls pics flashing
  • older white women young black guys
  • cam mature sex web
  • skimpy real worls girls pics
  • husband wife sex cartoons
  • anal massage masturbation video
  • Snake sex with girl
  • pics of pregnant petite women
  • black men white wife vid
  • best free young galleries
  • Teen film trixi fuck in public not so public but
  • monster black dick tubes
  • sarah louise young lesbian
  • porn videos free shemale
  • free mature teen lesbian movies
  • tiffany teen hardcore video fingering
  • athena massey pussy
  • Teen latin nude models
  • amateur or homemade video sex
  • video guide to sex
  • cartoon porn videos the simpsons
  • free sex in bars movies
  • ebony lesbian licking chocolate pussy
  • massy teen cumshots
  • young and fat girls nude
  • tight virgin pussy underground tube
  • Naked teens sleeping
  • female orgasm video sybian
  • sexy black booty
  • videos of young s making love
  • fuck mature movie
  • black girls gangbang orgasm
  • licks girl ass
  • anal asian porn sites
  • copy butt picture
  • young boy girl homemade free porn
  • giving themself a blowjob video
  • Aunties sex videos
  • black and white movie called kitty
  • erotic fairy sex video
  • Germany hot girls
  • Gitano sex scene
  • Malay girls sex video
  • blacks fuck blonde vid
  • free oral gangbang cumshot videos
  • young lesbian full length porn movies
  • full lenght shemale movies
  • Teen tits cunt video free
  • Licking black ass
  • mature busty sex tube
  • american idol star sex video
  • lesbians having orl sex
  • erotic stories breasts wife
  • pussy cunt fuck lesbians
  • porno amateur jovencitas
  • forced ass fuck gallery
  • very young girls open pussy photos
  • homemade adult porn videos napster
  • wife pussy thick head
  • hot lesbian girl makeout
  • Naked girls fucking videos
  • ashley tisdale porn video online
  • naked hot sexy brunettes
  • free black mom and daughter porn
  • cougars big butt video galleries
  • ebony shemale home videos
  • anal hardcore porn
  • brothel sex pics
  • cute young teen feet toes
  • amateur wives swallow videos
  • sex and the city movie bootleg
  • Thai teens videos
  • Kiss a girl skye
  • threesome women free video sex
  • young teen cumshot free tube
  • Pics naked chicks
  • amateur girl lesbians
  • asian girlfriend thumbs
  • hot teen asian porn
  • free hardcore bbw fucking videos
  • mpg teen galleries
  • amateur homemade bdsm pictures
  • lesbian seduction sex videos
  • teen fingering her pussy
  • Teen model non nude
  • real teens naked free
  • porn spank girl
  • free sex assault videos
  • puppy teen sex girls
  • How to have great oral sex
  • nude lesbian wife
  • videos beautiful mature women in stocking
  • play free sex video
  • Videos sexy teens
  • young teen ass licking
  • llb nice teen girl
  • Skinny waist big tits
  • water hose in girls ass
  • erotic asian breastfeeding videos
  • Sex male pics
  • teens anal from behind
  • naked girls held captive vids
  • free pic naked pool party
  • movie s girl sex
  • amature teens dancing on cam galleries
  • Ass cum filled
  • sex free videoes
  • public nudity video on demand
  • beauties porn stripping outdoor trailer
  • free sexy topless justine bateman videos
  • young girl saggy breasts
  • threesome video download