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The Dating Prayer

Submitted by on September 23, 2011 – 8:00 am15 Comments

Written by Missionista

There is a lot to say about dating and what this means for girls that try to follow God and what His will for their lives.

What I’d like to share here is that ‘Singleness’ is not a disease that needs to be cured, nor is it an in-between life phase that needs to be overcome as soon as possible. It is a blessing and a test. One to be enjoyed, used well and lived to the fullest.

With that in mind, I want to share a prayer that helps to put your focus on God instead of negative feelings that sometimes come with singleness, because there are definitely things that are not easy about ‘waiting’ and ‘being single’.

Whenever you get worried if you’re ‘ever’ going to meet ‘the one’ or you feel yourself not fully trusting God when it comes to meeting your life partner, saying this prayer out loud really helps:

bigstock_closeup_portrait_of_a_young_ca_13011998God is God and I am not


Lord, I KNOW you have someone prepared for me and I know that he is going to come in the perfect timing of your will.


I do NOT know how long it is that you want me to wait, what all the lessons are that you want me to learn before I meet him and what that is going to be like.



But I KNOW that you are God and I am not!



I know that YOU know what you are doing

that you love me

that you cherish me

that you have a plan for me

a purpose

a goal

a mission


and I know that this man is part of that… he is part of your greater plan


You have a purpose prepared for both of us to fulfill together



You have prepared me for this purpose and you have prepared him for this purpose… and when we come together we’ll spend the rest of our lives fulfilling our life’s purposes together. You have designed us uniquely to complement each other perfectly, even though we are far from perfect.



Help me to trust you Lord…

            give me faith…

                        give me perseverance…

                                    give me renewed joy and hope each day.



Help me to look at you and not my circumstances…

            help me to stay diligent in this time of preparation…

                        help me to stay focused on your purpose for my life.



Teach me the lessons you want me to learn along the way,

            help me to see and discover those and be open to them.



Do not let my pride, my arrogance, my worries or my selfishness hinder this preparation.


teach me, grow me, mold me, guide me!



I trust you with this part of my life, with every part of my life. I love you so SO much.                                                                                                                                         










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  • Thank you for coming to WeUsed2bu to seek counsel. As far as this ministry goes and our view on dating; many of the women of WeUsed2bu will agree that you do not have to go looking for Mr. Right or kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. Most of us believe that God will bring the right man He has for you into your life. He is the Master Match Maker.

    You are absolutely right there will be different views for dating. However you have already seen what the Word of God say about dating. Nothing, because dating is not found in the bible. In the biblical days parents arranged marriages for their children. I would say to you follow the example that is set for us in the bible, allow our Daddy, Father God, to arrange your marriage. Let Him find your husband. You don’t have to look for your husband by dating a bunch of guys, because the sweet Holy Spirit will lead you into all truth. He will introduce you to your husband and reveal him to you at the right time. Right now God wants your full attention, give it to Him by drawing close to Him in His Word, prayer, and in service to Him. (John 16:13, Matthew 6:33)

    Too many young Christian girls and women allow themselves to be so focused on finding Mr.Right or getting to know Mr.Right Now, that they don’t focus first on getting to know the One who gave up everything for them, Jesus Christ. That’s what I did; I allowed myself to be so distracted that I couldn’t even hear God so that I could get to know Him. I lost so much on that mission to find ‘the one’. I wasted so much precious time and allowed my heart to deceive me over and over again. As children of God we must allow ourselves to be lead by the Spirit of God not by our emotions or heart, and especially NOT by the world. (Romans 8:14, Jeremiah 17:9, Romans 12:2)

    Sweet heart, focus on your relationship with Christ Jesus. Allow yourself to fall so deep in love with Him, grow and mature in Him before you think of dating. You are just sixteen years old. You have your whole life ahead of you, you don’t have to worry at all about who you’re future husband is and how you will get to know him. Cast all of these cares on our Heavenly Father who knows best how He is going to arrange all of this. These cares are meant to distract you and lead you away from what God is trying to do in and through you right now, at this age.

    The time will come when our Beautiful Father will introduce you to the man He has for you and everything will fall into place, because you have allowed your heart to be guided by Him. In the mean time follow the example given in this prayer and surrender your singleness to God.

    I want to share with you some other articles that I think would really speak to you and give you great counsel and insight.

    First let me give you a link to our ‘Dating God’s Way’ category.

    Here are the articles I wanted to share with you from this category. Please read them and if you still have questions, feel free to write back.

    Waiting, Dating, & Mating

    Do You Have To Kiss A Lot Of Frogs To Meet Your Prince Charming

    Mission For Mr.Right

  • anonymous says:

    I\’m glad there are sites like this to get Christian advice. Dating to me can be really confusing, and it\’s even harder for me to figure it out since no one in the Bible dated. I don\’t know what the balance should be with dating. I\’m not a serious dater (I\’m 16) and I\’ve never had a dating relationship that lasted longer than one date (which, in my opinion, shouldn\’t even count as a relationship). I haven\’t had problems with dating yet, but I don\’t want to mess up and get hurt.
    I seem to be babbling. My main question is, how are we supposed to find the right guy if we never date anyone? I might meet him, but if I don\’t date him, how is marraige going to happen? Because I think it\’s wise to get to know someone well before marrying them.
    Again, I\’m not desperate to date, but I want to be prepared and need some advice. I get so many different views, all from strong Christian women, but some of them conflict. How am I supposed to know what to do about dating? I\’m so confused by a myriad of views, but since I like the rest of the advice on this site, I thought I\’d give you guys a shout out.

  • admin says:

    Sarah your thoughts were beautiful and will be shared on our home page. Thanks so much for sharing.

  • Sarah says:

    I’m 18yrs old, at college and trying to totally trust God with my future. I think it is really important to accept singleness as a realistic possibility for your life. There are so many girls clinging to the idea of their ‘future husbands’, It just seems like another way of pushing God from the top spot in their lives.
    John 6:35.Then Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.”
    God doesn’t want us to believe we cannot be happy or satisfied until we have husbands to love us, we should be totally satisfied in God as we are now, single! I find this incredibly hard! but it’s true, Psalm 23 tells us we are looked after by the Lord, we have all we need, he is our comfort and our strength. Looking to a married relationship as a place to gain comfort and strength is not looking to the Lord. Doesn’t God ask us to deny ourselves, take our cross and follow him, (matt 16:24) depending on an ideal of marriage is going to hinder your ability to serve, we must look above the needs we think we have, our wants and desires must be lain aside and we must raise our sights to his kingdom.

    I’m not saying anything you’ve said is wrong, I agree! but I wanted to share a few thoughts :) xx

  • Michal says:

    Alexandria: Exactly! You are totally right, girl– you are on the right track. Keep your eyes on God and in His perfect timing, God will have a young man appear in your life that will fall not only in love with you, but also with how much you love God.

    In the mean time: work on becoming the woman God wants you to be and ask yourself: Am I becoming the person that the person I’m looking for is looking for?

    Carissa; Thank you for your honest comment. I think it is wise that you are holding off with dating until you have reached an age where you know more what you want out of life. Don’t beat yourself up about liking boys… that’s normal and natural. It is not the attraction that is wrong, it is what you do with that. It is indeed important to keep your mind on God instead of obsessing over boys (and indeed, many young girls around us do this constantly). It’s important to know that what you resist, persists… so if you keep trying NOT to think about something, you actually WILL think about it. Instead, you should fill your mind with other things to replace the thoughts about things you are not yet ready for.

    What should we fill our minds with?

    “…whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable -if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things.” Phil 4:8

    I hope this helps!!! Blessings on you girls– I’m very proud of you!

  • Carissa says:

    Okay, I know this sounds kind of silly, but I’m 14 and Christian and having trouble keeping my eyes off guys at school. I really want to keep my eyes on God, an I’m trying not to date until college, but all I can think about lately is guys. And it doesn’t help that everybody around me is talking about guys and relationships and stuff… But I think that this prayer will help, and it’s SUCH a blessing! Thank you soooo much!

  • Alexandria says:

    This prayer was truly a blessing! For a while now I found myself going hard on what I believe is Gods purpose for my life then all of a sudden slowing down and wondering am I going about things wrong bc Im young,GODLY,educated…and single! but this prayer reminded me that God does not move according to my timeline but to HIS, and as long as the Father has a plan for me Im gonna just sit back and enjoy the “SINGLE” Ride :)!!

  • admin says:

    Mallory please follow this link to read the response Heart of Worship gave you on your comment under Seeking Advice that is connected to this comment here:

  • Mallory says:

    I have started dating again and I’m worried that dating is wrong. What do I do?

  • Michal says:

    Wow, Alicia– thank you so much for sharing that! That is amazing!!

    Your comment put a smile to my face!! I wrote this prayer when I was going through a dark time of doubts myself and it still helps me every time I am experiencing that sucky feeling you sometimes get from being single. It is every time when we take our eyes off of ourselves and onto God that we experience peace and joy returning to our hearts!

    It might help to print out the prayer and save it somewhere and pray it every time you feel like that again!

    Much Love,


  • Alicia says:

    This is perfect! I want to say thank you so much for writing this I read it at the most perfect time, which I think that it was in Gods planning for me to read this at this time, because lately I’ve been having a real hard time dealing with my singleness, I know that God has an amazing plan for me but it’s hard to always keep that in my mind, especially when at school seeing all the couples and just wishing and longing to have somebody by side and this prayer has everything that I need to to keep telling myself in it, it’s so perfect that I started crying from happiness and relief. This prayer made me feel A WHOLE LOT better and have me a lot of hope.

  • Amy says:

    Okay thats great! I was just wondering, because ive always wanted to eventually get married and have a family but sometimes our plans arent Gods plans, and then for God to one day tell me, my plan for you is that you stay single, would be a massive shock!
    but that verse answers that. so thanks! :)
    and i love this prayer i wrote it up on paper to stick on my wall! :)

  • Michal says:

    Hi Amy,

    Great question! I do not have all the answers and the Bible does not tell us how we might know an answer to this. But there are verses that say that God gives us the desires of our heart if we seek to obey Him (Psalm 37) and so if you have a desire or longing to one day get married, then it’s clear that that comes from God and you will not remain single. However, if you feel no desire at all for God to bring you a partner, it either may not be right timing and He might give you that desire later, or He might not give it at all. I cannot answer that, of course, only God can.

    What I’m trying to say with this prayer is that our focus should not be on whether or not we will remain single or not or for how long. What matters is that you follow God with all your heart and devote your life to fulfilling the purpose He has given you.

    Make God and the work He has for you to do on this earth your focus, not your dating status, and the right partner will come along at the right timing.

    God is in control and loves you more than you will ever be able to understand. Put your life in His hands and trust Him and you’ll be amazed!


  • admin says:

    This is something that you need to seriously pray about sister. The Spirit will always lead us into all Truth.

  • Amy says:

    thats Great thanks!!
    but just one question, how do we know if there is someone for us or if we have been given that gift of singleness?

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